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I was reading something on here and saw someone that was exactly my age into their very early 20’s and they were saying how the hate their job and how they’re just doing it because they want a family.
(That’s your personal choice ik but )

I’m sorry but does nobody think at all?
Do they just go around and follow what people tell them about how their life’s should be like and how things should unfold?
Like that is just so bland and boring.

That’s all people want to do with their one life that they have?

I’m sorry but that’s kind of sad and then these end up being the same people later into their 40-50’s who go and complain about how they never got to live their life in their 20’s because they had a family.

People are such drones .

Ik exactly what I’ll be doing with my money after university and that sure as hell won’t be what everyone else is doing.

Like does nobody want to explore the world, find themselves, see the beauty of the planet we’re on, meet new people , learn new things , have new memories and just enjoy it while you are here?

Like I mean seriously from ages 1-18 all our lives are just about family already if you think about it, and about school and just following a structure and you want to place yourself into another after ?

Nobody thinks and everyone is so boring, my goodness.

Hi everyone, I just woke up and I’m a bit freaked out because of how hyper-realistic this felt. It felt like actual real life, but more magical.
My family member passed away on July 1st, 2024 and his absolute favorite thing to do his entire life was play dominoes. Today is almost June 1st, so we are approaching the 2-year mark. I wasn't consciously thinking about him or my current life stressors before falling asleep, but I just had a vivid morning dream that mirrored my waking life exactly.
In the dream, we were floating in the air. There was a golden dominoes game lined up. The people playing against me are people I know in real life. In the dream, they hurried and rushed their moves. There was a golden line on top of one of the dominoes. I took my time, slowed down, and because of that, I strangely won. Right after, I was dancing with a black pug dog. Then, I heard a clear voice say: “I should’ve taken my time, I wasn’t prepared.”
Here is why this is freaking me out : In real life right now, those exact same people are all rushing into the same major situation that decides their future. I am the only one left who hasn't rushed in , exactly like in the game.
Looking at this strictly through a spiritual lens, was this a true soul visitation and a warning from him? Why would he use his favorite game to show me and this has never ever happened to me before , which is why I’m a bit freaked out right now .
How do you interpret the warning about taking my time vs. others rushing? Do you think he is actively protecting me from a mistake?

I was watching this movie and just a thought came to mind.
Why do people treat sex just so casually , there’s so much involved. Pregnancy, if you’re even ready to be a parent , how your own structure and readiness affects the child, finances , mental and physical health concerns , long term impacts on the body, lifestyle changes .

And so much more, they just treat it so casually,
And especially the ones who are having sex knowing they still live under their parents roof. Financially unstable , mental or physical health issues , still have some sort of trauma and don’t get me started on when those same people , have sex KNOWING their situation then act stupid when they get pregnant.

It’s like they treat it like it’s just something they can do just anytime , no matter if you’re broke or financially stable.

It’s always the ones who don’t think who do stuff , or who just think “ it won’t happen to me “

I’m honestly feeling so exhausted , just exhausted .

Of everything , people make life changing choices and very adult decisions then go and blame their own children and say how they wish someone else was this way or that a situation was different.

I can’t wait for the day I can move out of this city , far away from everyone so they can live with whatever life they wish they could’ve had .
I mean most of them have already lived their life’s and have maybe at most 50 more years till death Due to old age , focus on retirement and not redoing what you wish your 20’s were like.
Most of them don’t even realize that they’re so close to old age and that end of stage part of life , they hold onto what they think is so important ,how they wish their lives were , how much more materialistic things they wish they had , not satisfied with what they have.
You don’t take any of it with you when you die, stupid human.

There is such a misalignment between these people in their 50’s and their current priorities and focus.
I promise you, you won’t be doing whatever you’re doing rn forever and things will change, your older children will moveout and live their lives , people who you don’t like will move on with their lives and at the end of it all you’ll be left with, is just your consciousness, your thoughts and view of “ whats next” then when that midlife crisis due to mortality kicks in, maybe you’ll realize certain things aren’t as important as you think.

It’s so draining to be around resentful, bitter and ungrateful people .

Get me away from all of it , far far away.

I finally decided to speak to someone I thought was right for me , only to get a certain request or suggestion.

Can you guess what it was??
BINGO, they were asking me to come over to see them to have sex while also saying they told me they weren’t even sure that the relationship would go anywhere else past where it was , and how it’s too difficult right now.

It’s so weird how they made every excuse under the bus when it came to responsibility, reality and commitment but when it’s about sex???
Noooooo, all they want to do is have sex unprotected, have their little fun time with the thought of 0 consequences happening.
( I’m talking about this situation specifically)
It’s so irritating to me , because in my entire lifetime so far from what I’ve seen , people that had children super young , had them because of making dumbass decisions like this person was suggesting to me , or doing it just based on the want or need to without thinking of if the two people even love each other and would they even be prepared if something does happen.

So many of them are so god damn stupid , that’s why they end up having children they aren’t ready for , then go and cry and whine about how life is so difficult with kids later down the road and when they reach mid 50’s or older they complain how they didn’t live their life .

I swear , the more I communicate with people close to my age relationship wise. The more I believe it’s harder to find someone who doesn’t want kids and actually respects and loves someone for who they are not just their body .
Do these people even fucking think? They just DO and then when something happens then they want to start being fucking surprised .

It seems to me some of these people would rather want sex alone , intimacy without commitment and the don’t take into consideration if they even are ready for kids or if they don’t want kids and it’s so annoying.
More I communicate with them and others.

The more it gives me reason to not want children, because it doesn’t seem like some of them are smart enough to make rational decisions , it’s all just about a quick dopamine hit and a quick feel good moment for them.
The reason I just gave up on this situation is because I’m not boo-boo the fool, I know exactly where this will end up if an accident did happen.

In my lifetime I’ve seen it all.

Men getting their girlfriends pregnant by accident then marrying them only to divorce and then the mother becoming resentful.

Men having multiple children with different partners and creating multiple unstable homes.

Men getting their fiancé pregnant then cutting off the wedding and leaving them with the child.

Men having multiple children with their girlfriend , quickly marrying them and being stuck in a life they don’t want .

Young person going through teen pregnancy and having their entire life be just the role of “ mother” and then they never get to live.

Young people going through teen pregnancy and being ditched by her boyfriend to only have her take care of the kid alone and bearing the responsibility.

I’ve seen so much situations , I am not stupid and I know exactly how some of them operate.
They show it immediately, gaslighting you, pressuring you then when consequences come on they run like cowards .

I don’t care how pretty you think I am, You are not about to fuck my life up. stay the f!ck away from me.

Don’t try me because I am not the one.

I hate spoiled people my age who get everything spoon fed to them, everything paid for , never had to work a day in their life for years or deal with complicated family dynamics . Who have it on easy mode , play house constantly with their boyfriend while running on their mothers dime and then constantly bring me down because I didn’t do something that they did first, or that they think I have the same spoon feeding life or reality that they do, they walk around with their heads held high like they’re some sort of princess . And that everything in the world will workout for them constantly , because they’ve never had to step foot into the real world without someone stepping in to financially shield them from every single fucking thing.

I hate these kind of women, and being around them is so annoying , I never say anything bad about them then they go and talk behind my back or make passive aggressive comments to me as if they know what I deal with or my personal life .

Theyre so annoying and they can only act arrogant and cocky towards me because they’re constantly financially shielded and they have this Princess complex ( Women version of Peter Pan syndrome
)

And it’s such a drag , I honestly cannot wait for the day that some people step into the real world without being shielded from the consequences of their past actions or have been sheltered growing up.
🙂🙃
Bullying others is not cool and I don’t understand why people love to focus so badly on others or what they didn’t do or what they should’ve done and blah blah blah . When the people judging have 0 inside Info of the truth or what people go through.

I can’t wait for the future , when we’ll really see who is all bark and no bite , and who will still be in their childhood bedroom , not grown up and still a big bully loser .
🙃🙃

I won’t list everything for obvious reasons but I’ve looked back at my own life from childhood till now , and I’m realizing why I did the things I did , why I couldn’t function normally , why I used to repeat grades , fail, not function correctly . Because I dealt with so many things at such a young age lots of trauma combined into such a specific time frame , I’m so messed up mentally now .
Fuck
My
Life.

Why the fuck don’t adults pay more fucking attention to why their children behave the way they do, they obviously learned that from somewhere or obviously something happened to them .

I can’t sleep, I feel so just .
Baffled by my entire life , so much pain, trauma , hurt , heartbreak, loss , chaos.

It’s such a mess ,
Im starting to realize more and more , no matter how much money someone has, or what they have .

What you experience from young age to early adulthood stays with you for the rest of your life and can fuck you up and simple things like having mentally and financially stable parents who actually planned to have you and who lived their lives fully before having you, and being put into a stable household from birth, can do so much more for the growing brain , mentally , physically , emotionally and for development.

My life was completely not normal and looking back I can see why I am the way I am right now, I hate it .

Everything hurts sometimes , I can’t think straight sometimes , I’m so messed up mentally .
Why couldn’t I be someone else ?…

So much pain.

Honestly ,
If you have children knowing you’re not financially stable , you still have lots of trauma , explode in outburst over small things , can’t control your emotions , can barely take care of yourself or handle basic finances , barely lived your life and you have children out of just wanting to have sexual interaction with someone else and make a “ oopsie”.

Behold my post (I’m not a parent but this is a warning still)
, a big giant warning sign of what happens to your children earlier and later in life when you go into parenthood unprepared mentally,financially,emotionally and you’re traumatized still as well and already in an unpredictable environment.

You create nothing but an entire world of pain, hurt and later mental and physical problems , torment and trauma for your own child.

PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF EVERYTHING , DONT HAVE CHILDREN UR NOT MENTALLY,FINANCIALLY AND EMOTIONALLY READY FOR AND IF YOU NEVER LIVED YOUR LIFE , AND IF YOU CAN BARELY AFFORD WHAT YOU ALREADY HAVE AND IF YOU STILL HAVE TRAUMA OR IF YOU VIEW HAVING A CHILD AS A WAY TO “ FIX YOUR OWN CHILDHOOD OR FILL A EMPTY SPACE IN YOUR LIFE”. (DO NOT HAVE KIDS , YOU’RE JUST GONNA CAUSE THEM MORE PAIN)
DONT HAVE MULTIPLE KIDS WITH DIFFERENT PARTNERS ON TOP OF IT , PLEASE IM BEGGING YOU WHOEVER IS READING THIS ITS NOT FUN BEING ON THE OTHER END OF MULTIPLE PEOPLE’S PAST DECISIONS THAT I HAD NO SAY OVER .

I have my good and bad days don’t get me wrong , BUT the fact I even sat and wrote this should show you that, I’m not always in this headspace but .

Still I mean it .

Don’t make stupid life altering decisions .