u/Ecstatic-Baker-7855

I \[20f\] and my boyfriend \[22\] have been together for about 1 1/2 years and at first we'd have sex around 4 times a week, sometimes more than once a day if i was lucky. but after a few months his low libido became much more apparent. sex wasn't great at first anyways, but a sexless relationship was not in the cards for me so i've made it obvious that's a problem for me.

so he started trying harder to please me when we do have sex, about once or twice a week, and immediately got really good at it, so obviously i'm gonna want it more now (great). but, half the time he's says "i'm not in the mood right now" or "not today" and rejects me 100% of the time when i try to initiate, which of course recks my self esteem because who wants to be constantly rejected by their bf.

I \[20f\] and my boyfriend \[22\] have been together for about 1 1/2 years and at first we'd have sex around 4 times a week, sometimes more than once a day if i was lucky. but after a few months his low libido became much more apparent. sex wasn't great at first anyways, but a sexless relationship was not in the cards for me so i've made it obvious that's a problem for me.

so he started trying harder to please me when we do have sex, about once or twice a week, and immediately got really good at it, so obviously i'm gonna want it more now (great). but, half the time he's says "i'm not in the mood right now" or "not today" and rejects me 100% of the time when i try to initiate, which of course recks my self esteem because who wants to be constantly rejected by their bf.

I [20f] and my boyfriend [22m] have been together for about 1 1/2 years and at first we'd have sex around 4 times a week, sometimes more than once a day if i was lucky. but after a few months his low libido became much more apparent. sex wasn't great at first anyways, but a sexless relationship was not in the cards for me so i've made it obvious that's a problem for me.

so he started trying harder to please me when we do have sex, about once or twice a week, and immediately got really good at it, so obviously i'm gonna want it more now (great). but, half the time he's says "i'm not in the mood right now" or "not today" and rejects me 100% of the time when i try to initiate, which of course recks my self esteem because who wants to be constantly rejected by their bf.

he's tried taking supplements to fix his low libido but it's definitely not working and im at my wits end on how to cope with this. i feel like if i wasn't constantly rejected, i wouldn't constantly want more from him. i just haven't felt wanted by him consistently in so long.

our relationship besides sex is pretty mellow and boring. he hates the movies and basically any "fun" activities that aren't grocery shopping or napping.

honestly, if i knew this was how our relationship was gonna be, i would have ended it way sooner so not to fall so in love and reliant on him, feeling trapped in a way. ik im young i just don't want to lose someone who truly loves me just because i can't keep my pants on.

is my mindset on this okay? if i talk to him about this it becomes an argument because i "can't take no for an answer", but all i ever get are no's.