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So, my question is this: I am in contact with an SP (not my desired one, but someone I like).

In the beginning, he was very hot with me (“good morning” texts, setting up dates etc) but I kept him at arms length for about 2 month because I was not sure about my feelings for him.

Ofcourse now he is acting hot and cold. Not texting first for days, no more good morning texts, but very loving in person and replies to my messages within 24 hours (except for last weekend, it took 3 days to reply grrrrr).

Unfortunately due to his work, he doesn’t have much time for me. He is also a single dad.

I have started really working on my self concept & am now confused. My old identity was an enormous chaser and anxious mess. No text = he is in love with someone else.

I am trying to embody my new identity, but I have a hard time dealing with this SP on a practical level. I mean, day to day stuff.

Do I just completely ignore him and his texts/dates he plans until he fully conforms? This way, I embody my new self, even though it is giving me major anxiety and the old thoughts keep coming up (”should I text first? maybe he thinks I’m mad or something”).

Or, if I claim to have a high self concept, should I tell him “I want more consistency, I am feeling ….” so that way I am embodying my new identity?

How do you deal with this stuff on a day to day basis?

Edit: for example, his last text was on Sunday, this was 3 days ago. Should I ask for another date, ignore him?

TLDR; if an SP shows up unfavorable, do we ignore + affirm or do we state our new identity boundaries?

Thanks everyone

So, my question is this: I am in contact with an SP (not my desired one, but someone I like).

In the beginning, he was very hot with me (“good morning” texts, setting up dates etc) but I kept him at arms length for about 2 month because I was not sure about my feelings for him.

Ofcourse now he is acting hot and cold. Not texting first for days, no more good morning texts, but very loving in person and replies to my messages within 24 hours (except for last weekend, it took 3 days to reply grrrrr).

Unfortunately due to his work, he doesn’t have much time for me. He is also a single dad.

I have started really working on my self concept & am now confused. My old identity was an enormous chaser and anxious mess. No text = he is in love with someone else.

I am trying to embody my new identity, but I have a hard time dealing with this SP on a practical level. I mean, day to day stuff.

Do I just completely ignore him and his texts/dates he plans until he fully conforms? This way, I embody my new self, even though it is giving me major anxiety and the old thoughts keep coming up (”should I text first? maybe he thinks I’m mad or something”).

Or, if I claim to have a high self concept, should I tell him “I want more consistency, I am feeling ….” so that way I am embodying my new identity?

How do you deal with this stuff on a day to day basis?

Edit: for example, his last text was on Sunday, this was 3 days ago. Should I ask for another date, ignore him?

Thanks everyone

Hi fellow conscious creators,

I have been reading Neville since discovering The Law back in December ‘25. Reddit has been a great help as well. I fully believe in it’s (my) workings and have read many succes stories.

I haven’t manifested anything yet. First, I was all about the techniques and tried literally everything. Then, I discovered Erik and I Am (Brittany) and “just decided”.

After that, I still didn’t manifest anything.

I started to read & learn more and discovered the importance of “feeling it normal“ and occupying the state of “already being it”.

I meditate daily and affirm when a negative thought comes up, but still.. nothing. I feel good knowing it is possible to change the future & I am more positive overall, but I don’t know how. I was fired, spent 3 months in the hospital (am now wheelchair bound) and lost my SP (no contact for 5+ months).

Now after many inner workings and meditations and talks with my manifestation friend, I believe the issue must be my self concept, even though I decided it is perfect.

I scripted that all my subconscious assumptions are benefiting me, but I don’t know what’s wrong with my self concept. I always feel beautiful, attractive and sexy, without a doubt. When I look in the mirror, I am obsessed with myself and am calm and confident. I feel everyone loves me and supports me.

But after almost 8 months of manifesting, something should have come into the 3d, right?

Does anyone know how I can finally figure out what is wrong with my self concept? Maybe some things I can ponder upon or a workbook or something? Otherwise I will be stuck in this forever..

Anyone else following the free 3 day manifestation live stream by Mindvalley thats happening right now?

Wanna discus?