u/Expensive_End8369

Oh my gosh… this thread showed up in my feed just now and the title caught my attention: “Things are easier with my husband on vacation.” Basically wives talking about how life is less stressful when their husband isn’t in town.

https://www.reddit.com/r/married/s/yBXy0rujWh

It reinforces so much of our conversations in this sub, and definitely stirs up feelings from when I was married. 🫪

I’m tired, y’all, just from reading some of these…

I need some tips about creating an after-work routine as a single person.

I went back to grad school in my 50s and recently graduated and started a job. Prior to that, I was an entrepreneur for decades which gave me more flexibility and fluidity during my day plus I worked from home.

So this is my first time working in a typical 8-4 position for a company. My work is going well, but I’m struggling with the transition from the workplace to home, going from all structure to the free time of the evening.

I know I want to workout, putter around my garden, and then I have a few chores to do (make dinner, straighten up, etc.) each evening. But it’s like I get a little paralyzed by the transition from work to home and can’t decide what to do and just end up sitting around even though I sat all day.

Anything you do that helps you?

Editing to reply to responses: Thank you. I think you are right. I’m going to sign up for the gym this weekend and start planning on heading straight there after work to lift weights or take a class. I think this will be a great transition for me. On days I don’t get to the gym, I’ll just plan on taking the dog for a walk. I think doing either of these will press my “reset” button so I can think about anything else I want to do that evening.

I’m in my late 50s and been single for about 6 or 7 years now with no plans of dating. I sometimes read the r/askwomenover60 sub to get a sense of how older women are doing, especially in retirement.

One of the things I noticed a lot over there is how many women in their 60s and 70s+ are choosing to be single and are living their best life. There is a lot of advice in that sub telling women who are in awful marriages to get out. A lot of women there talk about not dating because older men just wanting a “nurse and a purse” and how they won’t do any therapy or take care of their bodies.

I just think that it’s interesting that women of all ages are choosing to opt out the fuck out and we are happier for it.

Curious what you’ve noticed in your generation (or others)

This is building upon a comment I saw in another thread about city efforts to put in more native and pollinator plants and encourage residence to do the same.

So that got made to wondering… If you live in an area where you’re seeing more and more of this and your city or county is encouraging it, what are some of the messages they are sending out and how are you seeing this unfold?

We have a lot of it in my area, but I’d love to see more so looking for ideas!!

I’m in Oregon Zone 8b

The last couple of days, I’ve been hanging out with female friends - partnered or not partnered but dating. It’s exhausting listening to how much of their time is spent wanting to change the partners/potential partners in their life or stressing about the needs they aren’t meeting. 🫠 I go home so happy I am spending 0% energy on any of it.

EDIT: I am adding this because many of you are making the assumption that it’s always about men. It’s not. I have girlfriends who are straight, bi, and lesbians. They spend time and energy complaining either way. I think it’s the quest for external validation and no one ever living up to what a person needs because self-love is what is required. I imagine if too people with high levels of self-love got together, the relationship could be really powerful but sadly, I think that’s very rare.

Hi all,

I just thought I would post on here in case anyone is in a similar situation and also to keep track of my goals and progress.

I am 57 and recently hit $1 million in my retirement plus I have about $340 K in equity in my house. I have two kids with one getting ready to go to college, I have almost $200 K saved for that child and I have another child who is not quite a teenager and have $58k that should grow quite a bit by their graduation. I’m just getting ready to graduate after going back to a masters program and will have about $55K in student loans. The reason I decided to go back for another masters is because I was in marketing and business for over two decades and I was concerned about the viability of that industry as I saw AI coming onto the scene.

I’m planning on working full-time for the next two years because I work in a healthcare field in a rural area and should be able to get most of my loans forgiven. I’ll also be able to contribute more into my retirement and, ideally, my employer will have a 401(k) plan that has matching. After I hit the two-year mark, my plan is to scale back to about 20 to 25 hours a week and coast. So I’m feeling pretty excited.