u/ExecutiveChimp69

i live in sharjah, i have been applying to unskilled jobs for a long time now, things like refurbishing laptops warehouse worker whatever i just want some money to live my life, nothing came of it, and so today i decided i would go out to local businesses and ask them, so i got dressed and tried to make my self look respectable, about 90% of them rejected me the second i mentioned job, the other 10 smiled trying to hold their laugh back, the reality is im not getting a low skill job if i do not speak hindi or im not even indian to begin with.

im an arab, 21 years old, did fuck all with my life zero work experiance, i am a laughing stock infront of my friends, they wear designer while i wear crappy clothes that dont even fit well, at this point all i feel is despair, there is no way out, to make money you need money, what do you do when you dont have money then? our financial situation is tough at home barely making it by, i never imagined my self to be struggling like this in life later on, i want a job but they just dont exist to, i dont know where to go or what to do now, i really thought going in person would gurantee me a job but in the end nothing came of it, only this existential dread and realizing how putrid my situation is and how this hole is simply to deep to dig my self out of, im officially middle aged, broke, people my age have cars and are getting married, i cant imagine owning a modern smart phone let alone a car.

in the end this is more of a rant, maybe some way to cope with this reality i find my self in, but if anyone knows a way out any suggestion would help now as im out of ideas, my plan was to get stable income and then start trading half my monthly income till i learned and got good at it, the stable income bit seems impossible for the moment, even indeed and other online job platforms have nothing that fits me, i used to flip stuff on facebook market place so i have good experiance in sales, but truly facebook marketplace here is a complete shit show now people have gotten very very cheap and will fight me over 50 dhs on a 1600 aed laptop (thats after i eliminate 90% of my profit margin for them) i speak english well, speak arabic, only know how to insult someone in hindi if that matters, i love coffee would love a cafe job as i have real passion for it, i have a good understanding of all things computer hardware related, i would not mind working on cars to with training i think i can do fine as a mechanic, really just desperate at the moment, i want a way out, anything will do.

i live in sharjah, i have been applying to unskilled jobs for a long time now, things like refurbishing laptops warehouse worker whatever i just want some money to live my life, nothing came of it, and so today i decided i would go out to local businesses and ask them, so i got dressed and tried to make my self look respectable, about 90% of them rejected me the second i mentioned job, the other 10 smiled trying to hold their laugh back, the reality is im not getting a low skill job if i do not speak hindi or im not even indian to begin with.

im an arab, 21 years old, did fuck all with my life zero work experiance, i am a laughing stock infront of my friends, they wear designer while i wear crappy clothes that dont even fit well, at this point all i feel is despair, there is no way out, to make money you need money, what do you do when you dont have money then? our financial situation is tough at home barely making it by, i never imagined my self to be struggling like this in life later on, i want a job but they just dont exist to, i dont know where to go or what to do now, i really thought going in person would gurantee me a job but in the end nothing came of it, only this existential dread and realizing how putrid my situation is and how this hole is simply to deep to dig my self out of, im officially middle aged, broke, people my age have cars and are getting married, i cant imagine owning a modern smart phone let alone a car.

in the end this is more of a rant, maybe some way to cope with this reality i find my self in, but if anyone knows a way out any suggestion would help now as im out of ideas, my plan was to get stable income and then start trading half my monthly income till i learned and got good at it, the stable income bit seems impossible for the moment, even indeed and other online job platforms have nothing that fits me, i used to flip stuff on facebook market place so i have good experiance in sales, but truly facebook marketplace here is a complete shit show now people have gotten very very cheap and will fight me over 50 dhs on a 1600 aed laptop (thats after i eliminate 90% of my profit margin for them) i speak english well, speak arabic, only know how to insult someone in hindi if that matters, i love coffee would love a cafe job as i have real passion for it, i have a good understanding of all things computer hardware related, i would not mind working on cars to with training i think i can do fine as a mechanic, really just desperate at the moment, i want a way out, anything will do.

Hello,

I have a keyboard that works fine except for the 7 key, it’s a mechanical keyboard and I believe the switch can be replaced with some soldering, does anyone here know how to solder or have a soldering iron?

Thanks

Hi,

I really need a job but I just don’t know where to start, is it fine if I just walk into a cafe and ask? Or will they make fun of me.

Thanks.

Hi,

im unfortonate to have terrible proportions for a man, my quads are enormous and powerful, but my upper body lacks any real width and i have really narrow clavicles to, my pelvis as well is very broad similar to a womens.

im trying to think of a way to induce muscle atrophy rapidly in these areas, without trashing my kidneys, i've thought on doing multiple sprints till my quads just fail and not eating for 3 days hoping to kill off the muscle, i've thought of running into a wall side first to bruise and destroy the muscle there but that would then trash my kidneys and introduce cardiovascular risks to, i just need my quads gone, and i've even thought of breaking my pelvis and having the doctor rebuild it to standard male spec (must be half the width of the shoulder area inorder to be in spec) but thats just to absurd really.

are there any reasnoble solutions? building my lats and shoulders isnt going to help i wont post any nude photos of my self but believe me i look like a women down there, even my genitals which are fairly large look TINY compared to my quads

I struggled heavily with OCD for two or three years. Whenever an uncertainty or a sensation came up, I ran toward compulsions. It was so ingrained it was almost automatic—I just did them, no questions asked. I hated it. I felt weird and different. My friends didn't panic when they noticed their own blinking, and they didn't get anxious reading about some terrible disease they might have. It felt isolating, to say the least.

I learned what OCD was two years ago, and obviously, I immediately obsessed over how to “treat” or “cure” it. I eventually found Mark Freeman’s books. Everything he said angered me at the time. I thought OCD was just a chemical imbalance or some structural defect in my amygdala that I needed to "fix." But I gave his way a shot. Eventually, during the periods where I didn’t struggle as much, I realized I was the one “doing” the OCD. When I would “relapse,” it was always because I fell back into small compulsions that seemed totally unrelated to the things I actually feared. I was still judging my sensations and emotions as “wrong” or negative.

I think anyone doing the work to cut out compulsions needs to look broader. Don’t just cut out the rituals related to the topics you fear. This applies to everyone. Everyone does compulsions that worsen their mental health, not just “mentally ill” people. We are no different than anyone else. I’ve seen people hit rock bottom, ask for death, and just stop caring—and all of a sudden, the obsessions and panic stop.

As for where I stand now: I relapsed lol. For three months, all I did were small compulsions. I dropped my phone—it didn’t even break, but I sold it because it was “tainted.” My computer blue-screened once, and even though it never happened again, I ended up swapping out the logic board. I refused to leave the house because I didn’t get a haircut and was scared of looking bad. I started spraying crazy amounts of perfume just because I wanted to be seen as a "big thing." I went back to researching diseases and fearing I had them. To an observer, it looks absurd, and to be frank, I wasn’t following the advice I’m giving here. I thought because the “clinical” OCD was gone, I was cured. I was far from it.

When you cut out compulsions, throw out the clinical definition. I can assure you that you’re doing things that don’t seem like compulsions—they might even feel good to do—but they serve the exact same logic and function as a typical OCD compulsion.

please, even if you truly believe that your brain is defective, try to follow the advice mark freeman gives, even if it was true that we all have a defective mid brain and amygdala like some old research seemed to suggest, give it a try because in any case adopting this posture to your internal and external experiences will do you good.

Final notes,

a lot harder to follow this advice even if you know it at the top of your head, youll need to put it into practice, yes i used AI my english is ASS, wrote everything down and told it to make a post but all the thing’s you’re reading are thing’s i experienced, i wish you all well, feel free to contact me, god bless you all may god guide us away from harm.