r/QuestioningTeens

So I've been dating a girl for almost a year and basically, when we started dating I was more right leaning, pretty much homophobic, she is pansexual and gender fluid (as least as far as I know), she tries not to mention the gender fluid stuff though, like in public, I don't care what people think but I'm a teenager and my family has opinions also, besides the point, so, 5 days ago she broke up with me (we got back the next day on some premises ill explain) because she didnt agree with me in some shits (we never really discuss lgbt shit so she didnt know my opinion progresses since we started dating, she knew I was alittle more open minded yet we mostly discussed politics (borders, capitalism communism n shi)) bit then the next day I actually spoke with her, she asked me some questions, and honestly, I didnt open up to her as much as to myself.
So, I'm straight, have always been, but with all this shit of me leaning lefter and lefter with her, my brain normalized LGBT so much, I'm not as sure as I've always been. Like, I obviously am attracted to women, and my drive didn't die or anything. I just don't find dating a man as disgusting as I did. I don't find dick as disgusting. I don't think about explicitly fucking with a man or anything, but when she touches me around the lower back and ass, I don't have the rejective reaction as always, instead it lingers in my mind for a while

Sorry for all the fluff, I honestly never asked nor explained anything like this to anyone

My final question is,
What should I do? I know i should tell her, and I'm planning to, but I'll wait for y'all's advice.

And don't tell me shit like break up with her and shit, I won't

I'm a nonbinary teen. I always loved femininity in such, though for most of my life thought I didn't like men.

however, I recently discovered I did like men. So I've identified as pan for a bit, though realized I don't really like masculine men.

so I've been thinking, "huh, well I like masculine and feminine and androgynous women, and also feminine men". but not masculine.

and I was like "huh, but then that means I'm not pan"

because pansexual means you don't care about gender.

so now I'm confused.

please help me :'3

Hi, I'm an 18 year old trans woman, so, basically, as the title says, I'm questioning if I'm bisexual or a lesbian, I know I experience attraction to women, I've had crushes on women, I've had fantasies with women, and I can even be physically attracted to women, men I'm not as sure about, I get really uncomfortable with men, I can't feel like myself around them, I really get repulsed by men (I seriously don't mean to sound bigoted, I'm just trying to talk about how I feel about being with men), though, with that being said, it's like I also have a physical feeling towards men similar to how I feel towards women, with men however, it's only with men who are unattainable to me, whether they're fake, or not whatever, if they're unattainable, I can be a little attracted to them, when it comes to women though, I've had real life crushes, I've even thought of myself having happy relationships with women, and feeling like it's an equally mutual relationship where I can feel like myself around them, I don't feel the same way around men though

Hi! I (18, gods know what but my passport says M) have spent the last few years contemplating my gender. I’m still not really sure what I am but I slowly become more and more convinced that I’m at least not cis.

I spent this afternoon and evening thinking about and preparing to come out to a friend of mine. This friend is, as far as I’m aware, completely supportive of the community and I’ve thought about coming out to her (if that’s even the right term when I was only going to tell her I don’t think I’m cis.

Anyways, after writing a text and agonizing over if I should send it I ended up not doing it because my parents came home and for whatever reason I would rather tell my friend when I’m alone (even though it’s just through a text). So I ended up staying in the closet for a while longer. Still, this is the furthest I’ve ever come to come out to anyone I know irl, and I’m quite proud of that progress. It’s still scary as hell, which is the reason I didn’t send the text the moment I finished writing it, but I’m glad that I got even this far, even though it in the end didn’t lead to anything. Next time I might actually take the plunge.

Just wanted to share this progress! Thanks for reading!

ughhh I already know I can wear one to school if I change in the bathroom so my parents don’t see, but I don’t know how to get my hands on one in the first place 💔💔 or maybe you guys know other ways I can bind that won’t make my parents suspicious??

why was i born to have tatas bro 🫩

Hi there! i’ve decided to turn to reddit for some advice cause i have no idea who to turn to for this.

i’ve identified as a lesbian for about two years now, previously identified as bisexual (used to say with a big preference for women and i literally never dated men) for most my life. i’ve partly explored my gender a few years back, seeing if i was possibly trans ftm or non binary, but none ever felt right. so i’ve stuck with she/her and lesbian for these two years and it partly feels right but also deep down a part of me feels it’s wrong?

i’ve noticed with men, i often feel some sort of admiration(?) for them, which is the best way i can describe it. this is typically for celebrities and characters but is also with men i meet in real life. i find myself appreciating the way they look and liking certain features/ dress styles. i can’t tell if this is attraction or more gender envy. in my head i want to look like a man, but i don’t want to be a trans man or a masc lesbian(if that makes sense?) but i also enjoy being a woman and using the lesbian label. i dress mostly feminine and feel comfortable with it mostly.

something a few weeks ago stuck out to me which i feel is relevant, i got called sir and mate by a woman at the shop. i dress feminine but do have quite short hair, but i still feel its hard to mistake me for a man. this made me uncomfortable the fact she thought i was a man, so part of me thinks even though i have desire to be a man, im definitely not trans? is how i feel about my gender and men attraction which im in some sort of denial about? i’m very unsure.

if anyone has any advice or gone through a similar thing it’d be greatly appreciated!!