u/ElectronicCellist263

Thinking of joining Everlast gym in Branksome, I've heard all of the bad things about it yes yes but it's the only one within walking distance to me so I am willing to tolerate the issues

Issue is, both my husband and I want to go, but £35 per person, £70 per month, would be far too steep esp considering what you would get for that money from the sounds of it.

I'm wondering whether they would care if we shared a membership, as long as we don't go in together of course? Do they check that sort of stuff?

I AM NOT REQUESTING MEDICAL ADVICE, ONLY ADVICE FOR HOW TO NAVIGATE THE NHS, ANY MEDICAL DETAIL IS FOR CONTEXT ONLY

I've had my first set of blood tests. they tested my TSH and T4. my T4 came back fine but my TSH was 4.5, and their set threshold was 5.5.

I am 25F BMI 33 and my GP thinks that there's nothing wrong with my thyroid levels, thinks there's no medical cause for my symptoms, doesn't think I need to monitor my thyroid levels (re-test in a few months), and is not concerned that my symptoms are not getting any better and I'm not losing any weight despite efforts.

He is obviously implying that it's a psychological issue, and I told him I was actually in therapy for a few months and I was just discharged because they didn't think there was anything wrong with me either. ​

I told him lifestyle changes are not helping, like my symptoms are not getting worse and that but they're not getting better either, and for my age I think a level that high with symptoms is concerning.

But he is absolutely not bothered by it, does not want to do any further testing and when I asked for a referral to endocrinology he did give me a private referral but I can't act on it. If I could go private I wouldn't be bothering with the NHS to begin with.

So what can I do? my idea was to get a private blood test full panel including antibody, or try asking for an advice and guidance referral first to NHS endocrinology and see if that works?

(I'm aware it's not his fault fully for not giving me a referral to NHS endocrinology because of bureaucracy, but I looked it up and there's no specific requirements for a strictly A&G referral)

I'm thinking that regardless of the results of the second blood test, if my GP continues refusing to help me improve my health i'm just going to have to switch GPs until I find one that takes me seriously​.

​does anyone have any better ideas and NON-MEDICAL advice for me on how to get help on the NHS​​? thank you ​​ ​​​

I've had my first set of blood tests. they tested my TSH and T4. my T4 came back fine but my TSH was 4.5, and their set threshold was 5.5.

I am 25F BMI 33 and my GP thinks that there's nothing wrong with my thyroid levels, thinks there's no medical cause for my symptoms, doesn't think I need to monitor my thyroid levels (re-test in a few months), and is not concerned that my symptoms are not getting any better and I'm not losing any weight despite efforts.

He is obviously implying that it's a psychological issue, and I told him I was actually in therapy for a few months and I was just discharged because they didn't think there was anything wrong with me either. ​

I told him lifestyle changes are not helping, like my symptoms are not getting worse and that but they're not getting better either, and for my age I think a level that high with symptoms is concerning.

But he is absolutely not bothered by it, does not want to do any further testing and when I asked for a referral to endocrinology he did give me a private referral but I can't act on it. If I could go private I wouldn't be bothering with the NHS to begin with.

So what can I do? my idea was to get a private blood test full panel including antibody, or try asking for an advice and guidance referral first to NHS endocrinology and see if that works?

(I'm aware it's not his fault fully for not giving me a referral to NHS endocrinology because of bureaucracy, but I looked it up and there's no specific requirements for a strictly A&G referral)

I'm thinking that regardless of the results of a second blood test, if my GP continues refusing to help me improve my health i'm just going to have to switch GPs until I find one that takes me seriously​.

​does anyone have any better ideas or any advice for me? thank you

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I graduated university in 2025 with a 3rd class CS degree. I did a placement as part of my degree, so I have been unemployed since 2024 when it ended.

I have not been able to find a graduate job and I am worried with the upcoming wave of 2026 graduates and my shit grades I'm going to be up against even more competition, so my chances to do anything with my degree at this point are looking pretty grim.

I admit I am being very stubborn, I could have got a job months ago easily, but I do not want to work any more minimum wage jobs. I did not go to uni for 4 years racking up over £30k in student loans just to end up right back into min wage work, what the hell did I bother getting a degree for?

I feel as if I was lied to, I was promised if I just "learned to code" if I just put in the work and got a degree I can get a good job. Everyone told me "a degree is a degree, your grade doesn't matter". Yeah, I didn't do very well, I barely passed, but I passed didn't I? I literally have a CS degree AND 1 year of experience! But it's still not enough to get a job apparently!

Anyway, I am fed up trying to find work on my own as after looking for almost 2 years with no luck it is clear I am getting nowhere. Half the jobs are ghost jobs, the other half are a waste of my time and energy as I will never be a top candidate for, as I was effectively told so directly, dozens, if not hundreds, of times. At this point I just want ANY job that is even somewhat relevant to my degree, I really don't want to go back to stocking shelves for the foreseeable fucking future.

The government should find a job for me, like a sort of placement agency basically, which is very lazy I know but I don't want to look for work anymore, I effectively give up at this point. After nearly 2 years of looking I want to fucking give up and just go back to stocking shelves or being a full-time housewife for the rest of my fucking life.

I have no issues with the skills to find jobs and make applications, I have done more CV writing seminars than I can remember, I get interviewed for about 20% of my applications, I get past the first interview every single time. The issue is it's going nowhere, and I am done.

I am done jumping through hoops and loops with these companies, I don't want to look for work anymore, it doesn't mean I don't want to work, I just don't want to participate in this pointless humiliation ritual anymore. I am sick of wasting so much time and energy crafting the perfect application, taking tests, performing through hours of interviews with every single company, basically begging on my knees like a bitch for a job.

I have done the work to the best of my ability, I got a degree, I learned a skill, I don't want to have to beg for a job anymore. It is humiliating, it has ruined my mental health, I cannot fucking do this anymore.

The government has basically EVERY incentive to turn me into a high-earning taxpayer, and I will NEVER pay off my student loans, as due to interest my balance will always increase faster than I am paying it off, so they can effectively charge me a hefty graduate tax for the rest of my life on top of it too!

So, let them find me a fucking job then! If they won't , then I guess I will never pay taxes again, I will never pay my student loan back, and I went to university for nothing! I am done!

I am married and my husband works full time, so I know I likely don't qualify for UC or any benefits because of our income. My issue is I graduated university in 2025 with a 3rd class CS degree. I did a placement as part of my degree, so I have been unemployed since 2024 when it ended.

I have not been able to find a graduate job and I am worried with the upcoming wave of 2026 graduates and my s*** grades I'm going to be up against even more competition, so my chances to do anything with my degree at this point are looking pretty grim.

I admit I am being very stubborn, I could have got a job months ago easily, but I do not want to work any more minimum wage jobs. I did not go to uni for 4 years racking up over £30k in student loans just to end up right back into min wage work, what the hell did I bother getting a degree for?

I feel as if I was lied to, I was promised if I just "learned to code" if I just put in the work and got a degree I can get a good job. Everyone told me "a degree is a degree, your grade doesn't matter". Yeah, I didn't do very well, I barely passed, but I passed didn't I? I literally have a CS degree AND 1 year of experience! But it's still not enough to get a job apparently!

Anyway, I am fed up trying to find work on my own as after looking for almost 2 years with no luck it is clear I am getting nowhere. Half the jobs are ghost jobs, the other half are a waste of my time and energy as I will never be a top candidate for, as I was effectively told so directly, dozens, if not hundreds, of times. At this point I just want ANY job that is even somewhat relevant to my degree, I really don't want to go back to stocking shelves for the foreseeable f***ing future.

So, I was wondering if the Jobcentre or something can help me get a job? I was hoping they could basically match me with employers who actually are interested in hiring me, possibily Civil Service? Is that something they can do? I don't want to have to get involved with the JC if they're either going to force me into shelf stocking, or if they're just going to tell me to go off and find work on my own, as that's defeats the point of it for me.

My goal specifically is to leave it up to them to find a job for me, like a sort of placement agency basically, which is very lazy I know but I don't want to look for work anymore, I effectively give up at this point. After nearly 2 years of looking I want to f***ing give up and just go back to stocking shelves or being a full-time housewife for the rest of my f***ing life. I am done jumping through hoops and loops with these companies, going through multiple rounds of interviews only to be filtered out at the last minute because of my grades after multiple weeks of my f***ing life of back and forth. I have done the work to the best of my ability, I got a degree, I learned a skill, I don't want to have to beg for a job anymore. It is humiliating, it has ruined my mental health, I cannot f***ing do this anymore.

The government has basically EVERY incentive to turn me into a high-earning taxpayer, and I will NEVER pay off my student loans, as due to interest my balance will always increase faster than I am paying it off, so they can effectively charge me a hefty graduate tax for the rest of my life on top of it too! So, let them find me a f***ing job then! I am done!

I've been with my local talking therapy service since August of 2025 and i've had no improvement while I've been with them and they've just discharged me.

I don't really know where I want to go with this post but I suppose I'm just really frustrated right now I've just got off the phone with the manager of the service after making a complaint to PALS ​​ just to even get an explanation as to why they're letting me go and basically begging them to signpost me somewhere else at least, ​and I just feel like what was the point of it all? What was the point of me going through the motions and going through all these box ticking exercises for the last eight months. Like what is the point in asking for help honestly. ​​

I came in to the service with two simple goals: function better day to day and some support looking for work because I was struggling with functioning enough​. 8 months I was with them and they haven't helped me with any of it really. they've helped me with the employment stuff a little bit but that was about all they've done and I put up with it this whole time because I thought like once I get through this stupid six week webinar course once I get through this stupid CBT therapy may be then I'll access the real help and it was at that point that they discharged me. ​​​​​​​​

And it's like this is just too much for me to deal with I struggle getting out of bed most days a really don't have the bandwidth to be having email battles to be advocating for myself and putting in the work to making myself feel better so like honestly what is the point of asking for help?

When I tell people I'm struggling with grooming myself with feeding myself with getting out of the house getting some sun i struggle with applying for work to the point where I'm concerned if I do get a job I don't even know if I can show up and everyone tells you you need to get some help you need to get help and then when I do this is the help I get!

​​​​I feel like if I'd never got into the service by this point I probably would have figured it out by myself somehow. ​​​ but the reason why I went there to begin with is because I had been struggling for the better part of one year and I wasn't improving by myself so I thought like okay it's about time I get some help and all its done I feel like it's just wasted my time.

I just don't get what's the point of it like what is the point of these people going to university getting degrees and psychology only to do nothing with it and it's like this is not a dig at therapists in general.

For example when I came to the service I was questioning like if I could be neurodivergent and it wasn't like I wanted them to tell me I was or I wasn't, I just wanted to pose a question "hey you as a professional as a person who's studied your subject for the better part of probably six years to become a licensed therapist have a look at me what do you think?" and I'm being told because they're a generalist service they're not allowed to do that??

like what does insurance not cover that?? does your insurance not cover you giving a professional opinion? like I know they don't diagnose at that level but you're a professional you still have a degree, can you not read the dsm5 and have a look?

and the whole time I'm being made to feel like I'm asking for too much, like I don't know why I struggle so I'm asking questions! like what is it about me that makes it hard to get out of bed if it's not depression if it's not anxiety if it's not a medical issue like what is it? I'm throwing shit at the wall to ​see what sticks "is it neurodivergence? what is it?" and they don't even want to have a look at it!

Genuinely what is the point? what is the point in me asking for help what is the point of them going to university getting a degree and then offering this NHS talking therapy service if they won't do anything? It just feels like a waste of everyone's time and energy. ​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

Just wanted to ge this off my chest.