u/Equivalent_Pop_2896

Sorry this is long. So my husband and I have a 15 month old daughter. When she was born, she was extremely colicky and had reflux so we didn’t do a whole lot of fun things when she was small. She’s mostly a happy girl now, but has been teething and going through a sleep regression and that has been hard. Anyway, root of the story. So my husband has mainly single friends/ friends who don’t have kids, so they don’t really have responsibilities in that way. My husband sometimes feels bummed that he can’t do all the things that his friends do, and kind of blames me for this though I feel like that’s kinda just the reality of having a child.

Mother’s Day weekend he wanted to go bear hunting all of Saturday and I didn’t want him to, mainly because what on Gods green earth are we going to do with a bear? Plus he looked it up and it said it costs like $2k to have a bear rug made and we just do NOT have that kind of money to be throwing around right now. His friend suggested freezing the hide. Where are we going to freeze a hide for X amount of months/ possibly more? That would likely cost money as well. So after we talked it all over he decided not to go that weekend, but apparently still views it as me “not letting him go.”

I moved to his state to be with him, and don’t really have people here outside of his sisters, who I adore but they are moms also and we are all busy so I mostly only see them when there’s family things and we are all there. We are making a trip to see my family, who lives states away so I rarely get to see them. My sisters suggested a girls trip to the river (basically just to enjoy the sun) and I was excited and told them I would love to go and my husband would probably be down to watch our daughter since he wouldn’t really have much else to do there anyway. The UV is going to be 8 the day we’d go, and I don’t really want my daughter out in the sun for hours. I brought it up to my husband when I got home and he basically just told me that he’s not really down for it because he doesn’t get to do stuff like that. But he does… and we see his family all the time while I never see mine. He sees his friends and gets to do things with them, sometimes things that take all day. Not that these things are often, but they still happen, and I have our daughter while he is away. He’s telling me now that I can’t go with my sisters because he didn’t get to go bear hunting. Just ranting I guess. I’m so mad right now but genuinely don’t know if I’m just pmsing

This is probably a niche “problem” but when my baby was born I bought these nuk pacifiers where you can see into baby’s mouth when using the pacifier. I didn’t really think much of it, but my husband was like umm those are odd let’s get different ones. I can kinda see where he’s coming from, so I had been looking at other pacifiers and I like the Ninni ones for their design/ function but there’s the same issue of the mouth part being see through. Any recs for pacifiers like the Ninni minus the see through mouth piece? Sorry if this is dumb haha 😅

Last night my in laws took my daughter for a few hours in the evening to spend time with her, but didn’t return her til 1.5 hours after her bed time. We put her to bed as soon as she was home. I was having trouble sleeping so despite laying down around 10 I was still awake at midnight when she started 0-100 screaming, stood up in her crib and was staring at me as she wailed. I rocked her for a while, she calmed down, I put her back in her crib and she started wailing again. I get up, warm up her heated stuffy, give her some milk, Tylenol, lay her back down. She starts wailing again. So I take her into bed with us. She immediately starts crawling around, I tell her if she’s going to be in bed with us she needs to lay down. She lays still for a while but ends up getting up again. By this point it’s like 2 am. I put her back in her crib. More screaming. Make sure her diaper isn’t soiled. It’s not. Soothing, back into the crib. Screaming. Horrible. It felt like the 4 mo sleep regression all over. Idk what caused this, just sleep regression, if her routine was messed up so it caused over tiredness, I wouldn’t think it was just teething as she had medicine, but I seriously don’t know. On top of my sleepless night my husband texted me today and told me he wants to go hunting tomorrow.. like 5 am- 11pm while I solo our teething, nap skipping, sleep deprived little one. 🫠