u/Extremofire

My partner and I have decided to call it quits on our relationship and I’m heartbroken. It’s mutual, but in recent weeks I believed it was salvageable— ultimately, we’re citing incompatibility (irreconcilable ways we’ve both hurt each other in the past, she’s realized our life goals differ and she’s just been going about our relationship and life “going along” with things, etc). We have long been in in couples therapy, and while things have felt tense the past few months, the past month has felt like the illness in our relationship has hastened, and tonight we agreed that it’s time to move on. We do have a final appointment in therapy tomorrow— I don’t even know what to go over in the appointment. We both found other partners within the past few months, and while we’ve dated others before, this has seemed to correlate with the relationship going. I admit it’s in part because of my own insecurities, but as she’s said, that’s not the only issue.

I… this feels strange as a longtime lurker and contributor here, but… instead of asking for advice on polyamory, I want advice on how to move on. I haven’t had to do this for a decade, hell, this is new territory for me because we are so entrenched in each other’s lives. We had plans tomorrow for my birthday party, and I’m terrified at how to deal with or break the news of it all to our large mutual friend group. We have a place together and so many things, by god, so many things together (furniture, memberships, etc). I don’t even know where to start. What do we do about our future plans with mutuals? How do I go about divvying up belongings?

My partner and I have decided to call it quits on our eight year long relationship and I’m heartbroken. It’s mutual, but in recent weeks I believed it was salvageable— ultimately, we’re citing incompatibility (irreconcilable ways we’ve both hurt each other in the past, she’s realized our life goals differ and she’s just been going about our relationship and life “going along” with things, etc). We have long been in in couples therapy, and while things have felt tense the past few months, the past month has felt like the illness in our relationship has hastened, and tonight we agreed that it’s time to move on. We do have a final appointment in therapy tomorrow— I don’t even know what to go over in the appointment.

I want advice on how to move on. I haven’t had to do this for a decade, hell, this is new territory for me because we are so entrenched in each other’s lives. We had plans tomorrow for my birthday party, and I’m terrified at how to deal with or break the news of it all to our large mutual friend group. We have a place together and so many things, by god, so many things together (furniture, memberships, etc). I don’t even know where to start. What do we do about our future plans with mutuals? How do I go about divvying up belongings?

Not sure if it’s just reading this subreddit often but I get anxious going online now. Waymo has been deployed in my city, and I feel pressured to use smart accept/priority mode because none of the rides are breaking $1/mi.

Do yall have routines or rituals that work for you?

I bet this sort of post is pretty old for a lot of you but I’m a new driver and am hoping to hear from some of the old guard to maximize earnings.

I expect to make ~$500 a week to make up for my financial shortfalls; I have a full time job.

I’ve looked up historical threads and I’ve found these tips:

—Smell and appearance matters more than you think; keep a clean car.

—Start with a full tank

—stereo off or mainstream only

—Exchange pleasantries and read the room if customer expects to talk or not

—Don’t be afraid to cancel trips, keep acceptance above 92%

Should I turn off auto accept? I live in a major city and it seems to keep the groove going.

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