Advice Needed
I finally stood my ground against my narcissistic grandmother. For context I’m (22F) and I just graduated from college three weeks ago. My grandmother has a history of being extremely controlling and this has happened all my life. I stayed with her a bit to save up money for a car and my own apartment. I would ask could I use her car to practice driving and she always blamed it on her anxiety.
She’s the type who wants you to depend on her while she controls everything you do and is degrading you all at once. She one time cried and threw a fit because she didn’t like how I decorated my college apartment. She has a history of harassing me about my money and how much I have just so she can spend it. Long story short she called me while I was out with friends letting me know that she threw my clothes out the closet because she didn’t like how unorganized it was and threw it on my rug.
This was the tipping point for me. When I got home I discussed how I felt and how I wanted to be treated like an adult and not a child.
This ended with me being called b’s left and right along with the comment of ugly. She did put her hands on me and normally I’m not a violent person but I defended myself for once. She threatened to call the cops and started to tell all our family how I was the one who just outright hit her. My mom came and got me and when I walked out the door my grandma said, “ I did my best to raise that ugly b***”. Anyways I don’t know what this future now holds for me all I know is that I’m finally free and will be needing advice on how to move forward with my life now that I’m cutting her off and some other family members as well.