Hi! i would like to interact with kittens / cat before i make a commitment. Seems like only these two organisations have interactions with cats before you decide to make life time commitment? anything else or any comments?
cat lovers please chime in!
I am so sick of parents in my country trying to up one another in gifting for teachers.
It all starts with - oh but I just wanna show appreciation to teachers.
Then the one up starts - let’s do gifts but my school is more premium so I can’t give just 10 dollars gift. Or the teachers really did so much for my kid so I got to spend more.
Then the kids sense it and then they pressure their own parents to buy
Other parents sense it and afraid their kid will feel left out.
Business sense this and make money out of it by advertising their stuff for Teacher’s Day.
And then instead just that teacher that teaches your kid, everyone wants to gift all teachers and then give that one teacher a bigger gift.
Omg.
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Sometimes i think parents wants to hasten the death of the planet.
Ok, how are you making singapore or the world (if you can aim even bigger) a better place for your children?
PS: I am not asking about how I / you as parents can make your child a better person for the world - so no, not asking about making sure our children don't grow up into one of those obnoxious kids that pushes in trains or blast music in public buses, or go catch all the marine life in our local beach.
I am wondering - like how do we ensure that the systems or environment here in Singapore are such that our average child can actually genuinely thrive in? [I mean of course if your child is genius level, PSLE 4D going to R schools and be scholars and then Minister of Culture and will later amass all the huge properties / assets or inherit your GCB then maybe you aren't my target audience)
I feel like if every parent mix-max and optimise everything, the future "average" generation is just going to get nothing. like cut down all of Maju forest or clear all land to built condos and BTO, or ramp up on tuition to ensure our child do well in PSLE - that's just an arms race that does nothing for our children as a whole.
I mean - I signed the Maju forest petition, I talk to people about this arms race, I will go tell the people taking our marine life by the buckets off, but what else can we do to make the system better?
or am I talking rubbish? this is the job of the G and not any man on the ground? or is it that the only thing I can do for my kids is to just concentrate on them and not the system - like make sure they also take part in tuition arms race, go min max every DSA opportunity, go forage for marine life first so they get to eat the free food and not others, cut down every forest so my kid can also BTO first?
Saw a similar question on Facebook parent forums
It requires you to just imagine though - obviously it’s rooted in fantasy and no one is baying for communism or socialism here… definitely not in Singapore inc.
But what if different careers don’t result in crazy difference in pay scale - like nurse v doctor = similar pay or maybe just 20 percent apart , farmer v scholar in civil service doesn’t mean one climbs way so fast. the pay scale between farmers and scholars are just 20 percent apart, or SWE v other normal engineers aren’t what it is now but only 20 percent apart at any experience level, or teachers v lawyers are only 30 percent apart?
Do you think your parents would have pushed you so hard in PSLE and beyond if so?
Parents in that forum said that their pushing their kids isn’t for salary and that was so narrow minded. They said it’s for excellence and building determination and resilience - the endless tuition some even 3-4 tuition days per week, or the once per day PYP. All builds character. That is what the parents say.
What do you think. If in Singapore Inc, the pay difference between jobs are only 10-30 percent apart, do you think your parents would have pushed you so hard then?
There aren’t that many jobs in Singapore that hand on heart really contributes to society.
For those who are lucky enough to FIRE - What do you say / think when boomers say that it’s important to continue work to contribute to society?
It just irritates me to no end cos for all the jobs I have done, and all the projects - maybe only the pro bono one contributes to society.
Everything else was probably detrimental - selling people things / service they don’t need or just to increase productivity and revenue for BIG businesses and their shareholders like Apollo (Leon black and family).
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I read about this and thought this was really tragic. imagine a rich and powerful person able to buy your silence even though you are a victim.
what would you do?
this may not be the right group of people but I was wondering for those who buy into funds - any thoughts if it is too late to get into this gravy train for AI stocks
an acquaintance who does RM says they have been recommending this to clients but does it mean its time to run away from this fund?
I know this sub prefers VWRA but for those who have a bit more funds that came around from bonus?
Anyone else worrying too much like me today?
I worry too much when I see young people in their 20s/ 30s and then older folks in their 40s/50s doing grab deliveries and it seems to be for a full time job under the hot sun, and with SG set to be hotter.
the environment that we have left for our children seems terrible, and as an adult I also feel powerless over anything and everything.
anyone feels like me.
I am sure you have heard of the dark triad personalities.
Do such parents raise us to be also of certain personality type?
We hear so many adults who hate their parents, and some reason are perfectly valid - neglect, abuse - physical and verbal.
how about the other way? do parents ever hate their children when the children are older? In SG's context where everyone is expected to get along asian style, are there parents who hate their adult children and are only with the adult children because they need them financially?
SG society thinks parents have a huge hand to play in moulding the child, but given that even in my generation most parents already sublet child minding to the grandparents and helpers and TV networks, is this really true?
Even Amos Yee's mum loves Amos Yee unconditionally. amazing.
Was on the train and noticed a boy about 3-4 years old being scolded really harshly by his dad. Obviously it's only a small glimpse into daily life but from what I saw, the boy wanted his mother to carry him, but mother didn't want to as she was tired. Boy started crying and fussing and got really shouted by the dad. Dad shouted at him and called him a few names like baby and troublemaker and weak. the boy obviously started crying even more and refused to walk so the dad shouted at him for being a crybaby and pushed him to walk in a rough fashion. the sister - yes she is younger though about 2-3 - was being carried by the helper.
it isn't the first time I have seen dad treating sons pretty harshly even though the child is really young. is there some expectations from dads to toughen the boys here in a asian parenting style? I dont really see mothers being so obvious about it for little boys - yes for maybe older kids, but I really have seen tons of dads pushing little boys really hard and scolding them and beating them more harshly.
the common refrain will be - they have to go to NS so better teach them the real world now.