After 2.5 years of trying, we had our first ever positive pregnancy test after first ever FET ! (Untested day 5 4bb). Lots of hurdles to come but I couldn’t be more grateful or surprised ! Beta was 320!! Praise God !
Sorry if this breaks any rules - but for those of you who have had positive pregnancy tests and go onto have successful pregnancies and live births …. Was your mind just completely blown that IVF worked for
You?
I’m about to have my first FET next month (untested 4bb (day 5)) and I keep trying to imagine a positive result and honestly I don’t know if I’d even believe a positive pregnancy test if I saw it in front of my own eyes! lol. Like at this point , it may as well be folklore . Logically I know it is a possible outcome, and hopefully a likely outcome , but I’m having significant difficulty imagining at this point . I think I’d be purely flabbergasted in the best way! Some days I feel hopeful but mostly I just can’t imagine it .
Is this normal ? Common?
I’m waiting for first FET in September and have two untested embryos (day 5 4bb and day 6 4bc).
I’m spiraling in this wait and keep convincing myself that IVF isn’t going to work. Please!!! - I need bombardment of untested embryo success stories, especially “fair” grades!!
Long story short , I’m a couple of years into an infertility journey and undergoing ivf /awaiting FET. I have two untested embryos which felt like a “win” to get. But I’m just really nervous about upcoming transfers and knowing that two untested embryos does not necessarily equal a baby.
I’ve been having a really tough time being around babies and toddlers as an extension of my grief and uncertainty of what will happen. I’ve been roped into traveling to spend time with my family this weekend which will include my mom , SIL, brother, their 4mo old, and 2 yo. My husband isn’t able to attend with me . When I told my mom that I’m feeling super anxious regarding how I’ll emotionally do for the weekend and that I may decide to stay home , she said “I thought you were feeling positive now that you have embryos . Your brother is going to feel really bad if you can’t come meet their baby” . Her tone was “disappointed”.
And this of course made me Feel like shit . I’ve been an extremely attentive aunt to all of my nieces and nephews up until this point . I never miss a gift for bdays/Christmas, I’ve travelled to visit my sister and her kids countless times, I invite them to my house each summer for “camp” and we do all sorts of fun things. I never come without a gift whenever I see them.
My family just assumes that because I have embryos that I should be “good” now. I’ve tried to explain the emotional impacts of infertility, that IVF does not equal baby in all cases , that I’m not a bad person for being anxious around babies , that I’m grieving my own baby who I’ve never met and may not ever get to meet .
So I’m just completely dreading this weekend . I’m so sick of expending so much energy on pretending I’m ok. And then feeling guilty when I express that I’m struggling and that I’m actually not ok. It seems easier to keep this to myself /my husband rather than share it with people who don’t get it . They just think I should be excited . And some days I am.
My family is extremely loving and I do think they’re trying . But my gosh I feel so isolated . My plan is just to run pretend errands, go for runs, or stay busy with tasks like cooking while I’m there if I’m having a tough time . Just makes me sad because my family is typically my comfort place and my favorite people to be around . Infertility takes so much.
I appreciate this community a lot . Thanks for letting me rant . I welcome any tips you might have for me emotionally surviving the weekend and maybe even figuring out how to enjoy it ?? Love to you all 💕
Hi everyone !
I have 3 months until FET and need projects to keep me distracted . One of my projects : I want to make some friendship -style bracelets to give to my ivf clinic to give out to other patients either with egg retrievals or transfers as tokens of encouragement and solidarity .
I need your help figuring out what they should say , as I want to sure I account for all situations and to not trigger anyone .
Options I have thought of so far : “peace”, “hope”, “soon”, “love wins”, “strength”
If you were getting a bracelet during your ivf journey , what would you want it to say? Please send feedback and any other ideas you have ! Thank you!!
Hi all,
I hope this isn’t too weird but I’m not a mom (yet!) but I just love browsing this sub so much. I love hearing stories of your triangle families thriving and all of the positives that come with having an only .
My husband and I are in the throws of infertility/ivf and it’s pretty clear that we will be fortunate if we get to have one child. This at first didn’t fit my vision of what parenthood would look like, not because I necessarily wanted multiple children, but because my brain literally didn’t think of having one child as an option! (Brainwashed by society?).
Reading and hearing all of your stories just brings happy tears to my eyes and helps me to realize that having an only child just sounds so incredible . The benefits are abounding .My husband is a pilot and so this also would just fit our lifestyle so well . I dream of traveling together and not feeling too overwhelmed when he’s on a trip and I’m the sole parent for the week . I dream of giving my child the world and all of my time without having to be mentally or financially pulled in so many directions.
So I guess I’m just saying thank you to all of you who share! Thanks for helping me to keep my dream alive and helping me to live through you !!
Feel free to comment on grading of the embryo that ended up being successful !