Frum women silencing other women
There's a Facebook group I'm in called Jewish women talk about intimacy. I've talked about it here. At this point in my life, it's mildly entertaining but often times validates why I left.
Some poor woman posted the other day that she has suffered infertility, miscarriages, and a stillborn, and that she and her husband "crossed the line" (she didn't say what that meant; but that they missed each other and wanted to connect) while she was a niddah after her recent loss. Most everyone was supportive, telling her to be gentle on herself, that she shouldn't feel guilty, etc. Somebody commented that this was exactly what is wrong with the niddah laws, the mental damage done in a situation where the entire rest of the world would seek comfort from their spouse, but you can't even touch. A wholllllllle bunch of women either liked that comment or supported it with their own comments, they were all agreeing. Someone even said this is why people go OTD, because of this bullshit created by rabbis. Lots of comments like that.
Well! The admin, Chana Carlebach, promoter of this "awesome mitzvah" and "hashem knows what's best for us", wasn't having any of it. She came and said that this is all against halacha and tried to shut it down. Then she deleted that one girl's comment and all.the ones that followed, basically sanitizing the comment thread. Then she made her own separate post essentially saying this is a safe space for women and their beliefs basically as long as you don't contradict Torah. As long as you dont contradict her Chabad version of Torah. Feel bad for anyone who is her kallah student.
The only thing worse than rabbis oppressing women, is women oppressing women.