u/Effective-Cry-1342

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"Ermmmm it's not your culture"

Current discourse is going around saying "hapas/mixed asians aren't Asian, shouldn't call themselves Asian, Asian culture is not their culture and they'll never understand us Asians with our PURE BLOODED Asian experiences." The people who say that shit are almost always these pan-asianist diaspora Asians who ironically have this crazy western 'purist' idea of race unlike mainlanders who usually do not GAF as long as you pass as Asian or share their culture/language.

Their cortisol is spiked by Hapas because they're an Asian who has western ideas about race. They're insanely anal and gatekeepy over the idea of Asian/Asian culture because they're insecure about their own relationship with their cultures back home.

I am 1/2 Malay and was raised in Malay culture (practicing Muslim, eating and cooking the food, speaking the language, etc.) I love being Malay and I love Malaysians and if I could be 100% I would. I am Malay before I'm half Asian, and I think these diasporas are in for a rude awakening when they visit Asia and realise most mainlander Asians care more about culture and nationality than this unifying 'Asian-ness'. As if someone from the Philippines and someone from Mongolia could hold hands and talk about their shared 'Asian Experience' which would logically stop the Thailand-Cambodia conflict and Koreans' racism towards SEA because "we're all the same race, damn it!! Why are we fighting??"

I understand these Asians' reservations about Hapas/Wasians from WMAF. I know that their worldview originates from experiences with racism, but I am Asian passing and I experience racism too, and you seriously have me fucked up if you think I'm going to listen to race-obsessed Timmy from the Bay Area telling me that I have no right to call myself Malay or identify with my culture because of some arbitrary percentage in my DNA

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u/Effective-Cry-1342 — 7 days ago

2 Questions- How to reconcile my socialist-aligned beliefs with my democratic beliefs? And what are socialists' views on egoism?

I'm very socialist sympathetic but at this point pretty uninformed, there are two things I am slightly caught up in:

1, I'm currently studying intros to political science and am very strong on democracy because I believe it's the core function of a government to represent the population. On the other hand, I understand that democracy is a pretty major obstacle between present and future socialist systems. Eg. Some people genuinely believe to their core that socialism is this evil satanic anti-human system (to the extent where nothing can change their minds) and they will vote against it (as within their right). I don't really know what to do here, then.

2, I lean towards egoism because I believe most people are self interested by nature. I think it's necessary for people (in order to grow) to overcome their innate tendencies as human beings (tribalism, selfishness, aggression, etc.) And collectivist cultures facilitate this, but in the case of individualist cultures I can't really see how the 'incentive' question can be answered? I don't really know how the average MAGA libertarian would be convinced into doing anything for the greater good/satisfied with stable conditions as an equal to their community. Eg. Anyone reading this has probably seen that empathy heat map. Is it ok if I get a bit of help in understanding your views in this particular area?

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u/Effective-Cry-1342 — 8 days ago

Played comp, a spiderman and mk were obviously queued together. The banning phase started and some guy (lord invisigal) got spiderman banned so the spiderman and his friend hopped on voice chat with -wallahi- one of the ugliest voices I've ever heard in my life, berated him, and then counter banned invisigal to 'teach him a lesson' which is the most retarded thing I've seen thus far in this game. Then, even afterwards they were still mad and started saying shit like "oh you banned my main why did you ban my main". The dude apologised to them and said he wasn't sure how the banning system worked.

Throughout the game these brickheaded cunts just shat on him basically, he wasn't even doing badly but they kept hounding him for having a slightly lower KDA to the point where he just (I believe) started throwing in the third round which TBH these dudes were so fucking annoying I would have done it too.

As a result, we went 5-6. They whined about it as if it wasn't fully their fault, plus they literally could not survive more than four seconds without getting healbotted by BOTH of us supports to the point where they would just straight up die the microsecond I started reloading and they were left with one. The whole game I was basically solo-ing the whole other team over and over because they needed constant babysitting or else they'd instantly die. I ask in the chat "can you guys stick by me?" The MK gets on the mic and goes "ermmm you're not the only one getting targeted lil bro" like first off, you actual sped monkey, maybe if you stuck by me you wouldn't feel like you're getting targeted. Second off, if you do die it is legitimately inconsequential because all you've done this match is die every time you aren't being coddled by supports.

By the way, me and the other support HARD carried that game and it's not even close

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u/Effective-Cry-1342 — 16 days ago

I got my hair straightened (japanese straightening) which is essentially a perm, so I know bleaching is completely off the table. I was thinking of dyeing it regardless with semi-permanent (which I heard is ok?) but the issue is that my hair is pretty dark. Is it even worth trying? And if so, what colours would reasonably show up on my hair? Thank you in advance

u/Effective-Cry-1342 — 19 days ago