u/Economy-Hold1

Anyone got approved for I-751 in a LAT marriage. (Blended family and space issues; living apart would work best for us but concern)

I don’t feel like going anywhere, don’t wanna even do anything just wanna be in bed. My husband completely changed after marriage. Takes all my paycheck and gambles. When I try to set boundaries he screams shouts I have severe anxiety so I give in. I feel ashamed how weak I am. I wanna kill myself of how weak I am. I also have two stepkids it’s extremely hard with blended families. They are abusive towards my cats and it’s hard to have boundary even with that cause I can’t say anything I am the stepmom. He job hops and he is full of shit. All I just wanna do pack my bag and leave but I am stuck because of immigration. My home country is a 3rd world country and it was very hard to come here . I got two masters degree and had an amazing job offer but he proposed cuz he cannot move due to his kids. He was a hard working person I thought I am so lucky. But within couple months he changed and I feel like I ruined my life. Is death better? That’s what it feels like.

My stepkids has constantly been rough with the cats. I tried many ways to teach them nothing works. My stepdaughter (age 6) forcefully took my cat to her room to sleep with her and my cat escaped running to my bedroom the moment she went to bathroom hid under the bed whole night I woke up in the morning and checked and there’s puke all over him. At this point I get extreme anxiety when my stepchildren come over. My husband thinks I don’t know she took the cat to her bedroom I am really tired of this

My husband constantly budgets and says it’s our money. I don’t have any children he has two how that even equal? We are married and everyone around me says the same thing. Worst thing he doesn’t even can keep a full job constantly job hopping and I am the primary provider

I have slowly grown a lot of anger towards my husband. He is a lazy bum and completely changed after our marriage. He is also now fighting for more custody time approximately full 5days a week. We ususally have them 4.5 days a week and that’s a lot and I am struggling. I have been nacho from the very beginning not that I don’t like the kids or anything but it was a weird gut feeling. Can’t really explain. Because of my husbands behavior it’s hard for me to love tbh at this point even tolerating my stepkids. My husband was a complete different person before the marriage. I don’t even recognize him anymore. But I guess my behavior changed and I nachoed even more, not helping with pretty much everything. Since you want your kid all the time so much you do it . That’s what my mindset shifted. But now from his family the words coming that I gotten myself into it and I should be more involved.

Trust me I really did not know what I was getting myself into. I thought I was marrying a kind hard working man but now I see he is just lazy bum wanna mooch of others and just have control over kids time against his ex. I really didn’t know anything. I am feeling very upset and depressed.