u/Exotic-Finger275

Is it a red flag that my (white) boyfriend says the N word because he thinks it’s his “right”? We’re been together for a few years and I just now realized that he does this.

So, I have known my boyfriend for about 3 to 4 years now. We’ve been together for 3 and I originally told him I was one year older than I actually was. We weren’t that serious at the time it was and sadly still is an online relationship but for a while now we’ve gotten serious and are genuinely thinking about meeting up and so I wanted to come clean to him and told him I was actually 14 and not 15. At first, he was really scared and brought up the idea of breaking up, but said he needed time to think a little bit later. He texted me and said he didn’t wanna break up and that just scared him a little bit. He still wants to be with me. And all of my friends are telling me it’s weird. He will be 18 in August and I will be 15 next March. I don’t know if it applies to our specific situation, but we both live in states where the Romeo and Juliet law applies. I have asked him multiple times if my age bothers him and he doesn’t have a problem with it. Is this weird? If so, how do I address it?