Please help me find an answer (how to have sex as trans straight man)

I'm 18ftm and I can't figure out a way for my girlfriend to pleasure me during sex.

She’s my first sexual partner, and I just have no idea how we’re supposed to feel good together when I don't have a penis. My flawed anatomy is killing me, and I feel absolutely disgusted with myself. The classic hand motion people with my anatomy usually use to satisfy themselves doesn't work on me (we tried a few times, and it was so discouraging that I now avoid situations where my girlfriend might touch me). I do enjoy thrusting a lot, but again—my penis isn't long enough to make any use of it.

It's very depressing, i don't know what to do about it.

Please anyone, share with me the ways that worked for you, because I have no idea what to do. I'm scared that my lack will somehow distance me and my girlfriend

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u/Existing-Contract-41 — 6 days ago

Any idea what is she trying to achieve?

My G. Pulchra closed all entrances to her hide (Hope this premolt won't last forever like her last one...) And she walks up to one of them all the time and stands in this silly position. I thought she was thirsty, so I gave her some water and she did suck the water from this little wet spot on the ground, but then she continued standing by the closed entrance.

Is she just silly?

u/Existing-Contract-41 — 3 months ago

Rehouse?

One of my slings just molted and I'm wondering if it is time to move my A. Geniculata to a bigger enclosure? I have a box with short side 10cm, long side 15cm and height 10 cm. The current box she lives in is poorly ventilated, the lid has holes all over it but I feel like it's not enough so I kinda would like to rehouse her already.

Is it a good idea to rehouse it or wait one more molt?

u/Existing-Contract-41 — 3 months ago

G. Pulchra strolling around

First time seeing my pulchra Iris strolling around. Isn't she stunning?

If anyone cares to answer: Will she be okay in 29°C? Because of the heatwave in europe, the temperature in my room oscillates between 28 and 29 Celsius

u/Existing-Contract-41 — 4 months ago

Redness on my cheeks appears out of nowhere and I can't get rid of it

This redness first showed 11 months ago when I got really stressed and really angry. From since then, from time to time, it appeared. It stays for a couple of hours (2-5) and is very hot.

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I have been on Curacne (Isotretinoinum) 10mg for 1 year 9 months.

For my face, I use mainly Cerave cleanser and La Roche Posay cicaplast. I bought a cream for rosacea but it was cheap, so it's probably shit and useless.

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I have eczema, but it's not as present as it used to be when I was younger. Because of eczema I have some ointments(idk if that translation is good) that I was prescribed for other problems with my skin than this, I put some of one of them on my face and in that place the redness dissappeared. The ointment is called elitasone (Mometasoni furoas 1mg). I put it on my cheeks for the night, and when I woke up, the redness was gone just to appear again the next day.

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Currently, I have no money for dermatologist so I'm asking here. I'm sorry for any mistakes with translations, English is not my first language, and I'm not good with medical terms.

u/Existing-Contract-41 — 4 months ago

a question

How do I start passing? I've been on HRT for 6 months and I don't know what to do next. I'm very short and fat(5'6 155lbs) and I don't know what to do next. I'm 18 and I pray to every fucking deity to grow even a little bit. Are there any specific things I should do in order to start passing?

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u/Existing-Contract-41 — 4 months ago

samolot i androtop

Hej, w wakacje będę leciał po raz pierwszy samolotem i zastanawiam się jak wygląda przewóz androtopu. Czy jedno opakowanie mogę sobie przewieźć od tak czy potrzebuje jakichś recept wydrukowanych?

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u/Existing-Contract-41 — 5 months ago

Fasting or very skittish?

Almost two weeks ago, I got my grammostola pulchra. I tried to feed her once by putting a roach in her terrarium, they ended up sitting next to each other for a very long time, she was staring at it and didn't do anything so I left it overnight and the roach was still alive in the morning so I took it out. I thought maybe it was too fast for her, so in the evening, I crushed its head and put it in front of the entrance to her hide, she didn't eat it anyway.

Yesterday, I tried to feed her again. She was sitting next to the entrance to her hide, so I offered the roach to her by holding it. After a couple of minutes without any movement, the roach touched her leg and she ran back into her hide.

So my question is if she is fasting or there's something wrong with the food?

I don't think she is in premolt. I think she molted 1-2 months ago, but I can't be sure.

(some pictures of her because she's pretty :>)

u/Existing-Contract-41 — 5 months ago

Fishing!!!

Finally, I finished every fishing quest 😎😎😎 Honestly, I really enjoyed it, and I think it would be even more fun if they developed it some more

What do you guys think about it? What is your experience with fishing? Personally, I think it was one of the most enjoyable long-term activities in game. (Definetely better than archaeology...)

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u/Existing-Contract-41 — 5 months ago

Since I've been on HRT(5 months now), I feel better, which means I'm not selfharming or trying to kill myself. For three months, I was quite happy, without any major worries, but recently I've been realizing that I don't want to live like this. I'll never be cis, and I'll never feel good. I'm so frustrated that I will never experience being normal. It's terrible

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u/Existing-Contract-41 — 5 months ago

I just got this baby, and I'm wondering if I should feed her or wait? She climbs a lot and I'm afraid if I feed her she'll get thicc and possibly hurt herself

I also got teeny tiny little spiderlings (neoholothele incei, lasiodora parahybana, lasiocyano sazimai, a. geniculata) and everyone except neoholotele are 0.5cm. They're so small I don't know what to feed them. I gave them the smallest cockroaches I had(around 0.5cm), and only neoholothele ate it. The rest ran away from it, so I just took it out.

So my question is if I should buy them fruit flies or what?

I got them on tuesday and they didn't eat since they're at my place. Won't they die of hunger?

u/Existing-Contract-41 — 6 months ago