u/Equivalent-Train-862

Good morning,

I have been considering wearing the hijab. I do would like to ask my sisters around. How has your journey towards the hijab like? I know it takes some time, but I would love to hear everyone. I will always be forever thankful.

Also, where do you guys buy your hijabs from online? A site you can trust. I see so many pretty ones on Instagram from stores, there ones that look like jelly like designs. It’s wavy-like.

Good evening,

I hope I find some sense of shared experiences here with someone or many. I went to the office to leave the laptop on the desktop as my husband used it on the kitchen table, so I didn’t mind putting it back. When I bend over to charge the laptop, I saw this cup near the bed (it had some sloppy tap water it with some cinnamon and cloves on it) where my mother-in-law sleeps at. It was kind of there by it, the office smelled awful and saw it. It smelled almost vinegar like the office, and that room catches humidity the most and it makes it worse.

I told her when she came back from her workplace and questioned her what it was. She immediately got defensive and said it was a tea that she always drank every night. I told her still the room smells like vinegar can you throw it away? She raised her voice saying how dare I say it smelled like such and put the cup near me to smell it. It did smelled. And started going on a tangent on how I’m always complaining about her and how my husband goes to tell her about it (drawing boundaries on things). I do whatever the fuck I want, blah blah.

Now, I told her to not be raising her voice at me to not disrespect me like that. Just because you “talk loud” doesn’t justify mistreatment. That she was in my house. Then when on yapping and say things that I know is to clearly cause me emotional harm such as: Oh my son I made him to grow such a good man and he can also still leave you and replace you at any moment because I’m his mother. I didn’t have a reaction and I guessed that pissed her off more and or He said I’m also the owner of this house so I can whatever the fuck I want. She kept on going and going. Mind you she said everything in front of my husband before he left again for work.

Mind you, she moved in because she found a job close by our house (my husband didn’t even considered my opinion first whether I was okay with her to stay or not). I’m 9 months pregnant, the doctor said that everyone living with you must get the Tdap. I know some people don’t like vaccines and that’s okay! I don’t mind if any of you don’t like them. I’m okay with that but it was our decision as a marriage to get it for the sake of the baby. She doesn’t want to the tdap because “medication” doesn’t work and medical work is shit. I told him your mother needs to leave because she will be here living with us (she works with elderly sick people) she needs to consider it.

Was I wrong to make boundaries?

I’m so sorry this was so long, but I had to clarify many things.