u/EuphoricFault5607

ALMOST like a dream come true. He pretty much said he would love to if I came over. Now I do not think I should because I know he is not interested in a relationship with me. But it’s like one of my fantasies may come true. I also know we would be super compatible sexually. Should I do it?? I know the answer is probably no but maybe I need to hear it externally. It’s the most tempting thing ever but I know he would be using me. But he is so sexy I would absolutely love it.

EDIT: I am unlikely to do it. I thought about it and the concept of it makes me feel so desperate and gross. It’s such a special thing in my eyes and he doesn’t deserve to have me that way if he cannot even be in a relationship with me. It’s crazy I have been obsessed with him for more than a year, I always thought I’d jump at the opportunity but it makes me feel so icky as much as I’d like to.

I (21F) got really close with a guy (26m). I unintentionally got myself in a situationship and got so close with him. In my head we were practically dating, we did so much together. Anyways I talked to him the other day because I was hoping to be more official and he essentially said we can’t be together. Now I feel so desperate and have been texting him so much just to receive maybe 1 sentence responses if any. I have been trying everything to get his attention (I know it is a bit pathetic). Anyways I told him I was hurt how he doesn’t respond. He said that he won’t change and that’s who he is. I know he can and has before, so I don’t know why he is saying that. I guess I should respect that but I feel so pathetic, and honestly whenever I talk to him I feel worse than before. I am an upbeat excited person and I just feel like he rains on my parade, but he can be that type of excited person and was with me once upon a time. It sucks when I see him behave that way with others at college. I want to stop texting him but I genuinely feel like I love him and I want to find any excuse to study with him, I even offer to drive him anywhere he needs. I really need physical restraints on my phone. I cannot block him because we are in a similar circle and it would cause more issues, but I can’t give him this much access to me anymore, so I want to stop personally texting him. I miss him so much though. Like so much whenever something happens I want to call him and tell him. Once upon a time he was like this with me, but now I will talk to him and he will literally ignore me and go on Instagram or study as I speak to him it makes me feel genuinely pathetic. I am a pretty ish girl and I am kind and desirable, I don’t know why he is now treating me this way.
You will never see this and I already told you how I feel, but I really miss when you cared about me. I wish you did not lead me on and make me think you loved me as much as I love you.
I have decided I will never text him first again, probably never again as I always initiate. It’s pathetic too I never had him he is literally a situationship. I never thought I’d let myself be in one of those.

I know I am dumb as fuck. I didn’t think anything would come of it. I just have so many feelings and don’t know what to do with them. He of course said he really loves me as a friend. I can’t handle it. I really love him in any way u can love someone. I sent another message and haven’t gotten a response. I kind of accept that he is probably tired of my feelings. I needed him to know once more that I love him in case he changes his mind, because now I will look for someone else. It’s not really fair that he flirts with me and then doesn’t at other times, or maybe that’s who he is and I just take everything flirtatiously because I have feelings. I really can’t love this guy forever it hurts a lot. I also think I am too valuable to feel like a loyal dog who would do anything for attention. It’s so addicting and euphoric when he gives it to me though. Still praying for him daily and probably won’t stop for a bit. If I can’t have him I hope he finds a woman who will treat him as well as he deserves to be honest. I hope I find a man who treats me as well as I want to treat him. Ideally it works out to be each other but it’s not looking good 💀

EDIT: thank you for all the responses, genuinely. I will read them whenever I miss him and want to reach out. I don’t know if I will be able to go no contact yet but I will try.

My LO is so sweet and sometimes will act like a bf, but only sees me platonically. But he does stuff that is so sweet all the time and says stuff that is sweet and I just want to be his gf so bad. He was so awkward with me the other day and my friend (delusional with me) was like oh he was so shy with you, of course I am thinking I WISH. I have not told her that I hit on this guy in every which way and told him I like him already and he rejected me. It is so painful to think about a person you know you will literally never have all the time, especially being close friends with him. I feel guilty because he is just a sweet guy but I interpret everything romantically first, then try to change the lens to platonic. If you asked me today to marry this guy I would say yes (well not marry but you know). The thing is though, our relationship is more than I would let a platonic friend be, and I know no woman would date this guy with how we behave together. When this inevitably happens I will be heartbroken. I sometimes wonder if hes this nice to me because he feels bad and knows I am totally smitten with him. I think about him all the time and get so excited when he calls me or better yet, when I see him. Sometimes though if he ignores me or is not the nicest it ruins full days for me.

I really love him. I feel like he’s so precious and has so many wonderful traits and I honestly can’t get him out of my head. He’s so much sweeter to me than the average man but he will never be mine which I respect but I can’t get over him. I don’t know even if I want to get over him I just want him to be mine. But I in the last 2 days saw him hugging other girls and I know I sound crazy but that really hurt me. I am so jealous over someone who will never be mine and it sucks. I feel like I get so jealous of any girl around him. I think recently my fav thing about him is his smile, which is weird bc before I was obsessed with how muscular he was, but now I just can’t get over how cute his smile is to me.

He isn’t perfect though, and I can list many times he hurt my feelings. He also isn’t the most thoughtful, or chivalrous in a lot of ways which is something I want in a man. For example, guys will usually open doors for me but he doesn’t do that. He calls me a lot and we call each other while we just do things which i absolutely love. But I know he wants to get into a relationship and married and when that happens it will hurt. There are reasons we can’t be together and he knows I like him, but I know if those reasons were not there he wouldn’t even choose me, unless I changed fundamentally in one way (without specifying). Problem is I want him to be mean or bad so I can get over him but he keeps being so sweet. And honestly I feed him a lot and I love it. I want to cook for him, which is crazy bc I never thought I’d want to do that for a man but he’s so sweet. But he will never feel the way I want him to for me. At most he finds me physically attractive but I know he will never like me like that. I wish he could because I literally pray in my head so much that all the circumstances change and he is mine. It’s crazy because I couldn’t imagine anyone feeling the way I feel about him towards me. I feel so guilty because if I didn’t feel this towards him I wouldn’t do what I do. I have other male friends I don’t even think about, but this man is so deep in my heart he doesn’t even know, or worse he knows but doesn’t care because I will never reach to that for him.

I have been obsessed with my friend for almost a year now. I almost got over him earlier this year but I am seeing him so often now. He knows all of my feelings too which is so embarrassing. But I love him as a friend too I just feel like a clown. I have adhd so I am always obsessed with someone but I try to limit it to celebrities. This man has such a hold on me. I literally always think of him. My brain drifts always when I’m stressed or pretty much anytime and he is what I think of. I hate myself for raising a man’s ego this much too lol. It’s actually bad like he knows his opinion matters so much to me.

I am not sure if this is the right place to post this and I am sorry if it isnt. I have always had a lot of knowledge about mental health. Since I was younger I always knew what ED’s looked like. My anxiety has recently gotten so bad recently, and I used to be a gym rat for awhile and I loved my body and eating enough at a calorie surplus and lifting heavy. But around the start of this year I got a knee injury which has made it hard to go to the gym. I always had body image issues but this has caused me to feel like shit. I have also had a lot of really significant life changes and my anxiety has been getting so bad, I recently was diagnosed with GAD(I was also diagnosed with ADHD 5 years ago). I have been doing a lot of behaviours that I recently realized are consistent with eating disorders. I’m scared I’m developing one but I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to tell people, I am scared they will try to monitor what I am eating or make a huge deal out of it. But I don’t know what to do now, as I lost a lot of weight in the past and I really can’t let myself gain it back. It’s been close to 5 months now and I think it’s been progressively getting worse, I have like random rules that I just keep adding on to and I get so anxious if I don’t follow them. This is a horrible way to think and I am not condoning it, please don’t take what I’m saying as anything positive. I hope I am not triggering anyone I am really sorry if I am.