David reads asoiaf

Does anyone have working links or downloads for the audiobook readings by Davidreadsasoiaf? I’m currently reading a storm of swords and really loved his audiobook but it’s not working on internet archive. I also tried someone’s github in my podcast app but that is unresponsive as well. I wish I downloaded the audiobook before it stopped working T.T

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u/Exhaustedgreentea — 1 day ago

10k in savings, what do I do?

I have a little over 10k saved up from working. I know that’s not a lot of money but I don’t have any financial responsibilities other than buying my own food and college tuition (which I have another savings for). I eventually would like to buy a house one day so I would like to save as much money as possible and make more. What should I be doing with my savings until I need to use it?

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u/Exhaustedgreentea — 2 months ago

My (23F) best friend (23F) pulled away before dating our mutual friend (27M), and now I don’t know if I can trust her again

I (23F) had two best friends (23F and 27M). About half a year ago they started dating.

The issue isn’t that they got together. I genuinely wanted to be happy for them. The problem is that for months before they started dating, I felt like my friendship with her was falling apart.

She stopped making time for me, stopped wanting to do things with me, and it felt like there was always a reason why she couldn’t hang out. At the same time, she was putting a lot of time and energy into him. I brought this up multiple times because I felt like I was being pushed out of her life before and after they had started dating. Every time I was told it was scheduling issues or some other explanation.

Eventually she told me she had a crush on him and that they were dating.

What hurt wasn’t the relationship itself. It was realizing there actually was a reason things had changed, and that I had spent months questioning my own instincts and wondering if I was imagining things.

Looking back, there were a lot of moments that hurt. There were hobbies, games, shows, and activities I repeatedly tried to do with her, but there was always a reason why it couldn’t happen. Then I’d watch her put effort into doing those same things with him. Individually those moments seem small, but over time they added up and made me feel unwanted.

The hardest part is that I tried talking about it while it was happening. I told her I felt like our friendship was changing and that I felt like I was grieving it on my own. Nothing seemed to change, so eventually I stopped trying.

After they started dating, I slowly distanced myself from both of them. At first I was really hurt. I cried a lot, struggled with my mental health, and felt like I had lost two people I loved at the same time. Over time, though, the hurt faded and was replaced by distance. I stopped feeling close to them.

Recently they’ve both reached out and said they miss me and are hurt I pulled away. They want to repair the friendship but they don’t understand why I pulled away in the first place. I explained why to both of them and my male friend still doesn’t understand and my female friend hasn’t replied yet.

Another problem is that I feel like I already spent months trying to save the friendship when I still cared enough to fight for it. Now that they’re making more of an effort, I feel detached. I don’t really feel angry anymore, but I also don’t feel much desire to go back to how things were.

Part of me wonders if I’m being unfair because they say they care and want me in their lives. Another part of me feels like I already did my grieving and moved on. I also am not sure I trust what they say? I don’t know I feel like that’s just my insecurities talking but I just feel like I’m going to be tricked again.

How do you know whether a friendship is worth rebuilding after trust has been damaged? Has anyone else experienced being asked to come back after they’ve already emotionally checked out?

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u/Exhaustedgreentea — 3 months ago