u/DumbEnbyOnReddit

i (18f) cannot fucking handle the shit i’m getting from my family anymore. i’ve always been a lesbian, i came out very young, i met my gf (21mtf) a few months ago and ever since then i just can’t cope with it anymore. from being called a fake lesbian, told she isn’t “trans enough”, being told i might as well just “go straight” to being told im probably not attracted to her and im just compromising, everything along those lines, i just can’t deal with it. it’s gotten to the point where im miserable and considering leaving and dating a cis girl who i know i wouldn’t as love as much just so i can keep my family members without being interrogated every other conversation. im so tired, i just wish people would leave both of us alone

(ignore the flair it wouldn’t let me post) i’m 18, i’m dating a trans woman. i’ve only ever dated cis women in the past, and i figured now would be the best time to explore my identity etc etc, i know im a lesbian, i have no interest in a husband/boyfriend, my gf is very feminine and honestly i forget she’s amab sometimes. i tried to explain to my family that yes im still a lesbian, yes she has a dick, yes we sleep together, that (imo) doesn’t make me less gay/idrc if they want to call me bi since i don’t consider bisexuality to be an insult. however an older lesbian family member very aggressively told me that if i was willing to put up with a dick i might as well just be straight and i didn’t deserve to call myself a lesbian, which just kinda bugged me. i don’t exactly prefer being with someone amab, i don’t see myself dating another amab person if the two of us ever break up but i do love my gf and im just tired of my identity being invalidated bc of that, honestly i might just “come out” as bisexual to get them to leave me alone

I really don’t know how to explain this and i might just be crazy but being poked/injected with needles is so calming to me. things like vaccinations or blood tests are always kinda ASMR-y to me, reminds me of those head massager things