Parents don’t like when you’re able to recognise your own symptoms and the limits it imposes on you
I (21m) got out of a discussion with my parents and I just came to this realisation.
This discussion was trying to discuss my unemployment, me not giving it my all and general seeming lack of care even though I have the time and the current money issues that are facing us, (we’re not *broke* but cost of living has been increasing) and that I needed to ‘pull up my socks’. I agreed with my parents that I’m not doing the best I can and then I started to discuss *why* that is the case and that’s where we got into a small argument.
It’s only recently that I’ve suspected my possible ADHD and I have been somewhat open with them about it, but despite the fact they believe in mental health(my dads mother suffers from Bipolar and he was the only one who noticed it), they can’t seem to wrap their heads around the fact that this is a possible brain issue, not a character flaw. They say I’m trapping myself in a box and that I just need to try harder. I *have!*
I went to a psychologist and even they suspect I have it, (I’m going to a psychiatrist next week) my dad just said I shouldn’t take their words to heart and that they might just want money. Mind you, he has frequently criticised me for my lack of initiative and my inability to focus.
He then revealed that there are multiple people on his side of the family who also struggle to complete tasks despite their minds running with ideas. Geez, I wonder what that could mean!
They are also somewhat against the idea of me getting medicated, cause I’m too young apparently.
I wasn’t telling them my symptoms to make excuses, I was very matter of fact about illustrating my patterns. But they still think it’s just a matter of will powering through. They see how my current behaviours are impacting every aspect of my life and have been for a long time, but they also don’t like when I say that this could be because of an actual disorder and not just me not wanting to put in the effort.
It’s infuriating