u/Due-Car4730

Hello!! My partner has been pescatarian for about a year for health reasons. We have been together for 8 years and before I would cook for him a lot.

I am a pretty picky eater, I have my meals I like and rotate. I would often branch out with new flavors with him, while keeping the protein something “safe” to me. That being said, I do not think I have *ever* eaten any fish. I know. I’m autistic and really struggle in the food realm.

Since he has been pescatarian, I have not cooked for him much besides a snack or dessert. I would love to present him a beautiful dinner that he will throughly enjoy.

I’m pretty scared of cooking fish though.

What’s an amazing dish that would be practical for a beginner with food aversion? I have cooked salmon and shrimp before. I feel like salmon is a bit too everyday. He is eating various different fish and always trying something new. He has no fear in the food department and wants to taste and try everything. Always picks a new meal, never repeats. I want to blow him away with a dish while still being in my realm of comfort. :)

Thanks in advance!

*Trigger warning SA*

Hello all, I mostly just wanted a safe space to vent after something happening tonight.

A few years ago I was assaulted while heavily drunk, in my own bed. The person was a beloved member of the community and my friend group. He was also married and his wife was pregnant. He did not rape me or anything absolutely horrific but I was touched and uncomfortable with it.

I initially told people. Pretty much everyone who knows the guy, kinda… blew it off? “Oh that’s just how he acts”, “it was probably a joke”, or “you were both drunk, maybe you came onto him?” I honestly don’t remember the situation too well so I let it go. However I was also in a committed relationship, and not attracted to this guy in the slightest, actually having a secret distain for him…

Anyways a few years go by and I grew more & more disgusting with the situation. I eventually started talking about it again and got a lot of “but why are you bringing it up now?”

I got angry eventually, that everyone had to question me instead of maybe.. checking if I was alright? Comforting me? Cut him off? Then I found out a decent old friend of mine was leading the charge of I was downright lying about the entire situation.

It’s so ironic because online this girl acts like the ultimate feminist, ally, liberal or whatever. Behind the scenes she’s texting everyone I know calling me a vile, disgusting woman for lying and trying to ruin a man’s reputation. She has never even heard the story from my side, or asked me about it in any way.

I asked her to stop talking to me about a year ago. I don’t have social media anymore but I do have a very locked down Facebook for Marketplace only with no friends, and using an alias, and tonight she sent me a friend request.

Honestly the whole thing just has me sick to my stomach and I can’t sleep. I didn’t add back or send a message or block. I just left it as is, I figured silence will be the most disappointing to her. If I give her any reaction she wins.

But it doesn’t mean I don’t feel anxious now :/ I’ve always found it hard to have relationships with other women for reasons like this. I’ve had multiple girl friends sleep with my boyfriends at the time too. I’m not giving up on female relationships, but dang. Some girls are really just playing for the wrong team it seems :(

Edit to add: I’m not even trying to bring him down. I obviously didn’t press charges, I didn’t tell his wife, I wish people would cut him off but I’ve accepted they won’t. I mostly wish they’d stop bringing him up around me because it makes my nervous system a wreck every time :(

Hello all, 28f here. My husband is 29m.

When we first got together my husband drank alcohol a lot. When we would have sex it was pretty standard lengths of time or even on the longer side.

3 years ago he got sober and our sex life totally changed. He would finish from grinding, light touches, etc.

He’s great and always makes sure to pleasure me first. Whether that be hands or toys, he pretty much always gets me off first. I love foreplay and sensory and sensations and want to spoil him with pleasure as well.

Almost everything is just very over stimulating to him though he says. It feels good, just overwhelming. I have tried being very slow and gentle, edging encouragement, etc.

TMI: When he does penetrate me, we have kinda learned a way to make it last longer and more enjoyable for us both. He will put it in, and I will kinda flex on it, which makes him twitch, which kinda makes me do it more. There’s not really a lot of in and out thrusting lol. It does feel nice, and I enjoy it. Sometimes I just miss the thrusting and different positions.

When he does thrust he finishes quickly, 15 secs or so, sometimes he continues or doesn’t exactly tell me but it doesn’t feel quite right to me at that point and definitely won’t get me off :/

Any way to help with the stimulation? He has tried SSRI’s and that didn’t help. I feel weird mentioning like, viagra to him or something.