u/Driftinfoot_Malone

So recenly my wife and I had been on a downward slope of toxicity. Long story short I recorded an argument we had she went to grab my hat in the video (after that she actually did grab the hat) there was a lot of words passed that should not have been said in front of our 1 year old as well as the action of grabbing and pulling my hat. So I took my son outside and we called the nonemergency number. We waited for the officer I knew she wouldn’t get in trouble because the video showed no act of real violence the cop even told both of us this and said she’d have been arrested if she had touched my hat. We then argued and she took my son because I had to leave and had nowhere to take him. I spent the weekend at a friends house and things seem to have calmed down I guess it’s a two for one. Was me calling the cops moral and was me coming back the smart move.

Recently ran into this issue where my father in law (m60) pulled my daughters (f4) hair because she hurt her cousin (f also 4) the same way. I already knew this is what happened he’s pretty old school so I came in with a cover “oh grandpa maybe took it without asking but it was cousins turn” to which his reply was “no I was teaching her a lesson because she pulled her cousins hair” I was in shock because he said this in front of both kids as if it was normal to hurt a child to “prove a point” or “teach a lesson” so all I had to say was “good lesson”.

So I’m 30 about to be 31 and I’ve listened to Oliver since alien boys drop… I guess I just never realized how his music actually helped me out through the hardships I was facing during the time… I didn’t have anywhere this was to go other than learning more about him then just his music after really makes me see the similarities we had and makes me for the first time terrified of mortality…

I was close to the edge of the abyss when I noticed a light enriching this everlasting void. As I got closer this light got warmer and more intense, and as I stand next to it I realize, it’s you… it’s always been you every moment of drowning, grasping at air, that sudden feeling of falling backwards out of your control was all lifted and taken away every time by you and your love… the strange things is it was there even before I met you but it was always still you even when we thought it wasn’t this comfort this warmth this everlasting light that is so intense sometimes I can’t even keep my eyes open… was always you.