I've been tinkering with some game mechanics and am debating if this would be too much work to maintain as a player? I love the idea of having some realistic "stable hand" chores for refilling water and hay troughs, mucking pastures, etc.
What do you think, would you enjoying doing a few horse chores around your stable?
Debating buying the $400 license to export and build this into a game. I am enjoying the trial so far, but not sure when it's time to take the leap?!
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My MIL helps out with our LO a couple days a week while we work (he's 4 now so her days are numbered lol). She stays the night one night a week and has her own guest room and bathroom to herself since my LO is still using our bed/bathroom 😅 MIL and FIL essentially ditched my husband and moved across the country when they retired for almost a decade. That was until they found out I was pregnant when they immediately dropped everything and moved as close as possible. Fortunately, they could only afford to live about a 2.5 hour drive away from here but I hear MIL whining every time she's here wishing they could afford to live closer.
This morning I went into the guest bathroom to blow my nose as my family has been recovering from a cold and I noticed there was a Jesus figurine added atop our guest bathroom decor. She usually leaves her wash cloths, body wash, etc., which is fine but a religious figurine y'all?!!? As you can probably tell, I'm pretty easy going since I've been able to tolerate her in my house for nearly 4 years, but this one shocked me. I was raised in a semi-religious family, baptized, went to church as a child, etc., and I support others' religious beliefs. We know MIL and FIL put a lot of their time into their church and bible study and church friends, but they know it's not something my husband nor I have prioritized in this season of our lives. I kinda want to chuck the Jesus in the bin, but that feels diabolical lol.
She recently tried to tack on a third day each week that she would come visit. I thought it was just a one off because she said MONDAY (not plural) so my husband was like okay no problem, but then she tried to turn it into a weekly visit (every Monday) and I told him absolutely not - I cannot have my house disrupted 3 out of 7 days a week. 2 days/week is pushing it, but I've tolerated it because they go to the park for a few hours each day, but that brings its own problems. Each day she's here I'm inundated with listening to the park drama about so-and-so this and that and this kid punched that kid, and this mom got mad at this other mom so she doesn't want to bring her kids any more, and she reads off her whole text message conversations between them, and tells us how all the moms at the park love my MIL because she got the park group together and gives them advice. I've wished more than anything through this whole experience that I didn't have to work full-time so I could spend these fleeting moments with my LO and find my own community of mom-friends, but unfortunately that's not the cards I was dealt.
I'm sure these types of family dynamics are getting more and more common with the rising costs of everything forcing both parents into the workforce and leaning on family to help raise their children, but it's extra challenging dealing with such a tone deaf MIL who doesn't realize how much my husband and I are compromising for her to stay with us two days a week. I literally had to put one of my cats on medication that must be administered by me, daily, because it was so distraught with her being here. She didn't put one ounce of energy into building a personal relationship with me while I was dating her son for ten plus years (except obligatory holiday visits until they moved away) but now that she has a grand child she's alllll about us. And honestly, she's barely put any effort into getting to know me over these last 4 years that she's stayed in my house two days a week. She spends all her time & energy here talking about her self. She gave me a sewing machine/kit for Christmas so she could teach me how to sew (never told her I had an interest but I support her interest/passion!). She booked a camp site for us to go camping with her and FIL (she never asked when/where we would want to go camping before hand). Her and FIL are apparently about to buy a boat (assuming that we'll go boating with them). I'm just feeling more and more suffocated by her because my husband is basically her only child (my MIL has an estranged relationship with her own daughter - my husband's older half-sister) and my LO is her only grand child. And I don't understand why someone thinks it's okay to encroach on our lives in this way, when they seemingly value the relationship with our LO this much, you know?
Bottom line - Make yourself tolerable, MIL, if you want to be around us, don't make US tolerate YOU.