u/Dr-Helios

I just discovered that my ex is being harassed by someone using my name and possibly image. Most likely using social media. My ex and I had a good relationship. There was an age difference and I was hesitant to start a relationship with her. She was the one who made the move. And I started to fall for her. I did learn about her genuinely and we met at work during the pandemic. Her 21 and I 29 at the time. Please I am aware of the difference so I was really hesitant. We started off as friends and we grew closer. We eventually started dating. But after a year and 9 months she dumped me. Life got more difficult. She was working 2 jobs and was going to school with some family issues. And I was dealing with depression and not doing right by myself and working a job that made it worse. I wasn’t making the best decisions.

Ultimately she was so burnt out from life that she was the strong one and ended the relationship. I respect her decision and admire her strength to this day. It was really hard since I saw myself marrying her and being a good man for her. But I wasn’t being a good man to myself. We ended amicably and I truly wish for her success and happiness even if isn’t with me. But I won’t lie a small part still had hope. We genuinely did love each other. But recently I discovered that my sister in law was contacted by her tell her that I have been harassing her and her friends and a cousin in a different country. This came as a shock since I went no contact with her shortly after she ended the relationship. I unfollowed her on instagram for my mental wellbeing. Also my therapist advised me to. After the break up I went to the gym and went to therapy to help heal myself. I discovered some insecurities and traumas. And with the help of friends and family I healed. I moved to L.A. from NY to get a fresh start. I left my job that I felt trapped in and went back to school. And meeting so many good people. I work with sick people and it’s helped me strengthen my empathy.

I truly healed and evolved to be a good man and keep doing the work to be a good man for myself and someone. So to hear that she’s being abused by someone using my name breaks my heart all over again. I don’t have her number or any way of contacting her. But I believe I shouldn’t do anything since I believe it’ll make things worse. I don’t know how long it’s been going on. It sounds like it’s only been recently. I don’t know if it’s an old friend of hers or someone who knows her and wants revenge. I don’t know. She has been through so much and it hurts so much knowing I can’t do anything. It’s been close to two years since I last saw her and I did lover her dearly and part of me still does. According to my sister in law she texted that if I don’t stop she will go to the authorities. I have been living in L.A. for almost 4 months. And I’ve had no contact. I can prove it my innocence. This sounds like it’s been happening for maybe 2 weeks as of now. My sister told me to not do anything and let it sort itself out. And to unfollow anyone who’s connected to her. I follow her brother’s business and her brother in law. Not anymore

I have been genuinely happy and at peace for a year. This won’t stop me from living but it hurts knowing she’s hurting from someone who’s making me look like a monster to her. And I know she has had monsters in her life. And to know she may see me as one hurts. I never mistreated her or yelled at her. I admit that was my first serious relationship so I messed up on occasion but I tried to be better. My problem was not communicating my fears and insecurities and I tried to solve them myself without letting her in. A major regret I have. But I learned from it now. I wish her success and a happy life however that looks like. She deserves so much and she deserves peace. Thank you for reading. I just feel sad, angry, heartbroken, rage, and a bit stuck.

I want to contact her to clear my name and tell her whoever is doing this isn’t me. But I’m being advised by many to ignore it. So I don’t make things worse and it’s also possible that whoever is doing this could be expecting me to make contact.

After a few days I realize I still love her dearly. But I’m living a new life in a new city with a cool fun life. I just feel so indecisive and anxious. I was told the anxiety is from being so far away and not being able to do anything. I hate that some ruined a connection her and I had.

About two years ago my ex dumped me. Life got too much for both of us. She was going to school full time she had two jobs and was dealing with family issues. And I was dealing with depression and financial issues along with fears and insecurities. I didn’t deal with them properly so after almost two years dating she ended. It was painful but I understood her decision. I hugged her tightly and wished for the best. She told me maybe we can try again. I was devastated because out of all the girls I ever was with she was the love of my life. I knew I wanted her to be my wife after a month of dating. She was a genuine good person. After the break up I did all I could to heal. I got sober, therapy, gym, clean eating, went back to school for a better career, and eventually left my job that made me depressed. I went no contact with her and unfollowed her on instagram because I would torture myself.

I eventually healed and became genuinely happy and at peace. I learned to help people and be a good man. Someone strong, smart with love and faith in myself. With cool new hobbies like photography, DJing, rock climbing, pottery, fitness and the list grows. All this with the help and generosity of people. I gained confidence and would ask girls out. Rejected and went on a few dates but she was always in the back of my mind. I realize I became someone I was proud of and someone she could be proud of. I temporarily moved to L.A. for new experiences. And discovered through someone that my ex is being stalked, terrorized, and harassed online by someone pretending to be me. She sent a message to that person telling them to tell me to leave her and her family alone and if not she’ll call the authorities. I’m heart broken again. I realize that I wanted for her to see what a good man I became because of her help and faith she had in me. I still love her deeply and from what I’ve gathered and learned it’s possible someone she knows like a friend is doing this to her.

I’ve been advised to not contact because it can make everything worse. And or possibly be anticipated by the person for this cruel behavior. I want to tell her it’s not me. It’s making me cry knowing I maybe a monster in her eyes. And what’s worse is she grew up with an abusive monster. I hated her dad. And I always made sure I treated her heart with the most care. But now someone turned me into a monster. And all the cherished memories are possibly tarnished. I finally became a better version who’s still grows only for someone to steal a connection.

I just discovered that my ex is being harassed by someone using my name and possibly image. Most likely using social media. My ex and I had a good relationship. There was an age difference and I was hesitant to start a relationship with her. She was the one who made the move. And I started to fall for her. I did learn about her genuinely and we met at work during the pandemic. Her 21 and I 29 at the time. Please I am aware of the difference so I was really hesitant. We started off as friends and we grew closer. We eventually started dating. But after a year and 9 months she dumped me. Life got more difficult. She was working 2 jobs and was going to school with some family issues. And I was dealing with depression and not doing right by myself and working a job that made it worse. I wasn’t making the best decisions.

Ultimately she was so burnt out from life that she was the strong one and ended the relationship. I respect her decision and admire her strength to this day. It was really hard since I saw myself marrying her and being a good man for her. But I wasn’t being a good man to myself. We ended amicably and I truly wish for her success and happiness even if isn’t with me. But I won’t lie a small part still had hope. We genuinely did love each other. But recently I discovered that my sister in law was contacted by her tell her that I have been harassing her and her friends and a cousin in a different country. This came as a shock since I went no contact with her shortly after she ended the relationship. I unfollowed her on instagram for my mental wellbeing. Also my therapist advised me to. After the break up I went to the gym and went to therapy to help heal myself. I discovered some insecurities and traumas. And with the help of friends and family I healed. I moved to L.A. from NY to get a fresh start. I left my job that I felt trapped in and went back to school. And meeting so many good people. I work with sick people and it’s helped me strengthen my empathy.

I truly healed and evolved to be a good man and keep doing the work to be a good man for myself and someone. So to hear that she’s being abused by someone using my name breaks my heart all over again. I don’t have her number or any way of contacting her. But I believe I shouldn’t do anything since I believe it’ll make things worse. I don’t know how long it’s been going on. It sounds like it’s only been recently. I don’t know if it’s an old friend of hers or someone who knows her and wants revenge. I don’t know. She has been through so much and it hurts so much knowing I can’t do anything. It’s been close to two years since I last saw her and I did lover her dearly and part of me still does. According to my sister in law she texted that if I don’t stop she will go to the authorities. I have been living in L.A. for almost 4 months. And I’ve had no contact. I can prove it my innocence. This sounds like it’s been happening for maybe 2 weeks as of now. My sister told me to not do anything and let it sort itself out. And to unfollow anyone who’s connected to her. I follow her brother’s business and her brother in law.

I have been genuinely happy and at peace for a year. This won’t stop me from living but it hurts knowing she’s hurting from someone who’s making me look like a monster to her. And I know she has had monsters in her life. And to know she may see me as one hurts. I never mistreated her or yelled at her. I admit that was my first serious relationship so I messed up on occasion but I tried to be better. My problem was not communicating my fears and insecurities and I tried to solve them myself without letting her in. A major regret I have. But I learned from it now. I wish her success and a happy life however that looks like. She deserves so much and she deserves peace. Thank you for reading. I just feel sad, angry, heartbroken, rage, and a bit stuck.