Right behind my knees and it’s extremely itchy, I don’t wear pants to bed often and at first I thought it was a mosquito bite I had scratched raw in my sleep but when I seen it the next day I knew it wasn’t that. I’ve never seen anything like this. My boyfriend says it may be a blister bug but what could that mean?
I (19F) moved in with my (25) sister and her now ex at the end of January, up until her ex left everything was semi okay, we all got along and her ex said he liked having me around and never expected or wanted me to pay for anything. I got a job at his job for convenience since we lived 30 minutes away from a main town and I could ride with him. Anyways, my sister has a really bad spending habit, the kind where when she sees a shirt she likes she doesn't grab one color she grabs all and it was putting a bad strain on the relationship plus she was just nasty to him in general. He left and the exact same day he did she invited another man over which fine whatever that's her choice.
Well she ended up meeting a different man on Tinder and this is where it all went down hill. First off this man lived 2 hours away, mind you my sister has her toddler every other week and that's a long drive. This man doesn't have his own car nor a proper job and a history of using drugs. He demanded SHE MAKE THE DRIVE to pick him up which she did. Within a week of knowing him she got a car with his name on it, and moved him into the house.
At first it was fine I tried getting along with him but I voiced my concerns with her getting a car with him. Her ex started to avoid me at work and overall I was really unhappy and my sister making good money reassured me it'd be okay if I quit so I did, I regret it so much now. Anyways I also want to point out I have a very dry or sarcastic humor, I feel like a lot of people do but sometimes when I joke with someone my tone is very blunt and flat so sometimes it can come off as not funny or not as a joke. I seen him making tea in the coffee pot one day and I was like "I don't like you.. don't talk to me" Because It was so bizarre but I thought he picked up my tone and would've known I was joking. When my sister came home she said he felt very disrespected and how he wouldn't have let his brother talk to him like that. I went back and apologized and when he came into the kitchen later that night I told him to always tell me if I hurt his feelings, I don't mind saying sorry, I understand sometimes my joking can come off as rude. He shrugged it off and went back into their room. All he does is sit in the back room and play video games on his xbox.
My sister ended up asking for things we needed for groceries that he could pick up, I said things like cat litter and food, milk and things we can make dinner out of that we already have, ex. buns for hotdogs we have in the fridge. Then I said whatever dinners he thinks would be good. She ended up saying that he said I was only getting what I wanted?? Which is farther from the truth. she sent him $150 for food that we really needed.
this man leaves with the car she got for him, a phone she bought for him, and the $150 she sent him for food for the house and didn't come back for 8-9 DAYS. She begged him to come back and he'd respond with "I don't have gas" so she sent this man gas money 3 times and each time he still wouldn't come back. He very clearly was cheating on her because she could see his location and he lied about where he was while she heard another woman's voice in the background. He lied about being in another state and working for another company etc.
Anyways, it took HER driving to his town and his moms for her to convince him to come back. I'm already pissed because CLEARLY this guy is not good for her, she didn't drug test him either like I asked. He has 5 kids and none of them are in his life, and we just found out my sister is pregnant with his kid on top of everything else.
The first conflict started when my sister told me to check the mail for her credit card coming in, I did and when I got it I hid the mail that felt like it had a card in it in the kitchen drawer, well he came up to me asking me for the mail and I said no because I did not trust him after the money he blew that was meant for food. Next thing I know my sister is calling me and screaming at me for us not getting along etc and I just hung up.
Well eventually the time comes to go and get groceries which I love to do, I love to cook and I especially love veggies and they are pretty inexpensive. Plus I haven't been able to leave and go anywhere since her ex usually was the one to take me places. She then tells me that I need to stay home with her kid while THEY go shopping mind you I babysit her kid ALL DAY already so I just said "Can't we all go?" and she responded with "Well HE wont go if YOU go but don't worry we will get what we need" Mind you what they got was $50 worth of beef we already had and frozen meals and pizza, cat litter and food etc but nothing that was good for dinner or balanced.
My breaking point happened yesterday when she was stressing about taking me to work at my new job and then dropping her kid off at daycare and also making it to work on time. Then she said "He won't give you a ride to work because you are disrespectful to him and give him looks" MIND YOU I'VE TRIED TALKING TO HIM AND JOKING WITH HIM. I yelled at my sister 'I'm not going to F*** sit here while a 29 year old man acts like a 14 year old"
Basically she's supporting a manchild who is butt hurt by a 19 year old telling them what's not finically responsible of them. I've sent my sister money for things like gas and diapers and I even bought her kid an almost $200 bedframe PLUS put it together since her ex took back the bedframe they had. Then another $200 to help get her kitten spayed which she ended up rehoming because he doesn't like cats. WIBTAH If I asked for that money back since they aren't doing anything for me but letting me live here?