u/ExactWay3171

Hey everyone. I need some support and advice. I've been manifesting for about a month and a half. At first it was about her, but then I shifted to self concept with a tiny bit of her. We had a 2 year relationship. Post breakup, she was bread crumbing me on socials like a friend, like friend zoning me. We never explicitly agreed to friendship. There was no talk. There was no closure. Nothing. I decided I needed to set a boundary, to say I wasn't interested in friendship and that if she wanted to talk about us she can reach me, because I deserve better than breadcrumbs. I deserve at the very least a talk or something along those lines.

Well I just had that difficult talk with my ex. It didn't even last 5 min. I told her I wasn't available for a friendship, that I missed being together and that I valued our relationship, but I'm not able to be her friend and I removed us from following each other on socials. The way she reacted was that of someone totally fine with it, and almost cheerful or relieved in a way.

It feels so over. It felt like she had moved on honestly, and was in no place to be together again. I don't know what to do anymore. Her reaction was not what I was expecting at all and I was expecting her to at least be a little upset about it. Nothing. At all. She wasn't upset, sad, remorseful, just content and told me "Yeah I totally understand." This whole time I thought she was missing me, thinking about me, and loving me. The reaction I got tonight was that of someone whos totally moved on, completely fine with their decision, and is over me.

I feel like I've been wasting my time manifesting her. I don't know what to do anymore. This hurts like hell. I've been building my self concept and working on myself a ton, but her emotional armor is bulletproof.

Help. I need encouragement. I don't want to give up on us. I miss her and love her. She is showing no signs of that to me right now.

Hey everyone. So I posted here about 3 weeks ago that I had an ex I was trying to manifest. She had been hovering my socials for about 2 months, reposting my stuff, watching stories, liking my reels, keeping me in a painful loop of "she misses me, she wants me back or does she?" So I did a hard step of removing her off my socials, and that really helped me focus on myself and my life. I still visualize, affirm, all that good stuff. I affirm for other things too, not just her, but she's in the equation. Life has been getting better post our separation and I'm feeling more confident overall. However, I'd be lying to myself if I said I still did not desire her back.

Today I saw what I guess you could call, "movement." She DM's me on Instagram, but its a breadcrumb---not even a full one, a breadcrumb of a breadcrumb. It was something so small, so insignificant. This is after 3 weeks of silence. I know I deserve better, I deserve more than this, and honestly, I reacted internally, which I know isn't right. I got angry. The whole idea of the message made me angry that she still would string me along like this after removing her off socials. My finger hovered over the block button for a bit, but I was scared to go ahead with it. It felt like she had indifference about me, that she didn't even notice my removing of her as a follower and unfollowing. Which truth be told, I did it for myself because I know i'm worth more than just a breadcrumb. It was a 2 year relationship. I was surprised and angry to say the least.

Now, she has an item that belongs to me, its of sentimental value and she asked a favor to hang on to it for a couple of weeks, and I obliged. That was over a month ago.

I am thinking to ask for it now, that enough time has passed, and when we meet in person, just tell her that I am closing the chapter on us, and if she has anything to say about us, past, present or future, say it now otherwise its been nice knowing you, good luck to you and no hard feelings of course.

What do you all think about this? I cannot stay in the painful loop of having her constantly contact me with meaningless bullshit and continuing to deflect from talking about our breakup. She is what you'd call, avoidant. Now I also have stopped describing her as that in my head, because I want to manifest the version of her that isn't, which I know is possible. So. for the sake of this post, I am using that term but I want it to be clear, I have been affirming for the version of her that isn't, who loves me and wants me back.

I still want her back in my life, I still care for her, but I'm not sure how to properly move on in a healthy way. And perhaps detach even if she still circles back with breadcrumbs while avoiding our breakup and past all the time.

Is this a step worth taking with her? Am I supposed to ignore this and continue "persisting?" For the record, I am quickly reaching a state where I am possibly ok with losing her forever. Its not my favorite place, and I'm probably not 100% there, but today definitely increased those odds because of her unwillingness to talk about us. I'd say I'm in the 60-70% range, I lose her and thats ok, I will be fine. We'll see how the week pans out, but I'm kind of wrestling with this decision---it feels like I may be trying to force something that still could be playing out in my favor. But if I am setting respectful boundaries and showing her I'm moving on, isn't that also healthy and attractive? Would love opinions. Thanks

EDIT: And for context, it was a 2 year relationship, we've been almost 3 months broken up with limited no contact, and I have been on my manifestation journey (not perfectly but as best I can) for the last month or so.

Hi! I’ve got an 6 song EP written and ready to go for this “Arab” metal project I’ve been working on for a year. The music is best described as modern metal but combined with Arabic percussion, Arab instruments and Arab influences. The main metal influences are Stray from the path, rage against the machine, System of a Down, the doom soundtrack, Limp Bizkit, and Architects.

The fundamental core DNA of this project is political. We are a proudly anti-imperial, anti-fascist, pro Palestinian project and I am Palestinian American myself. If that’s something you’re uncomfortable with or deters you, then please don’t hit us up, it’s all good!

If you’re curious how the music sounds check out the Instagram with a couple of previews up: https://www.instagram.com/zaytband\_?igsh=MTByeHZnNnJ4aXhjOA%3D%3D&utm\_source=qr

We welcome any genders, minorities or people to join, if you’re a drummer skilled in metal music we’d love to chat with you and see if you’re a good fit. Initially I was hoping to make the whole band Arab but finding a metal drummer who’s Arab AND in the Seattle area is kind of like finding a needle in a haystack so no worries if you’re not!

We are also seeking a singer in the styles of the aforementioned bands.

Please reach out if this speaks to you! Thanks.

Hi! I’ve got an 6 song EP written and ready to go for this “Arab” metal project I’ve been working on for a year. The music is best described as modern metal but combined with Arabic percussion, Arab instruments and Arab influences. The main metal influences are Stray from the path, rage against the machine, System of a Down, the doom soundtrack, Limp Bizkit, and Architects.

The fundamental core DNA of this project is political. We are a proudly anti-imperial, anti-fascist, pro Palestinian project and I am Palestinian American myself. If that’s something you’re uncomfortable with or deters you, then please don’t hit us up, it’s all good!

If you’re curious how the music sounds check out the Instagram with a couple of previews up: https://www.instagram.com/zaytband\_?igsh=MTByeHZnNnJ4aXhjOA%3D%3D&utm\_source=qr

We welcome any genders, minorities or people to join, if you’re a drummer skilled in metal music we’d love to chat with you and see if you’re a good fit. Initially I was hoping to make the whole band Arab but finding a metal drummer who’s Arab AND in the Seattle area is kind of like finding a needle in a haystack so no worries if you’re not!

We are also seeking a vocalist who can do the styles of the bands mentioned in this post.

Please reach out if this speaks to you! Thanks.

Hi! I’ve got an 6 song EP written and ready to go for this “Arab” metal project I’ve been working on for a year. We currently have a singer for the project, but we need a drummer. The music is best described as modern metal but combined with Arabic percussion, Arab instruments and Arab influences. The main metal influences are Stray from the path, rage against the machine, System of a Down, the doom soundtrack, Limp Bizkit, and Architects.

The fundamental core DNA of this project is political. We are a proudly anti-imperial, anti-fascist, pro Palestinian project and I am Palestinian American myself. If that’s something you’re uncomfortable with or deters you, then please don’t hit us up, it’s all good!

If you’re curious how the music sounds check out the Instagram with a couple of previews up: https://www.instagram.com/zaytband_?igsh=MTByeHZnNnJ4aXhjOA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

We welcome any genders, minorities or people to join, if you’re a drummer skilled in metal music we’d love to chat with you and see if you’re a good fit. Initially I was hoping to make the whole band Arab but finding a metal drummer who’s Arab AND in the Seattle area is kind of like finding a needle in a haystack so no worries if you’re not!

Please reach out if this speaks to you! Thanks.