u/DowntownDiver202

I will tell you the biggest reason why people are not getting married nowadays and find it so difficult to find partners. First of all always remember this

1. Compatibility doesn't equate to happiness. The so-called compatibility among two people has nothing to do with developing charm and attraction amongst each other. The rules of physics don't apply in love and love is without logic. I'm not saying not having is bad on the contrary it is good sometimes. Sometimes the opposites attract sometimes similar attract, something opposites hate each other sometimes similar hate each other. So there is no straight jacket formula in attraction and without attraction a relationship cannot survive. So stop trying to find a compatible person just check your inner vibes, your gut feeling, your instinct etc

2. Too much communication is a relationship killer. If both the partners know almost everything about each other, the element of surprise and novelty is gone. The partners who demand too much involvement without independence finally suffer themselves and make their partner suffer as well. Not everything is needed to be revealed instantly. Let things take their time, what's the use of rushing things.

3. Finally and most importantly why you can't seem to find a good partner (especially for girls to some extent boys as well ) - Suppose you want to buy a car and your budget is 30 lakhs, which is quite decent and comfortable for you. You visit different showrooms everyday - Tata, Mahindra, Hyundai, Audi, BMW, Mercedes, Porsche, GM even contact Ferrari, Konnigseng, Aston Martin etc but you don't like any models they have to offer. Finally the salesman asks, " What are your requirements?". You think for a while and answer:

"I want a car with an

Refined engine of Porsche

Shock absorbers of Ford

Chassis of BMW

Body of a Mercedes

Gearbox of an Audi

Reliability of a Maruti

Mileage of a Hyundai

Service like a Mahindra

Tail lights of a Konnigseng

Bumper of a Ferrari and

Tyres of an Aston Martin"

The salesman looks at you for 6 minutes straight and files for a resignation, leaves, never comes back

Having choices and requirements is good. But for the above description Car you will have to own 11 cars of respective company which someone with a 30 lakh budget cannot afford and it is not feasible too, then dismantle them and somehow try to fuse them into the Car of your requirement. Even that won't be possible because the grooves won't match, the car will never run.

If you would have just walked in and selected a Car for its utility, you won't have to walk in the rains. Sure your Car won't drift like a Porsche or run a drag like a Mustang but atleast it would be reliable, will save you money and won't have to take your car to pit stop every other day for change of tyres and servicing.

So focus on good things a person in front of you is offering you as a partner. No one person can give you everything nor you can give him or her everything like one Car cannot be used in every situation. Focus on positivity and the positivity grows. Focus on lackings and the lackings grows. We all have one life and visiting car showrooms everyday is no fun.

I will tell you the biggest reason why people are not getting married nowadays and find it so difficult to find partners. First of all always remember this

1. Compatibility doesn't equate to happiness. The so-called compatibility among two people has nothing to do with developing charm and attraction amongst each other. The rules of physics don't apply in love and love is without logic. I'm not saying not having is bad on the contrary it is good sometimes. Sometimes the opposites attract sometimes similar attract, something opposites hate each other sometimes similar hate each other. So there is no straight jacket formula in attraction and without attraction a relationship cannot survive. So stop trying to find a compatible person just check your inner vibes, your gut feeling, your instinct etc

2. Too much communication is a relationship killer. If both the partners know almost everything about each other, the element of surprise and novelty is gone. The partners who demand too much involvement without independence finally suffer themselves and make their partner suffer as well. Not everything is needed to be revealed instantly. Let things take their time, what's the use of rushing things.

3. Finally and most importantly why you can't seem to find a good partner (especially for girls to some extent boys as well ) - Suppose you want to buy a car and your budget is 30 lakhs, which is quite decent and comfortable for you. You visit different showrooms everyday - Tata, Mahindra, Hyundai, Audi, BMW, Mercedes, Porsche, GM even contact Ferrari, Konnigseng, Aston Martin etc but you don't like any models they have to offer. Finally the salesman asks, " What are your requirements?". You think for a while and answer:

"I want a car with an

Refined engine of Porsche

Shock absorbers of Ford

Chassis of BMW

Body of a Mercedes

Gearbox of an Audi

Reliability of a Maruti

Mileage of a Hyundai

Service like a Mahindra

Tail lights of a Konnigseng

Bumper of a Ferrari and

Tyres of an Aston Martin"

The salesman looks at you for 6 minutes straight and files for a resignation, leaves, never comes back

Having choices and requirements is good. But for the above description Car you will have to own 11 cars of respective company, dismantle them and somehow try to fuse them into the Car of your requirement. Even that won't be possible because the grooves won't match, the car will never run.

If you would have just walked in and selected a Car for its utility, you won't have to walk in the rains. Sure your Car won't drift like a Porsche or run a drag like a Mustang but atleast it would be reliable, will save you money and won't have to take your car to pit stop every other day for change of tyres and servicing.

So focus on good things a person in front of you is offering you as a partner. No one person can give you everything nor you can give him or her everything like one Car cannot be used in every situation. Focus on positivity and the positivity grows. Focus on lackings and the lackings grows. We all have one life and visiting car showrooms everyday is no fun.

I will tell you the biggest reason why people are not getting married nowadays and find it so difficult to find partners. First of all always remember this

1. Compatibility doesn't equate to happiness. The so-called compatibility among two people has nothing to do with developing charm and attraction amongst each other. The rules of physics don't apply in love and love is without logic. I'm not saying not having is bad on the contrary it is good sometimes. Sometimes the opposites attract sometimes similar attract, something opposites hate each other sometimes similar hate each other. So there is no straight jacket formula in attraction and without attraction a relationship cannot survive. So stop trying to find a compatible person just check your inner vibes, your gut feeling, your instinct etc

2. Too much communication is a relationship killer. If both the partners know almost everything about each other, the element of surprise and novelty is gone. The partners who demand too much involvement without independence finally suffer themselves and make their partner suffer as well. Not everything is needed to be revealed instantly. Let things take their time, what's the use of rushing things.

3. Finally and most importantly why you can't seem to find a good partner (especially for girls to some extent boys as well ) - Suppose you want to buy a car and your budget is 30 lakhs, which is quite decent and comfortable for you. You visit different showrooms everyday - Tata, Mahindra, Hyundai, Audi, BMW, Mercedes, Porsche, GM even contact Ferrari, Konnigseng, Aston Martin etc but you don't like any models they have to offer. Finally the salesman asks, " What are your requirements?". You think for a while and answer:

"I want a car with an

Refined engine of Porsche

Shock absorbers of Ford

Chassis of BMW

Body of a Mercedes

Gearbox of an Audi

Reliability of a Maruti

Mileage of a Hyundai

Service like a Mahindra

Tail lights of a Konnigseng

Bumper of a Ferrari and

Tyres of an Aston Martin"

The salesman looks at you for 6 minutes straight and files for a resignation, leaves, never comes back

Having choices and requirements is good. But for the above description Car you will have to own 11 cars of respective company, (30 lakhs budget won't be sufficient for such high end cars ) dismantle them and somehow try to fuse them into the Car of your requirement. Even that won't be possible because the grooves won't match, the car will never run.

If you would have just walked in and selected a Car for its utility, you won't have to walk in the rains. Sure your Car won't drift like a Porsche or run a drag like a Mustang but atleast it would be reliable, will save you money and won't have to take your car to pit stop every other day for change of tyres and servicing.

So focus on good things a person in front of you is offering you as a partner. No one person can give you everything nor you can give him or her everything like one Car cannot be used in every situation. Focus on positivity and the positivity grows. Focus on lackings and the lackings grows. We all have one life and visiting car showrooms everyday is no fun.

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While starting to search for marriage do girls or their families whoever has final call, have specific criteria with regard to a groom and his family or are they just shooting arrows in the dark to see if it hits?

And if yes, what basic criteria or absolutely must have traits you look for in a prospect? Especially those who are aiming at an arranged marriage setup ?

For example: How must be his Nature? What assets he must own? What bad habits he shouldn't have etc

[ With reference to dating, relationships, marriage etc ]Is everything in this world about looks, finances, fun, pleasure, selfishness, ego, assets, fame, greed, hatred with a motive to extract revenge from a person who hurt you (ex), or does simple pure unconditional love expecting nothing in return still exist in the world in 2026? Do you know anyone around you who has experienced it ?