u/Embarrassed-Wafer555

salam ladies!!!

just want to see who here had an arranged marriage and how it’s going. i’ve been in serious relationships before that didn’t work out (both were heading towards marriage with family involved). however, now my family wants to arrange something for me and i have so much internal resistance to it. the idea of it scares me soooo much and makes me wanna run for the hills. i am also def not over my ex since it all ended about a month ago but my family keeps on pushing me for this since they think i’m running out of time (i‘m desi and 27).

i feel like in my head, i think a family set up marriage could never lead to the guy actually truly loving you or standing up for you or going the extra mile to make sure you’re happy or taken care of. i guess i have such an issue with it because i’ve never seen a truly beautiful arranged marriage. i’ve seen men who marry for love actually go that extra mile for their women. i’m just so appalled by the idea of it, since no one in my close circle of friends had an arranged marriage either. two of my siblings who are married/engaged also didn’t have an arranged thing so it makes me feel like such a failure and burden that i have to do this. they both fought for their women and did everything they could to marry them. wouldn‘t that love just be different?

honestly, i hate to say it but i feel like i’ve just given up on love and life at this point.

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27f, 5'5, SW: 148, CW: 131, GW: 125

i've been on reta for 3.5 months now. i started off at 0.5 mg weekly and stayed there for 4-5 weeks. then moved up to 1 mg weekly and stayed there for majority of the time and finally now moved up to 1.5 mg weekly the past two weeks after noticing the weight loss has stalled. i have gotten really weak over this time. i've gone through a lot in my personal life and that def adds on to the already low energy and drive.

i want to now fix up. i pretty much don't workout after getting on reta since i honestly don't have much energy to. i eat okay-ish, nothing unhealthy and i try my best to get in 2-3 meals but i know i'm probably not hitting enough calories, water, or electrolytes. i haven't had the usual side effects like nausea, diarrhea, constipation, but from the overall weakness, i do get dizzy and get back/body aches easily.

i won't be stopping reta until i hit my goal weight and probably not after that as well and have a plan to weane off by working my way back to 0.5 mg. but i would love to get healthier and start taking better care of myself moving forward. please help me come up with a plan.

27f, 5'5, SW: 148, CW: 131, GW: 125

i've been on reta for 3.5 months now. i started off at 0.5 mg weekly and stayed there for 4-5 weeks. then moved up to 1 mg weekly and stayed there for majority of the time and finally now moved up to 1.5 mg weekly the past two weeks after noticing the weight loss has stalled. i have gotten really weak over this time. i've gone through a lot in my personal life and that def adds on to the already low energy and drive.

i want to now fix up. i pretty much don't workout after getting on reta since i honestly don't have much energy to. i eat okay-ish, nothing unhealthy and i try my best to get in 2-3 meals but i know i'm probably not hitting enough calories, water, or electrolytes. i haven't had the usual side effects like nausea, diarrhea, constipation, but from the overall weakness, i do get dizzy and get back/body aches easily.

i won't be stopping reta until i hit my goal weight and probably not after that as well and have a plan to weane off by working my way back to 0.5 mg. but i would love to get healthier and start taking better care of myself moving forward. please help me come up with a plan.

salam sisters, seeking out some kind words or maybe some advice. i'm 27f and the last 6-7 months have fully wrecked me to my core. i have no idea who i am or where to go from here. everyday i pray to God that if He has nothing good left for me, then to take me. i can't live in this much pain and sadness and hopelessness.

i've experienced two called off weddings (with the same person, once called off by his family and once by me). i have experienced the betrayal of my father and feeling utterly unprotected by him. i've experienced sihr done on me through my stepmother and stepsister who i trusted. i've felt coldness from my sister in law who i literally fought for and did everything so beautifully for since my parents didn't initially accept her. i feel completely and utterly done with this dunya.

i used to be bright and beautiful and happy and social and smiley and sincere and pure. i have nothing left of that. if i start thinking of anything, i instantly start crying. i've slowly lost even my connection with Allah because i feel like i always trusted Him and was fair and good in my dealings with those around me and it all has left me so utterly broken. i'm just filled with pain, sadness, grief, rage, and now even jealousy, seeing those around me move on and get married and be surrounded by love and respect. i feel alone and forgotten. i don't understand what any of this is supposed to teach me.

i am getting into therapy and trying hard to get back into just working on myself, but the pain is so intense that i can't even try to confront it all. i break down fully.

i have just been hurt so deeply these last few months. i feel like i have no trust left in me. i am skeptical of everyone now. i want to isolate in my room and never come out. but of course, i still show up for those in my life - my family, friends, everyone really. i don't know if anyone's even noticed i have no light left in my eyes or how much pain i go through. i wish i was dead. i don't see anything ahead for myself. i want to be in love and married to a good man, but i can't even fathom the idea anymore. i want to have someone protect me, the way my father didn't. but i literally see nothing ahead anymore.

i don't know what sin i am atoning for, but please make duaa Allah forgives me. i can't keep going on like this.