u/EntrepreneurOk5140

Hello! Ive ordered the July suitcases for myself. My friend recommended them but when I looked up reviews, there seems to be more bad than good. Most reviews are from 2-3 years ago when I know they were heavy with their marketing and everywhere.

Has anybody else had good reviews about their luggage or better experiences since then?

hi guys,

i don’t know what to do, so I’m posting here.

Basically got into a very bad fight with my Indian parents because I chose to sleep over at my future in-laws house (engaged & getting married in 4 months) as we had a dinner planned that night and my work place the following morning was only a 10 min drive from theirs compared to an hour from my place.

I, of course mentioned that I would be sleeping in my own bed and my in laws were kind enough to offer me to stay over at their house. They have previously told me to stay over when dinners run late but I always refused as my parents don’t like it. This time however I picked up work on my day off and I did not think they would react as badly as they did.

The fight got horribly bad with my mum and during I told her that despite my younger brother having slept over at his girlfriend’s house multiple times and going on trips with her; I have never done so as I know they don’t like it. She said I was comparing myself to him. Growing up they have always been easier on him than with me as I am a girl. She said all sorts of horrible things to me, compared me to my horrible father (who I avoid and maintain as little contact as possible) and then said she is depressed and wants to kill herself. Multiple times.

Who says something like this to their kid? She is 50 something years old and is behaving like an erratic teen. I’ve always been very different to my parents. My dad always wanted me home by 5 PM after university, threatened me, body shamed me horribly when I was a teenager, called me dumb all the time during high school & thereafter, swears at me and the rest of my family. Behaves like the ideal person outside but at home behaves the totally opposite. He does not spend time with the family. “Works” all day, in his room or else is watching tv filling his head with AI directed videos on youtube and current politics. Never converses about anything outside. Always advising on the wrong information from when he was 20. He has horribly sweared at my mum many times, calling her and me a bitch. Constantly discourages us. She said the whole family is horrible TO her. So I told her to leave him. I have told her previously as well, during a raging fight like this. And she said she took a vow. Honestly, she is dumb as well and cannot make decisions herself. She never raised me to be an independent woman. Anything she told me relating to achieving higher education was from trauma related to my father putting her down for only have a bachelors degree. I don’t know how I recognised that I wanted to be independent, but I have been fighting for this as long as I remember. I genuinely, even as a child do not recall ever feeling the other way about them. It’s only that when I became a teen, all the rage came out and before that I just had deep down resentment.

I still had a softness for my mother, as despite our fights she always cooked me food and had “some” redeeming qualities. After this fight, she blocked me online and it hurts because despite having a bad relationship with her, she was the mother who emphasised she would never leave me. She always said I am the problem, since I was a child. Then she tells me I am exactly & all the bad habits of my father. I have noticed a pattern where she only listens to the men in her life. My parents constantly fight, always initiated by my dad. I always stand up for my mum and she calls it interfering and says it’s a bad habit. She constantly tells me to fix my behaviour because I will behave like this in my in laws house as well.

I don’t believe I will. In my life, I have only reacted badly to two people and those both are my parents. But it makes me scared and wonder whether she is right? They only point out all the bad things about me. My fiancé planned a beautiful proposal and wanted it to be just us, no parents. I was so happy. We called my mother and her reaction was very simmering anger and went on about why she was invited to be there. We only texted my dad and no response. My fiance was shocked at how they behaved. I always told him this is how they are, they just showed their “best” selves to him. His parents however were happily asking me about how I felt and whether I liked the ring. After the fight, they also pulled out of the engagement dinner an hour before it (same night I planned to stay over). It looked really bad to my future in laws, especially the nature of the occasion.

I don’t know what to do. Any “interfering” on my part has only been to stand up for people who cannot to my dad. I wish I moved out years ago but I thought they would change as I grew up. There has been no progress on the content of our fights and my mother adopts the attitude that she knows “her truth” and refuses to listen to any feeling I might have about a situation concerning her.

Thing is, i would have listened to them to not stay over if they spoke to me calmly, without screaming. I don’t even want this wedding anymore, with all of them there. It’s probably going to be one of the sickest, most anxious days of my life. I feel so alone and I don’t know what to do.

Sorry for the long rant, thank you to whoever reads all the way. I’ve read a few other people with similar stories and just needed to get it off my chest.

Tldr; had a horrible fight with my family and now they’ve blocked me.

I was hoping for some advice regarding bridesmaids and friendships around weddings.

I originally planned on having one bridesmaid (my younger cousin) as thats what was traditionally done in my family (my family is quite traditional). I was content with just having her, but recently something she said hurt me a bit (related to my wedding). She’s also not very interested in weddings/planning in general.

At the same time, a lot of my "closer" friendships have drifted over the past couple of years (job, life etc.). One of my closer friends assumed she’d be a bridesmaid, and years ago I definitely would have chosen her, however the friendship has been very one-sided for the past few years. She has not once checked in on me about how my wedding planning is going (we've met a few times).

Meanwhile, I’ve become really close to a work friend over the past few months, and she’s honestly been the most supportive person throughout this whole process - coming to appointments, checking in on me, giving advice, etc. But my family barely knows her, and coming from a traditional background, it would be strange to everybody there.

My family also keeps asking why I’m only having one bridesmaid so this has made me second guess myself a bit. Im not sure whether to: just have my cousin, choose old friends or choose people who have been there more recently.

Has anybody else dealt with something similar around your own wedding time?