AITA for asking my friend to not tell her boyfriend about what we talk about
For context, I’ve known this friend for two years now and she’s just recently gone with her boyfriend maybe 10 months ago. So recently, my boyfriend broke up with me and I went to her wondering what to do needing comfort. And never did she tell me her boyfriend was sitting right next to her. I was being very vulnerable and open and I was not ready to let anyone else know that we had broken up because I was not emotionally ready. Me and her boyfriend have a playful sort of banter going back-and-forth sometimes but sometimes he goes too far and I try and tell him that makes me comfortable. Could you not do that and he just ignores it. So recently he’s been kept saying “well that’s why your boyfriend broke up with you”. And we hung out a couple days ago with her, her boyfriend and a couple of her friends and the whole entire time her boyfriend kept commenting on the ways. I looked how I did my makeup what I was wearing what I posted on social media. It made me very uncomfortable and I tried to tell him I did not like that, but he would not listen. So recently, I texted her “Look I’m not comfortable with what your boyfriend said to me at the dance. He took it way too far. I also didn’t like it that he saw that me and (ex boyfriend) broke up when I went too you looking for comfort. I get ya’ll are together but I wasn’t ready for other people to know I just needed someone to talk to. I get me and your boyfriend have a playful banter going on. But sometimes he goes to far and when i try and say I’m not comfortable with that he just ignores it. And the comments he made about me at the dance were not ok. I’ve work hard to be comfortable with what I post and who I am and him making thoses comments where not okay. I’ve tried to ask him to stop but he won’t. And to be honest sometimes it feels when I’m tryin to talk to you about personal stuff he ends up knowing about it and I don’t even know that he’s gonna know.” And she replied “(ex boyfriend)called (her boyfriend)so don’t blame me” so I said “I was never blaming you I was tellin you what I felt. I feel like I can’t talk with you without (her boyfriend) knowing what I told you.” Then I also said “Im not sorry with what I said. I said it to explain to you that I felt uncomfortable and the fact that you won’t acknowledge it isn’t right. I felt like you just went straight to victim mode. I just want you to understand what I’m tryin to tell you.” am I the a hole?