u/DreamKind8036

How to put myself out there to find love ?

I have been a really shy and anxious person who had limited to no interaction with men for the larger part of life , never had close male friends or anything

I get anxious alot talking to men and it's related to my upbringing

Been through a toxic marriage and now I am about to turn 30s in one month

How to go out there and seek love without being desperate? Is it too delulu to think about this in my 30s?

Is it fantasy to think that i can find love ?

I am turning 30 and I feel so overwhelmed staying with my parents

I communicated to them and they are alright with me wanting to live alone

I don't know how to start with everything and i doubt myself if I will be able to handle everything

I question myself how safe it is for a woman to stay alone ?

And how much money should already be sorted for me ? I want to experience my own space and life and build my own identity, after getting separated from a toxic marriage, I need to discover myself again

Right now I feel like an extension of my family and i know it's a blessing to have loving and caring parents but if not now then when will i learn ?

A larger part of my 20s was lost in pleasing people. Now I want to live for myself

Should I take up a room near by my parents home?

Or should I try to change the state within India ?

Or work on trying to migrate to another country?

After going through an arranged marriage toxic shit and finally getting separated, I am wondering right now in my late 20s , how does someone naturally find someone to settle down with ?

Arranged marriage setup is too diplomatic and the apps cannot be trusted

So how ?