u/Emotional_Turnip_586

Is it normal for in-laws to be semi absent from yours or a child’s life? my husbands bio-dad was not good to my husband or his siblings. we had plans in place for our children because of this but it seems like we don’t need to use any of them bc they only choose to be in our/our child’s life when it’s convenient for them. only when we drive hours and hours to see them. this will be the second birthday they have missed because of them taking a vacation either the day of my sons birthday or the day after. my husband is clearly hurt bc he thought it would be different when he had kids. i’m sad for him but i’ve come to terms with people not wanting to be a part of our life’s, especially when it comes to my children. people will show you that they care. however i don’t want my kids to go through what i did with my grandparents, wondering why we don’t see them, but i don’t want to keep being the ones reaching out and constantly go out of our way to see people who don’t care to come see us. we’re about to have our second child and we won’t be traveling much after that for a while so it seems as though they’re not going to meet our second for a long time

This happened when my son (2) was just born and it STILL infuriates me to this day. I was asked if I was breastfeeding or bottle feeding and I told her that I was pumping along with formula bc I didn’t produce enough and I simply didn’t want to breast feed. She told me, no, insisted that I latch him bc it’s so much better for them to be on the breast. Mind you, this lady has no biological children of her own so who is she to insist on what I do with my baby?!

I have my first prenatal appointment/ ultrasound in 3 weeks for my second baby. I forgot to ask if i can bring my son with me to the appointment. i’m not sure what i would do if they said no. my husband is unable to keep him at work since he’ll be across the country for work. i have no family where i live so that’s not an option either.