u/EmergencyFly5018

I don't really know how to start this so I'll just say it. I'm 25 and I've never been in a relationship. And I do want to get married. That part I'm sure about.

The thing holding me back is money. I work for myself, I've got a couple of online businesses and I'm building another one, and the income is all over the place right now. Some months are good, some are quiet. I'm not stable yet, and marriage isn't something I want to walk into while things are still uncertain, because being able to provide properly really matters to me and I'd rather do it right than rush it.

So the thing I keep telling myself is that I should just keep my head down and build first, get myself to a place where I'm actually stable, and then start looking for a wife. And I know that makes sense, part of me completely agrees with it.

But honestly, every time I think about it, it makes me a little sad. I think what gets to me is that I don't want to spend all of this time working and building on my own, and only start looking for someone once I've finally got everything sorted out. I'd rather meet someone now and actually go through this part of my life with her, get to know each other while things are still hard and still coming together, instead of waiting until it's all done and comfortable. There's something about that I don't want to miss just because I waited too long.

And yeah, it gets lonely. I work a lot and I no one to talk to. When I see guys my age getting married I'm happy for them, I honestly don't envy anyone. But it still does something to me. It reminds me that this thing I want keeps getting pushed further down the road.

So I'm asking people who might have been through this. Do I start looking now, with marriage as the intention, even though I'm not where I want to be financially? Or is it smarter to wait until I'm stable and then start? And if it's wait, how do you actually handle the loneliness in the meantime? Because that's the part I keep getting stuck on.

Assalamu alaikum.

I don't really know how to start this so I'll just say it. I'm 25 and I've never been in a relationship. Kept everything halal my whole life alhamdulillah, and I do want to get married. That part I'm sure about.

The thing holding me back is money. I work for myself, I've got a couple of online businesses and I'm building another one, and the income is all over the place right now. Some months are good, some are quiet. I'm not stable yet, and marriage isn't something I want to walk into while things are still uncertain, because being able to provide properly really matters to me and I'd rather do it right than rush it.

So the thing I keep telling myself is that I should just keep my head down and build first, get myself to a place where I'm actually stable, and then start looking for a wife. And I know that makes sense, part of me completely agrees with it.

But honestly, every time I think about it, it makes me a little sad. I think what gets to me is that I don't want to spend all of this time working and building on my own, and only start looking for someone once I've finally got everything sorted out. I'd rather meet someone now and actually go through this part of my life with her, get to know each other while things are still hard and still coming together, instead of waiting until it's all done and comfortable. There's something about that I don't want to miss just because I waited too long.

And yeah, it gets lonely. I work a lot and I no one to talk to. When I see guys my age getting married I'm happy for them, I make dua, I honestly don't envy anyone. But it still does something to me. It reminds me that this thing I want keeps getting pushed further down the road.

So I'm asking people who might have been through this. Do I start looking now, properly and halal, with marriage as the intention, even though I'm not where I want to be financially? Or is it smarter to wait until I'm stable and then start? And if it's wait, how do you actually handle the loneliness in the meantime? Because that's the part I keep getting stuck on.

Jazakum Allahu khayran for reading. It means a lot.

Assalamu alaikum.

I don't really know how to start this so I'll just say it. I'm 25 and I've never been in a relationship. Kept everything halal my whole life alhamdulillah, and I do want to get married. That part I'm sure about.

The thing holding me back is money. I work for myself, I've got a couple of online businesses and I'm building another one, and the income is all over the place right now. Some months are good, some are quiet. I'm not stable yet, and marriage isn't something I want to walk into while things are still uncertain, because being able to provide properly really matters to me and I'd rather do it right than rush it.

So the thing I keep telling myself is that I should just keep my head down and build first, get myself to a place where I'm actually stable, and then start looking for a wife. And I know that makes sense, part of me completely agrees with it.

But honestly, every time I think about it, it makes me a little sad. I think what gets to me is that I don't want to spend all of this time working and building on my own, and only start looking for someone once I've finally got everything sorted out. I'd rather meet someone now and actually go through this part of my life with her, get to know each other while things are still hard and still coming together, instead of waiting until it's all done and comfortable. There's something about that I don't want to miss just because I waited too long.

And yeah, it gets lonely. I work a lot and I no one to talk to. When I see guys my age getting married I'm happy for them, I make dua, I honestly don't envy anyone. But it still does something to me. It reminds me that this thing I want keeps getting pushed further down the road.

So I'm asking people who might have been through this. Do I start looking now, properly and halal, with marriage as the intention, even though I'm not where I want to be financially? Or is it smarter to wait until I'm stable and then start? And if it's wait, how do you actually handle the loneliness in the meantime? Because that's the part I keep getting stuck on.

Jazakum Allahu khayran for reading. It means a lot.