u/ExperienceOptimal898

Hi all. Seeking some advice and coping mechanisms. My mom was dating a guy for SEVEN years who turned out to have a double life. It turned out he was married, AND also had other girlfriends the entire time. There are two other woman that we know of in addition to his wife that he was seeing. He’s a real fucking piece of shit. Seven years of lies, taking advantage of my mom’s kindness, and manipulation. He is a cardiologist and it makes me sick that this type of human OPERATES on people and has patients. The level of deception , lies, and trauma he has put my mom who treated him with nothing but kindness is insane.

There were definitely red flags along the way that she chose to not believe or look into. She always chalked up his unavailability and other red flags due to the fact that he is a cardiologist and that’s just his how life is. My mom was also going through being a care taker to someone in her life and didn’t have much freedom to be traveling and going on dates etc. so he worked out for her lifestyle even though she knew she deserved better. Myself and her friends also did not like him at all but she was in some kind of trance from him and all of our concerns always seemed to draw her closer to him. I always suspected that he was still married but I could never prove it and just wanted to also believe it wasn’t true.

He is applying and is getting considered for a few high level jobs at different hospitals/practices that my mom is aware of. Is there anything that can be done to contact these places to let them know he is not a moral ethical person without her getting sued for defamation or harassment? I feel that he needs to face some kind of consequence but not sure how. I also wouldn’t want my life in the hands of a sociopath that can lie straight to his wife, children, and girlfriends for multiple years straight. Keeping up with the lies and keeping track of multiple people surely impacts focus.

I truly can’t imagine the trauma and shock and deception and hurt my mom is going through. It makes me sick to my stomach that men like him continue to get away with this behavior and are in positions of power. Looking for any advice or anything that can be done so that he can face any kind of consequence or to get any kind of justice for my mom……I know the right answer is just for her to try to forget about him and move on but this guy is out here just scamming and traumatizing women like it’s his job. It’s sick.

Hi all. Seeking some advice and coping mechanisms. My mom was dating a guy for SEVEN years who turned out to have a double life. It turned out he was married, AND also had other girlfriends the entire time. There are two other woman that we know of in addition to his wife that he was seeing. He’s a real fucking piece of shit. Seven years of lies, taking advantage of my mom’s kindness, and manipulation. He is a cardiologist and it makes me sick that this type of human OPERATES on people and has patients. The level of deception , lies, and trauma he has put my mom who treated him with nothing but kindness is insane.

There were definitely red flags along the way that she chose to not believe or look into. She always chalked up his unavailability and other red flags due to the fact that he is a cardiologist and that’s just his how life is. My mom was also going through being a care taker to someone in her life and didn’t have much freedom to be traveling and going on dates etc. Myself and her friends also did not like him at all but she was in some kind of trance from him and all of our concerns always seemed to draw her closer to him. I always suspected that he was still married but I could never prove it and just wanted to also believe it wasn’t true.

He is applying and is getting considered for a few high level jobs at different hospitals/practices that my mom is aware of. Is there anything that can be done to contact these places to let them know he is not a moral ethical person without her getting sued for defamation or harassment? I feel that he needs to face some kind of consequence but not sure how. I also wouldn’t want my life in the hands of a sociopath that can lie straight to his wife, children, and girlfriends for multiple years straight. Keeping up with the lies and keeping track of multiple people surely impacts focus.

I truly can’t imagine the trauma and shock and deception and hurt my mom is going through. It makes me sick to my stomach that men like him continue to get away with this behavior and are in positions of power. Looking for any advice or anything that can be done so that he can face any kind of consequence or to get any kind of justice for my mom……I know the right answer is just for her to try to forget about him and move on but this guy is out here just scamming and traumatizing women like it’s his job. It’s sick.