u/Enxun_cityman62

I have this friend and we’ve been friends since the end of February (we’ve known of each other since September) and at the start of our friendship everything was just like out of a dream, we hung out everyday, we have the same name and our name is rare he’s the only other person I know with that name, we told each other everything I mean to the point of our teachers confusing us which I get that I mean we look like twins, we talk and use the same phrases, we dress the same etc. and everything was perfect until a few weeks ago.

A few weeks ago we had our first exam and since I have already passed that exam last year I didn’t need to write it so I didn’t go to school that day but my friend did (Let’s call him Alex for privacy reasons) and after the exam he invited me to the city to hang out with him and some of our mutual friends and ofc I said yes so I went to the place where he told me that him and one of our mutual friend are waiting for me so I did and I waited for 22 minutes for them and I kept texting them where they are and after so much time he just sent me a picture of him and our mutual friend in mine and Alex’s spot which you might think that is no big deal but it is mine and Alex’s spot the first time we hung out we found that spot and ever since we go there to escape from everyone.

And he told me to go there and I was already having a bad day due to arguing with my mom all day and I just told him I’m gonna go back home and that he should be with our mutual friend (if u didn’t catch on I don’t like this “friend” of ours) so I went back home and I just started crying cuz I am an emotional person and after like 30 mins Alex texted me to come to the city and I gave in and I came there and he was so different? Like he wasn’t talking like him and he wasn’t acting like him and anyways me and my group of friends were all out for like an hour and that whole hour when I tried to tell something to anyone they would just all ignore me and and not let me speak and I just wanted to go home so I told Alex that I’m gonna go get an energy drink and go home and he said well let’s go ask our friends if they wanna come too for energy drinks and atp I was so over it I was like yea okay and we went to them and Alex told them “We are gonna go get energy drinks but we are gonna go alone so we will come back later” turned around took my hand and just walked away.

After we walked a bit he said something about how annoying they were today and after that we had the most fun hang out ever I mean he told me that he just wanted to hang out with me and that we aren’t gonna go back to them and everything was just awesome and we went to like this hill thingy and there was some man and me and Alex started talking to him and what I mean by me and Alex it was just Alex and that man talking for 2 hours while ignoring me the whole time and when I tried to say anything or add anything to the story Alex would just shush me off and after 2 hours me and Alex were walking home and I just broke down and told Alex everything how I was feeling the ignoring and that he acts so tough and makes fun of me right in front my face but is such a softie and so nice to me in private and he just hugged me what felt like for a million years and just kept apologizing to me for his actions and that was the Alex I knew just a big softie.

Okay so after that whole breaking down thing and him apologizing and hugging me he still hasn’t changed it’s like he got worse? I mean at school he ignores me when we’re with our other friends but when we’re alone he’s so talkative and so nice and when I text him he takes like 3 hours to text back but to other people he texts back instantly? And I just don’t know after that day he just became like even more different to me in front of everyone but when we’re alone he’s become even more of a softie? Like what I mean by softie is he’s so nice to me and he’s so interested in what I have to say and always has nice things to say about me?

I don’t know is it because I am wearing jealousy glasses and I am just way more obsessive about him or is just because I am a jealous friend? Someone help me figure it out I am going insane and my brain won’t let me forget all of the small details and all of the ignoring and the talking bad about me right in front of me but my brain also won’t shut up about the fact that he hugs me and that when we have a sleepover we cuddle up and wake up smelling like each other or the fact that his mom absolutely adores me and I mean she calls me just to chit chat about life, idk what to do should I tell him everything from the start to the finish? Or am I overreacting over this whole thing and I should just shut up and suck up all of the good parts of him? But I want him to be a softie to me more than a tough guy. Honestly idk what to do and I don’t wanna feel like this and I hope someone out here understands what I am trying to say and is gonna give me actual good advice.

Sorry for the bad English it isn’t my first language.

Before reading keep in mind English isn’t my first language so if there’s any grammar mistakes I am sorry!

So I have this one friend and we haven’t been friends for a long time (since the end of February) but we’ve known of each other since September, how we met is that we are classmates (we both transferred to a new school at the start of the school year) and I mean we would say hi to each other but that was like it for our friendship until one day he texted me if I wanna hang out and I said sure and ever since we’ve been inseparable, I mean to the point where our teachers mix us up because we’re both so similar: we both have dark hair, we’re both into the same artist, we both like the same movies, our styles are copy n paste of one each other, I mean even our names are the same and we both have an extremely rare name and he’s the only other Alex that I know (for privacy reasons I am saying a generic name), one of our teachers called us “magnets” cuz we were in class goofing off and she separated us but next lesson he sat next to me again (we had a double lesson) and when I asked her why she called us magnets she said: “because you two are like magnets, if you try to pull one magnet away from each other there still gonna end up colliding due to magnetic force”.

Anyways, like I said I feel like this kind of attachment to him? Idk how to explain it like for example every day he sends me like over 50+ TikTok’s a day and he just randomly stopped the last time I got a TikTok from him was ~3 days ago and that’s weird cuz he’s always on TikTok, and like today he slept over at mine and the whole afternoon he was sitting on TikTok and sending everyone else TikTok’s but not me? What does that mean? And idk he’s so different around our mutual friends and then me like last week me, him and some of our friends were out in town and they were all talking and socializing but the second I tried to say something they would ignore me so I didn’t say anything and went home and Alex texted me to come to town and I did and for like the first hour they were still ignoring me (including Alex) and then we were at like this gas station and Alex said “wanna ditch them and go hangout just the two of us?” And ofc I said yes and we just ditched them and had so much fun just the two of us but why would he ignore me then when I went back home he invited me again just to ignore me and then said let’s ditch them and then he was like the Alex I knew?

I mean there’s so many more stories I could tell you but my phones already overheating from all this text but idk I just feel like he’s so different with everyone else than to me? Like last week when we ditched our friends I told him everything like how he’s been ignoring me and how’s he’s different to our friends than me and more he just said sorry and hugged me? Like is that normal? Am I just overthinking everything cuz I’ve never been this close to another person before and I crave their attention?

I mean we have a whole vacation planned, tickets already payed for (back story he moved back to our home country after living abroad for 10 years in like July and him and his mom invited me to come to one of the Scandinavian countries for privacy reasons not telling which one) and I asked him if he invited any of our other friends to come also and he said no because he’s only friends with them just because he’s friends with them and I am the only one he invited? I don’t even know what that is supposed to mean but like idk I just feel crazy and like I said I have so many more stories to tell you but I feel like that’s enough

So can anyone tell me am I overthinking? Am I going crazy because he’s the only person I’ve ever been this close to? Or am I right and he’s fully ignoring me even after telling him everything from the being different to me then to others to the ignoring? Someone help me because I am going insane and I need someone to help me figure it out

Help!!

So, I’ve never been gay nor have I ever looked at men in a romantic way, I’ve always liked women and I’ve always had relationships with women only, so this happened last night and I am so confused..

So me and my best guy friend were hanging out and he invited me over so I came over to his place and it was around 12pm and I was getting ready to go home but he suggested that I stay the night so I did.

Everything was normal, we cooked some eggs and ate them, had a few beers (we’re both 18 so it’s legal in my country) then we went to his bedroom turned on a movie and started just talking about life, studies, we played some clash of clans, yk typical stuff.

It was around 2am when we went to bed and like always we slept in the same bed cuz we’re just used to that (which also some people say it’s gay to sleep with the same gender friends in the same bed but I don’t see that as gay just close friends) and as always he fell asleep first and like 10 mins later i knocked out

I woke up around like 5am and my head was on his chest and we were holding hands and I tried to get away from him but he was hugging me really tightly, but I didn’t want to get away from him? Like I liked cuddling with him and I liked the way his hands felt on mine and I just stayed like that for like 20 mins and I noticed that his head was almost on the ground so I like pushed his head up and he sat up like sleeping and he started to massage my head and then he hugged me even tighter but I liked it.. while being on his chest I like the feeling of feeling his heartbeat next to my ear and I liked the way he smelled.

I didn’t move and I couldn’t fall asleep so I was just like that cuddling him, laying on his chest for like 2 hours and it was like a feeling I’ve never felt and then I fell asleep and around at 10am we woke up still cuddling and holding hands and we just kinda turned around from each other but he scooted over to me and I felt his buttocks on my buttocks and idk I didn’t wanna move so I didn’t..

Idk what to feel, I’m not gay, I’ve never felt like this to any of my guy friends nor any men in general and I am just so confused why did I like that so much? Why did I like cuddling with him and smelling his cologne on his neck and stuff.. I don’t know what to feel I’ve been thinking about this the whole day and I just can’t stop imagining us cuddling and that weird feeling in my gut..

Can someone explain? Like is this a normal experience and many guys have cuddled with other guys and had that gut feeling but in a good way? Or am I just being dramatic? But I’m not gay and I don’t see myself with him like I can’t imagine me and him being in a romantic relationship only friends.. I am so confused