u/Equal-Echidna8098

Honestly I don't even know how I got over there. But being over there reminds me that I am very very well within the ace spectrum and I am certainly not like those people. But don't do it. Yes. Of course you can have sex and enjoy sex as a demisexual person, but when that emotional connection is broken the sex no longer wants to come for me. And I am fine with that.
How do they work? How does it work for them? I feel broken when I read their comments about how they need sex. I don't. Why don't I work that way either?

My husband has always had a nuclear radioactive colon. Everyone who meets him agrees that his farts are off the charts, let alone when he wants to drop a turd.
It's not just me who notices. Anyone who visits our house is disgusted by it. We go on holidays and our friends and family notice the smell even outdoors.
I can't tell you how bad it is.
He refuses to address it or discuss it with a doctor. Refuses. And anytime I try to ask him to try probiotics, to switch his diet up and add more fibre or fermented food he raises his voice, swears at me and otherwise just abuses the shit out of me (pardon the pun) for even saying anything. I can't get a single word in without him bellowing and yelling at me.
He has told me in the past that he would be too 'embarrassed' to talk to a GP about it when I've asked him to discuss it with his doctor. He also refuses to get a bowel screen done for unknown reasons. Our government provides tests for free but he refuses to do it.

There's got to be some under lining health problem here. I can be on the other side of the house and the smell will get right under my nose and infiltrate every corner of the room. And it's not just me being stunk out by him. Our daughter agrees with me. And like I said visitors will say the same thing. It's not normal.
He will try to spray the smell but for some reason it just makes the smell worse.

Am I the arsehole for being offended here? Today he blamed me for working from home and if I had gone into the city I wouldn't have had to have smelled it. I was just trying to to rest in my lunch break and my bedroom gets filled with his poop smells it's like im sleeping in a toilet.

What would you do? Our marriage is pretty much non existent now and I'm just waiting until I can get some legal advice about moving. But what can I do about his refusal to address his health hygiene issues when he refuses to believe he HAS an issue. And I fear that because I can smell it he's spreading germs around the house in some
Sort of atomic fecal spray.