u/Dreamer5787

Since I remember myself astronomy and physics been my obsession.

Like I would as a kid spend hours watching space videos, reading, jumping on people who work in astronomy with TONS of questions...

I've been thinking about astrophysics research but I don't really know if the job itself is actually what i'm looking for.

From y'all experience - how would you describe a person that's truly "meant for the job"?

(perhaps a collegaue having the time of their life or anyone you know)

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I've really been onto science recently and got really passionate about it. Like REALLYYY passionate

Wanted you guys to share some success in your career and tell me what did you discover

So unfortantly I grew up in some insane cult where they don't teach you anything non-religious, including math.

Just left the cult a few months ago (currently 19)

My actual passion is science and specific astrophysics, a career which lives on math daily.

I'm a very intelligent person and a very good student, I just really have zero knowledge about math

Any online course / youtube channel for people without learning disabillities teaching everything from the beginning?

Hey everyone!

I'm going onto selection in about 6 months.

I'd say my mentality is fine but there are areas who I need to improve.

I've managed to build mentality of "always doing the task", I can survive even a week of brutal hell.

But the thing is sometimes its very hard for me to actually PUT GOOD WORK

Surviving a physical challenge is one thing but actually trying to actively win and give everything is another.

How do I improve my "Fighter" mentality and be more resistant to pain / fatigue?

Since I remember myself I've been really interested in science, of many kinds, and especially astronomy.

As a kid I would watch and learn for hours about the topic and I was truly fascinated, and really had the urge to find answers to humanity biggest questions.

The thing is, I'm also a very adventuroes guy.

I don't know if the actual job is mainly doing boring stuff somehow research related for the whole day, and not really feeling excited about the job.

What is the actual daily job and how do I know if it's actually for me?

I'm going onto the military soon, my main goal is to hopefully pass selection and be a few years in SF.

The thing is, my real dream since childhood was to become an astronaut.

Should I try instead to become a fighter pilot for a better chance to be an astronaut?

Does being a pilot raise youe chances of getting accepted?

19M here, I meet my friends once-twice a week and most of the time it's chatting via Instagram, flirting with girls, feeling somewhat more social while using the app

Thing is I'm really a hard working guy, going onto special forces selection in a few months, and I really love outgoing. I wouldn't call myself a normal "phone addict"

But the question is how do I build a real life social circle when everyone are mainly using them apps?

I want to share my story—how I overcame severe social anxiety, a video game addiction, and became a super outgoing person, an athlete, someone who loves pushing through the hardest workouts, and someone who no longer lets other people's opinions control his life.

I used to suffer from severe social anxiety. I couldn't talk to people. I couldn't make eye contact. I always felt awkward, fragile, like everyone saw me as naive and pathetic. I always wanted to make friends and talk to girls, but it all felt completely impossible.

Then last year, when I turned 18, something in my mindset suddenly changed. Every birthday felt like a slap in the face. Time was flying by, yet I was still suffering and hadn't built the life I wanted.

Then I stepped back and asked myself one simple question: "What does someone who wants to connect with people actually have to do?" "Talk to people." "And if someone is afraid to talk to people, how are they ever going to build friendships?" "The universe isn't going to feel sorry for them. They simply won't have friends."

That's when I realized something. The universe doesn't care how much you're suffering. It cares whether you do what needs to be done.

I realized that if I wanted to build relationships and create the life I wanted, I had to act even while I was afraid—because nobody was coming to save me.

So I made a decision. I decided to go all in. To burn through every fear I had. Every single day I chased fear on purpose. I wrote the number 5 on my phone and promised myself I wouldn't go to sleep until I had faced five different fears.

Then I discovered something incredible: I could act despite my thoughts. The story in my head had never been true. After just a few months of consistently facing my fears, I changed dramatically. The people around me noticed it almost immediately.

And here's the crazy part: The fears never actually got smaller. It didn't become "less scary." I just stopped running away and started chasing fear instead.

I grew up in a very strict religious community—almost like a cult—with rigid rules that were never meant to be questioned. I had always wanted to leave, but I was terrified of taking that step. Once again, I decided to fight for the life I deserved. I left that community despite all the sacrifices it required.

I started training harder than I ever thought possible to earn a place in an elite military unit. I wanted proof that I was no longer the kid addicted to video games. I wanted to live.

There was a time when I couldn't even imagine training alongside hundreds of people—let alone leading them.

I started creating content online, posting the videos I actually wanted to make, and finally doing all the things I had dreamed about for years.

The people who know me today describe me as driven, fearless, and charismatic. If you told them that I used to be a kid addicted to video games, too scared to leave the house, embarrassed by every person on the planet... ...they probably wouldn't believe you.

To everyone reading this, I want you to know something. You are capable of becoming the person you want to be.

Nothing is truly stopping you.

Chase your mental limits.

Look for opportunities to break them every single day.

Talk to the girl you've been afraid to approach.

Live as if you're already the person you want to become— because deep down, that's who you really are.

My parents were never mature enough to have children. All they ever cared about was themselves and their own problems, and they never stepped out of their comfort zone for us. It felt like they were part of the “children” themselves — helpless and miserable — and if something was difficult for them, then don’t expect them to overcome it for your sake, because they were so “pitiful” themselves.

(For example, when I was 5 years old I went to treatment for coordination problems, and the treatments stopped because “she forgot to come.” She constantly blamed me for not reminding her, and only today do I realize I was fucking 5 years old.)

My father doesn’t deal with any problem in the house. He severely neglects himself hygienically, and if something breaks he does nothing and expects me to take care of it, as if I raised him.

He never talks to us about “real” things and feels completely emotionally disconnected, like he never actually thinks about us. He’s not interested in what’s happening with me, what I want, what my ambitions are — only technical yes-or-no type questions.

When I went through social abuse in the institution I studied in, they were completely unaware of anything. And it’s not like I hid it — I desperately wanted to tell someone, for someone to care about me. But when I talked to my father, he would only talk to me about politics and neighbor-type conversations, and never once cared about what was happening to me.

My mother herself was extremely paranoid and mentally unstable. She had many superstitious beliefs and slept on a sheet on the floor. She refused to use my father’s money because he was supposedly “a sorcerer,” and we grew up wearing clothes that were several sizes too small because nobody bothered to buy us proper things.

She would listen to my problems, give emotional support, and be very supportive — but if something emotionally triggered her fears even a little, she would become a controlling person who suddenly cared about nothing else and would burn everything down for her fears.

(To the point where she ran away from home, cut contact, and went to live alone — after my sister spent years trying to help her, and after she promised my sister she would go to therapy. My sister dropped out of high school because of her, and then she simply abandoned her. Just like that.)

I feel like I grew up without parents. I became very independent, but I have no figure in my life I can turn to for emotional support, guidance, or even to teach me basic things like hygiene and what you’re even supposed to do in life. As a child I could wear the same clothes for two weeks straight simply because nobody was willing to deal with my hygiene.

It’s a fucked-up reality where I feel like there’s nowhere to run and no person who truly took care of me. I raised myself.

I’m 19 years old and I feel like I have to live completely alone, without any figure to guide me.