u/Dry-Tradition-448

I have a problem with impulse buying which I’m 90% sure (and my therapist believes as well) is related to ADHD. so I unsubscribed from all marketing emails and texts and I deleted all my cc info from online shopping sites.

Now I’m realizing that my dopamine or whatever is suffering because now I’m struggling not to open one of my many puzzle games on my phone (they can suck me in for hours and I usually do them while listening to an audiobook). I’m at work so obviously can’t be messing around with games! But without the dopamine rush of knowing a package is coming for me in the mail, I feel like I’m desperately searching for a “fix”

I need to FOCUS and be productive but my brain is just refusing to cooperate. :( Ideas?

I have a problem with impulse buying which I’m 90% sure (and my therapist believes as well) is related to ADHD. so I unsubscribed from all marketing emails and texts and I deleted all my cc info from online shopping sites.

Now I’m realizing that my dopamine or whatever is suffering because now I’m struggling not to open one of my many puzzle games on my phone (they can suck me in for hours and I usually do them while listening to an audiobook). I’m at work so obviously can’t be messing around with games! But without the dopamine rush of knowing a package is coming for me in the mail, I feel like I’m desperately searching for a “fix”

I need to FOCUS and be productive but my brain is just refusing to cooperate. :( Ideas?

I (F33) have had two significant romantic attachments in my life. The first I met when I was 24 and he was 25. We were both broke and reeling from separate traumatic backgrounds. We clung to each other to survive and hurt each other a lot in the process. After 6 years and a lot of water under the bridge I ultimately decided to leave him. The primary reason was his alcoholism but there were layers of bad history as well. Shortly after, I (F30) fell deeply passionately in love with someone (M45) in a way I never felt possible to feel. Every cell in my body loved this man and when things went horrifically south it was the worst pain I have ever felt. I was close to him for less than a year but I felt more alive than I ever had before. I fundamentally changed from experiencing that. But the pain of it all crashing around me nearly destroyed me. Two years later I have survived and I have created a new life for myself.

My first love has turned his life around. He’s sober and steady and still in love with me. Do I go back to him, the safe and consistent person? Or do I hold out for that kind of passionate all encompassing kind of love from someone else, choosing to stay single if it never finds me?