u/Effective_Bat7156

To start I know I’m a piece of shit for what I did I broke the one rule every man should follow. I started hanging out with this friend group about 3 years ago. I had a great time hanging out with these guys I was very depressed before hanging out with them. I started hanging out with these guys basically every day. One of my friends had a girlfriend who was a little to friendly with all of use and me and her ended up getting close. During this time I tried to get set up with a couple of her friends but it didn’t really work out. I would see how my friend was with her and it seemed like he wanted nothing to do with her at points and that’s pretty much the story she told me. Me and her began hanging out alone and I would make sure she told him where she was I didn’t want anything to be weird. She ended up coming on to me and I thought she was pretty and we clicked. I ended up doing stuff with her while they were together the whole time she would tell me he treated her like shit and she didn’t want to be with him anymore. Everyone began speculating but ultimately never found out. They ended up breaking up and me and her continued seeing eachother for a while. Then I found out she had still been communicating with him and they didn’t end up officially breaking up until months later. He was heartbroken when they did and I realized how bad I fucked up. I distanced myself from her for a while but I still loved her. She noticed me getting distance from her and she did the same to me. About a month ago I believe she started seeing another one of our friends which then made me realize this is what she does. I am heartbroken just like my friend although I don’t even feel bad for myself it obviously my fault. This new friend she’s seeing was much closer with the original friend and told him that he doesn’t want to talk to him anymore so I imagine him and this girl are hooking up now. She told me that the original friend basically SAd her and pointed a gun at her which made me feel like it wasn’t so wrong but I assume that was all bullshit. Considering the guy has always seemed like a good dude to me. I’m so angry with myself for ever doing anything with her it was me being weak and lonely and falling in love like an idiot. I don’t know if I should tell my friend what happened because at this point they’ve been broken up for months and I just want him to get over her. I don’t feel right hanging out with him anymore without telling him but I know when I do tell him he and the rest of the group will hate me and rightfully so I did something unforgivable obviously. But now here I am with no friends and no girl of course I got what I deserved. I want to make right with him but I don’t want to hurt him. Don’t really know what to do at this point I know I’m a horrible person for what I did and I regret it everyday. She fed me lies and I ate them right up because it was nice being with her. If I tell him I assume he would never forgive me I wouldn’t either so I’m just stuck with the results of my actions. Don’t know where to go from here I never wanted to be the guy to do that but I did. If you guys have any advice or just want to tell me how much of a loser I am for doing it go ahead but I already know. I will never make this mistake again I wish I could take it all back.

To start I know I’m a piece of shit for what I did I broke the one rule every man should follow. I started hanging out with this friend group about 3 years ago. I had a great time hanging out with these guys I was very depressed before hanging out with them. I started hanging out with these guys basically every day. One of my friends had a girlfriend who was a little to friendly with all of use and me and her ended up getting close. During this time I tried to get set up with a couple of her friends but it didn’t really work out. I would see how my friend was with her and it seemed like he wanted nothing to do with her at points and that’s pretty much the story she told me. Me and her began hanging out alone and I would make sure she told him where she was I didn’t want anything to be weird. She ended up coming on to me and I thought she was pretty and we clicked. I ended up doing stuff with her while they were together the whole time she would tell me he treated her like shit and she didn’t want to be with him anymore. Everyone began speculating but ultimately never found out. They ended up breaking up and me and her continued seeing eachother for a while. Then I found out she had still been communicating with him and they didn’t end up officially breaking up until months later. He was heartbroken when they did and I realized how bad I fucked up. I distanced myself from her for a while but I still loved her. She noticed me getting distance from her and she did the same to me. About a month ago I believe she started seeing another one of our friends which then made me realize this is what she does. I am heartbroken just like my friend although I don’t even feel bad for myself it obviously my fault. This new friend she’s seeing was much closer with the original friend and told him that he doesn’t want to talk to him anymore so I imagine him and this girl are hooking up now. She told me that the original friend basically SAd her and pointed a gun at her which made me feel like it wasn’t so wrong but I assume that was all bullshit. Considering the guy has always seemed like a good dude to me. I’m so angry with myself for ever doing anything with her it was me being weak and lonely and falling in love like an idiot. I don’t know if I should tell my friend what happened because at this point they’ve been broken up for months and I just want him to get over her. I don’t feel right hanging out with him anymore without telling him but I know when I do tell him he and the rest of the group will hate me and rightfully so I did something unforgivable obviously. But now here I am with no friends and no girl of course I got what I deserved. I want to make right with him but I don’t want to hurt him. Don’t really know what to do at this point I know I’m a horrible person for what I did and I regret it everyday. She fed me lies and I ate them right up because it was nice being with her. If I tell him I assume he would never forgive me I wouldn’t either so I’m just stuck with the results of my actions. Don’t know where to go from here I never wanted to be the guy to do that but I did. I’ve been contemplating suicide but that just seems like the cowards way out. If you guys have any advice or just want to tell me how much of a loser I am for doing it go ahead but I already know. I will never make this mistake again I wish I could take it all back.

I know this is a long message but I would greatly appreciate some advice. I 21M got into a relationship with a friends girlfriend 21F and I feel horrible about it she told me many things about him that made me think he was terrible and I don’t even know if they are true but I believed them at the time. I fell in love with her and still feel a lot of love for her she has everything I would want in a girl. Back in January I kind of backed off from her after finding out they weren’t officially broken up and she lied about that. Of course she had a reason for it but I still felt awful. He was a great friend to me but this caused us to drift apart and really our whole friend group to fall apart. About a month ago I noticed on a different friend’s phone what looked like her name with a heart next to it. I knew this other guy had a crush on her as well but she always told me how weird he was and how he made her uncomfortable. I questioned her about it and she said they were just friends and that wasn’t her on his phone and I was crazy. I wasn’t convinced so I started watching their snap scores. They would go up at the same time every time and I asked her about it. She told me they barely talked and he was probably talking to someone else and yet without fail they would always go up at the same time. They were also number one best friends on snap chat. I asked to look at her phone and all of their texts were deleted. Then I asked to look at Snapchat she scrolled very quick through their conversation but I saw a lot of snaps and texts including heart emojis. I said to let me read them and she refused insisting it was still platonic conversation. She became very distant from me not answering my calls saying she was busy or that her mom didn’t want us talking. She said that her mom wouldn’t let her hang out with anyone even her girl friends. Then I drove by her house one day after she wasn’t answering and sure enough that friend’s car was parked outside. I questioned her and she said her mom asked him to come over to help her brother with something. There’s a lot more to it but basically I think she has something going on with this other friend now and I have been extremely depressed about the whole situation. She said she wanted space and that she still loves me and only wants me but I have a hard time believing that. I really was in love with this girl and honestly still am. But now I’m left with no friends no girl and just feeling horrible for what I did to my original friend. I have a hard time picturing myself with any other girl because I loved everything about this one apart from the lying and deceiving. I can’t help but picture her and this other friend being intimate together while I’m alone in my room every night just stuck thinking about the good times and what could’ve been.
TL;DR:I want to hear anyone’s opinions or advice for what I should do. Should I tell the original friend what I did? Should I leave it alone and deal with the pain? How do I get over someone that I still love and still have no closure for whether or not they are just friends or she’s really doing stuff with this other friend now? I honestly just want her to come clean and tell me the truth but she won’t. Let me know your thoughts.