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My 18 month old daughter is pushing me and my husband to our limits. She is constantly screaming. Over everything, you say no she’s screaming and I mean screaming like someone just physically hurt her, saying no, redirecting her, calmly talking to her, doesn’t matter she SCREAMS.

I stepped away to put some makeup on before we left the house and she screamed, my husband trying to give me some time without a toddler on me shut the door and went to play with her in her room. The entire time blood curdling screams saying “momma” when I came out I didn’t give in and pick her up like she wanted and said “momma was just doing my makeup I was right here, momma can do things without you sometimes” and she just continues to scream. What can I do? I’d there anything I can even do?

Edit to add: the no village comment was more of we never have a break from the screaming and I have no one to ask for advice on this

Me and my husband work opposite shifts but we can only be so opposite, he works 7:30am-7pm, I work 3pm-10pm. We have a sitter that’s my best friend that we only have to pay $100 a week. Issue is she has medical issues where she can’t watch our kid about every other week. So then I’m stuck calling out. I don’t know what to do anymore. We can’t afford daycare or what a babysitters rates are

We can only afford food for our daughter, me and him usually just make a sandwhich as bread and cheese is cheap. We have applied for snap waiting to be approved. I’ve been crying all day. She’ll never go without obviously she gets the foods she likes and will eat and we always have someone with her but that means we’re wracking up debt on a credit card to pay for gas and groceries which then we can barely pay the minimum on the card. I feel like we will never be able to get ahead or get out of an apartment

Are there any ex competitive cheerleaders here? I was my absolute fittest when I competed, obviously once I stopped I gained weight. I try to do the traditional work outs an I just get so bored.

So if anyone has any experience with this or advice of a different type of workout that isn’t just traditional boring lift weight and stuff please let me know!

TLDR: 15 month old smells like maple syrup, didn’t have anything that would smell like that, my dad says I’m overreacting to take her to the dr tomorrow

Back story, a few month ago I took my daughter in for blood work because I was concerned something was wrong since the child that never stops moving started to just want to sit on the couch or would fall asleep randomly.

The only think that came back iffy was her glucose but her A1C was good.

Fast forward to now, I took her in 2 weeks ago because she had a stuffy nose for 5 days that a humidifier and nose sucker wasn’t touching.

They gave her decongestant meds that we used for a week but they also didn’t help. I figured it was just extra fluid from teething

Well now she is having diarrhea for 3 days, I messaged her pcp and they said to just keep her hydrated with pedialyte and give her bananas.

She’s ran a low fever this whole time too

Well this morning I thought she smelt like maple syrup but thought I was over reacting until she put her hand in my face and I for sure smelled it. I had my mom confirm so we checked her breath and it also smells like it.

I plan on taking her to the dr in the morning but my dad is acting like I’m overreacting but to be fair they never took us to the doctor as kids.

I just don’t want my pediatrician to get annoyed of me.

All she has had to eat today was a pb&j, a piece of toast, a banana and some veggie straws (I’m trying to feed her she’s just not wanting to eat)

This is long and I will do my best to explain everything thoroughly

I moved out of state almost a year ago. I want to go back to home state.

I applied for a new apartment in home state

They told me that an apartment I used to live in 2 years ago is saying I owe $500 to them. Okay that’s fine, it has never showed up on my credit so I was unaware.

I call old apartment complex, they tell me they don’t see an amount I owe and to call their debt collector, I do and debt collector cannot find me in their system anywhere.

I email new apartments and ask who they spoke to. They said the manger of old apartment and gave me a name.

I call old apartments they say call back in 10 minutes because manager is busy. Okay I call back, no answer. So I wait 10 minutes and call again, no answer. I wait 20 mins call again no answer. Mind you this is not a busy place, the employees are always on their phone.

I wait an hour and finally they answer and say manager is on lunch, I tell her “please I am just trying to make a payment you told me to called back in 10 minutes an hour and a half ago” she says “well she’s out on lunch I can’t help you”

I literally have no idea what to do, I feel like old apartments are avoiding me when I’m literally trying to pay them. I can’t go in person because I am out of state. I need to move into new apartment as I already have a job lined up in that state.

What can I do and quickly? I have to move in 3 weeks

I sent a screenshot to new apartments showing my calls also

The apartment we want to move into wants a start date on my intent to hire letter, my boss said she can’t do that until she can put me on the schedule, I’m a massage therapist so once they put me on clients can book and it’s a liability to them if I don’t show up since I’m still in another state. I messaged my boss giving her a start date even though we don’t have a place to live in the new state yet. So now I have to hope that she can give me a start date and the apartments will accept it and if they don’t I have to figure out somewhere to live or else I’m screwed

Is there anything else I can do? No I don’t have the money for upfront rent 3-6 months I don’t know what else to do, we need to move our situation is not good where we are at

I finally decided to be one and done!!!

I’ve been back and forth on it for a while but talking to my therapist figured out that our daughter makes us feel complete.

I’m so happy to be at peace finally about this. Not sure if this is the place to say it but it’s been driving me crazy on the back and forth so I’m happy it’s decided for the best if all of us

My pms is apparently really pmsing this month because I’m having a breakdown over never having my baby as small as she was as an infant and even now she’ll never be this small again. In my old age I know that’s exactly what I’ll go back to her as an infant and I’m sure all the years I get to be her mom. I just needed to say this in a group that would understand. I love her more than life itself. Anyways I’m gonna go back to crying and eating my weight in Oreos

My daughter is 14 months, in 2 months we have to move states again due to family issues in the state we are in. This changes our whole plan of trying for a second kid in the next few months plus gives us more bills in the new state.

I genuinely would love to just have my daughter and to pour our all into her and be able to take her on vacations and do whatever she wants to do or be with no limit but I also get sad at the thought of never being pregnant again or having a newborn, I’m also worried about her not having a sibling, I worry that once we’re old and die she’s going to be lonely. I’m at such a stuck place mentally, and I hate that more than likely it will not be our decision if we’re one and done it will be because we had to move out of our home and essentially restart.

So I guess I’m just looking for only children to tell me if they hate their lives or love it? Or parents that decided they were one and done how did you decide?

Edit to add: I apologize my “when we die she’ll be all alone” came across very rude, I apologize I’m very emotional about this situation especially having to move and change everything. I do understand she’ll build other relationships with people my thinking is that those people can’t go through her childhood home with her making decisions on things like a sibling could

Edit part 2: the biggest thing I’m seeming to get from comments is make sure care is set up when we are old so it’s not on her if we do one and done, thank yall for the opinions and advice

Excuse my language but how the fuck is two possibly worse than this, she’s 13 months old and SCREAMS, turns red, literally sounds like she’s in pain if you tell her no, try to put her to sleep, hell even if you just shake your head no at her. It honestly doesn’t bother me besides worrying something’s wrong because she literally sounds like she’s in pain when all you did was say no. Maybe it’s normal but I have never in all my childhood years seen a 1 year old act like this.

Edit: I want to add she throws herself on the ground and thrashes while she screams, I’ve had to tell our family to not react just sit there calmly until she’s done so she doesn’t see that it makes us react

What am I supposed to do? She’s 12 almost 13 months, I know tantrums are a thing, and I’m not frustrated that shes having them. I’m just unsure of what to do when it happens. I really want to raise a well mannered kid that doesn’t always cry to get their way type of thing. I never give in to what she wants but I’m not sure if I should try to talk her though the feelings, if I should just ignore the tantrums, or what I’m supposed to do