u/Embarrassed-End-692

46F. UK. 5’ 7”. 8st 12lb. Chronic constipation but I rarely strain, small internal haemorrhoids seen on colonoscopy, healed chronic anal fissures, anxiety, depression, and history of breast cancer (in remission 12 years).

I have an embarrassing 💩 problem and I don’t know how to describe it, so please bear with me. I am sorry for the grossness. I can’t get to see a GP for two weeks, and I don’t know how to manage the situation till then tbh. I’m desperate and it’s making me REALLY anxious and depressed.

Oftentimes when I feel the need to poop, it moves to the exit. I go sit on the 🚽 to go, and the propulsion stops. I don’t want to strain, so I try rocking and moving and “moo to poo” but it doesn’t work. So I walk around a bit and it feels like it’s coming. Except when I sit, the movement stops. I already have and try a squatty potty but that seems to make it worse.

The related issue is that I feel bulging in my vagina and in my buttocks but close to my anus at the time. I need to poop and can’t. Is that the poop stuck in my butt and prolapsing into my vagina and buttocks somehow? Or is that normal movement of the muscles there? Once the poop is out, the bulging is gone. On the rare occasion the poop comes out easily, I don’t notice the bulging - but I don’t go feeling for it then.

I drink plenty of fluid (maybe too much?) and eat a lot of fruit / fibre / seeds / nuts etc (although I don’t eat a lot these days). I have Laxido on long-term prescription, but I think it makes me feel hungover in the morning (confused, disoriented, fatigued, nauseous, etc) so I don’t like using it. If I don’t take it daily, the poop turns to firm (not hard) pebbles. Even with the laxido it is firm and often won’t come out without me splinting and manually removing it. It’s like my muscles don’t work, but something is also falling into my vagina and buttocks??

What IS this weirdness, why won’t my butt just do what it’s meant to do, and how can I manage this till I can get a GP appointment…? More laxido each day? Less water? More water? Less fibre? More fibre? Please help me (it’s making me not want to be here anymore 😔)

Sorry again for this grossness. I just feel I have no dignity left - but it’s worse for you all reading it, I’m sure!

Thanks 🙏🏻

Does anyone else have such dry skin (hands, legs, feet) and no amount of moisturiser seems to work - doesn’t soak in…?? Also, recently developed puffy fingers and middle knuckles. Is this all peri, or possible kidney issues…? Any management techniques gratefully received (I can’t have HRT).

Thanks!