u/Emotional-Overload

Bit of a ramble coming.

I’ve been an adult for 5 ish years now but I still feel like I’m a kid.

Like other people my age have set hobbies, careers and have a personality. But I still don’t have any set hobbies, I don’t have any clear career plans and I feel like I’m not a “full person”

But I don’t relate to people who are 19/20/21ish.

Like at 21 I moved out of home (2,500km away) into my own home, got a mortgage, a full time job that I didn’t see myself doing long term and basically became a “fully functional adult” where my coworkers at the time were going out partying and getting their parents to pick them up and were talking about “the future” when they lived on their own. And there I was, same age but just couldn’t relate (and couldn’t join them out drinking because I couldn’t afford it with all the other life expenses)

And then life changed and I moved 3000km in the other direction and moved into my grandparents house to be the full time caregiver to them.

So now I’m 23, working 2 days a week and playing “mum” to my grandparents (eg cooking, cleaning, driving, assisting with bathing), engaged and feeling like I have no clue how I to this point in my life.

I’ve got too many responsibilities to behave like a young adult, but too young to behave like a grown adult, and I don’t know who I actually am.

I buy basil, it looks good, I take it home, remove the plastic wrap and put it in a glass with a little bit of water to keep it fresh.

Then the next morning it’s wilted, turning brown as sluggish and some of the leaves on to stop are drying out.

What am I doing wrong? How do I keep it fresh for more than 4 hours?

I buy it fresh, with some roots and it’s always sitting in water in the shop.

Basic background;

I (23f) stopped growing at 14, I have worn the same pair of boots for the last ~8 years, they were originally purchased with the assumption that I would grow out of them and so I am honestly surprised they have lasted as long as they have. I am wanting to replace them with a good quality pair.

I am a AU size 3 or 4 so I only fit “youth”.

I’m looking at;

- S. Kidman Kids Tirari Boot - Chestnut

- Thomas Cook Children’s Trent Dress Boot - Chestnut

- maybe R M Williams but I feel like they charge more for the brand than the quality.

Happy to hear other suggestions but I am hoping for my next pair to last me for a couple of decades.