Has Any Man Here Developed Feelings for Someone Else While in a Long-Term Relationship?
Been with my fiancée for almost 8 years, basically since high school. We went to college together too. Never thought I’d be in this position mentally.
Recently there’s been a coworker at my job that I can’t stop thinking about. What’s weird is I wasn’t even attracted to her at first. But the more I got to know her, the more attractive she became. She’s confident, smart, well traveled, independent, and just carries herself really well. We talk a lot at work and it feels like she goes out of her way to talk to me sometimes, even more after finding out I’m engaged.
Now I catch myself thinking about her constantly. To the point where I feel like I’ve been losing attraction toward my fiancée, which honestly makes me feel guilty because we’ve built a whole life together.
I haven’t crossed any lines physically or emotionally beyond conversations at work, but mentally I feel conflicted.
Has any man here gone through something similar in a long-term relationship? Was it just a temporary crush/fantasy or did it mean something deeper was missing in your relationship? Any advice will help!