u/Familiar-Lunch-1121

I live in a tier 2 city 20F and my parents recently bought a new house in one of the best housing society of our city. There I met 32M, he lives in the flat just above ours. He is married and lives with his wife. He works in a nearby industrial project. We often came across in lifts and society functions and parking. He is also little friendly with my family so sometime he comes to our house as well. He is very handsome and with time I had a crush on him.

Timepassed and I was just okay with the crush thing but few month ago his wife got transfered and moved to another city and he is still here as his project is going on. We started meeting often and I told him about how I felt. He reacted in a very cold way but thankfully didn't tell my parents anything.

Soon he also started liking me told me about his relationship with his wife and also that they have already filed for divorce. Things were normal then one day when my parents were not at home he came to my place and we got involved romantically and physically and it was my first time in such kind of relationship.

He now insists on doing this often sometimes at his place and sometimes at mine. I don't know what to do. He says he will take divorce with his wife. But he is never able to show me any proof of ongoing process. Although I feel very safe around him but I still don't know what to do. If my parents came to know about things for sure they will kill me.

I know I am in a big mess but I am really not able to think what's best for me right now

Can anyone please tell if there is any option from where I can seen the list of people whom I have send friend request

I feel when yogesh said to bedi that there are no men inside to fight with I feel it for real.

This was what I was also thinking when the guys were constantly told that they are not visible. Obviously they will not go between two girls fighting.

They can't argue with any girl to that level.

It felt like some star plus show were males are always side lined and women have all the say.

Hardly two boys were there and they planned to become friends then whom to fight with.

feel when yogesh said to bedi that there are no men inside to fight with I feel it for real.

This was what I was also thinking when the guys were constantly told that they are not visible. Obviously they will not go between two girls fighting.

They can't argue with any girl to that level.

It felt like some star plus show were males are always side lined and women have all the say.

Hardly two boys were there and they planned to become friends then whom to fight with.

Pamela has changes so much and in a funny way 😂😂. The moment her friend laali told her that she will look nice with Shreya she is all into her. She is not leaving here side for a while. She is making sure that she is seen. This is such a strange way. She says se don't do all this for camera but this behavior says a lot.

She is not talking to anyone properly she was seen till now ( little or more) just because of chamola and she has now herself flipped sides with her.

What are your views on this

I (24F) got married to my husband (27M) five months ago through an arranged marriage. We currently live in another city because of his job.

Our marriage happened quite suddenly, and I still feel like we're in the process of getting to know each other. We talk, spend time together, and hug occasionally, but that's about it. We haven't been physically intimate.

The hardest part has been the pressure from both families. They keep asking me about it, dropping hints, or telling me that it's my responsibility to take the relationship forward. I've never heard anyone say these things to my husband. As far as I know, no one calls him or asks him about our personal life. All these conversations happen with me, and I'm repeatedly told that "the woman has to take the first step."

Every time this comes up, I fel anxious and guilty. I don't even know if my husband is aware that I'm being pressured from both sides.

He's always been respectful and has never forced anything, which I genuinely appreciate. But because we barely knew each other before getting married, I'm still unsure how he'd react if I opened up about everything that's been going on. I'm afraid he'll misunderstand me or think I'm trying to blame him.

Part of me feels that I should tell him because we're supposed to be partners, and he deserves to know what's happening. Another part of me wonders if bringing it up will just make things awkward between us.

Has anyone been in a similar situation, especially in an arranged marriage? Should I tell him about the pressure I'm facing, or is it better to keep it to myself until we're more comfortable with each other? How would you approach this conversation?

TL;DR: Married for 5 months through an arranged marriage. We haven't been intimate yet, and both families are pressuring only me to take the first step. Should I tell my husband about this pressure .

Should I be honest with my husband about the family pressure, or wait until we know each other better?

I was at home that day because I had taken the day off from work. My boyfriend had also come from his hometown for some office work, although he works from home. All of his belongings were at my flat, and he had gone to the office.

While I was at home, I wanted to search for something online. Since I had taken leave, I didn't feel like using my office laptop, so I used his personal laptop that was lying at my place.

After searching for what I needed, I opened his WhatsApp and searched for my name to see the chats where I was mentioned. What I saw was something I had never expected.

In one of the chats, my name was mentioned along with another girl's. The person on the other side of the conversation was saying, "You're so lucky to have two girlfriends. You can have so much fun with both of them" ( it was talking about bj and stuff).That completely shattered me. I started crying, felt numb, and didn't know how to react. My mind just went blank.

How could he be involved in a conversation like that about me with someone else? It felt incredibly disrespectful.

The next few days were filled with arguments and emotional chaos. All the plans we had made while he was in town for the next five days got cancelled.

Eventually, I was told that the other guy was just joking, and the girl they were talking about was actually his friend's side chick. His friend had been talking to that girl using my boyfriend's WhatsApp so that his own girlfriend wouldn't find out. To make me believe him, my boyfriend even made me speak to that girl. He did everything he possibly could to prove that he hadn't cheated and that he wasn't lying.

He put in so much effort—more than I can describe. In the end, I forgave him. He even spoke to his friend, who admitted it was meant as a joke and apologized for it.

Despite all his efforts and despite forgiving him, I still haven't been able to forget what I saw in those chats. Those messages are stuck in my mind.

Sometimes I feel that I should never have opened his WhatsApp. I know he would never cheat on me, but those chats have created a vacuum inside me that I still haven't been able to fill.

Has anyone else noticed how different Sufi acts depending on which side he's on?

The way he's been behaving lately feels really hypocritical. If he were on the receiving end of the same treatment, I genuinely think he would've cried or made a huge issue out of it multiple times by now. But when it's someone else, he seems to have no problem being dismissive or harsh.

This season has completely changed my perception of him. Either the pressure is bringing out his real personality, or we're finally seeing a side that wasn't visible before.

Is it just me, or does anyone else feel the same?

Has anyone else noticed how different Sufi acts depending on which side he's on?

The way he's been behaving lately feels really hypocritical. If he were on the receiving end of the same treatment, I genuinely think he would've cried or made a huge issue out of it multiple times by now. But when it's someone else, he seems to have no problem being dismissive or harsh.

This season has completely changed my perception of him. Either the pressure is bringing out his real personality, or we're finally seeing a side that wasn't visible before.

Is it just me, or does anyone else feel the same?