u/Fantastic_Fall_1277

Hi, my husband and I (35F) are moving to the IE (Claremont/Upland/Rancho) from LA in a few months. My husband is a former pastor and now we both work in the mental health field. We are definitely allies of any under represented group and the nature of our jobs support groups such as these.

We are looking for a Christian church. Actually, we aren’t necessarily looking for one that’s LGBTQ+ “affirming” (affirming means to openly support), but at least one that feels “safe” enough— if you get what I mean. We currently live in a pretty liberal area and our current church isn’t actually “affirming” but they are safe, welcoming, and very respectful. Most importantly, there’s never been hate preached from the pulpit. We’d like to find something similar in the IE when we move.

I’ve been to some local IE churches that my family attends and somehow I’ve encountered the ones that beat a dead horse on the pulpit of how much they detest gay people— and that’s NOT what we’re about. I can’t think of how that helps anyone, and it feels like some people really have a vendetta about it. Any recs or personal experiences from people?

Hi everyone, I’m sorry for asking this question. I am 29(F) and not very financially savvy in terms of loans and payment plans. I am the first of my family to go beyond high school and I am very blessed to have a doctorate.

I was in deferment until 2025 and I qualify for PSLF. My first year of payments has been $95 which I was so sure was wrong (married since 2023 and filed together since then). I graduated officially in 2024. Here are my details:

Total loan principal: 104k
Outstanding interest: 13k
EdFinancial, mostly unsubsidized but no private loans.
2024 income: 36k with partner in school
2025 income: 85k with partner in school, not really working but part time job
Current income: 110k
PSLF: so far so good, mainly things from 2025 have qualified which is good but I’m worried about missing a payment when nothing is “due” (especially for May)

just a month ago, I submitted a new IBR application and I haven’t received any written correspondence about what my new amount will be. On 4/15 I got a “change in repayment terms” letter that said my payment will stay the same for June, but for July it will go up to 1200. I called immediately and they told me it was wrong and will stay the same. I asked for confirmation in writing and they didn’t send anything.

I called this last Tuesday (because for whatever reason I didn’t have a balance due for May, why??) and the lady told me it would be $500-600 (I don’t remember the exact payment amount). I asked for written confirmation and she said I would get one soon. Today, I’m pretty nervous about it so I chatted with a live agent and it spit out a $443 payment beginning in June, but no written correspondence yet.

I’m so frustrated because I can’t figure out what to ask or how to nail down a consistent number. I just want to make sure I make a payment this month and qualify for PSLF. I feel stupid, and all my colleagues and friends have different loans and servicers and quite frankly, no one is as worried about this as me and I don’t know who to talk to.

TTC here after a MMC two months ago, first pregnancy 💔💐

I started on Nature Made because it checked off all the boxes and later switched to ritual. I used NM pretty much for all of one week and couldn’t handle it so I used Ritual for all of my 11 week pregnancy. When it ended, I saw all the hot discourse on folic acid vs methylfolate, I couldn’t help but think I should’ve prioritized folic acid, which probably wouldn’t have changed the outcome but I’ll never know for sure. ❤️‍🩹

I have already decided to prioritize folic acid in my prenatal for at least TTC and into the first trimester when I get pregnant again, hoping for that to be soon (and btw, no shame in choosing methylfolate!)

Then I remembered, holy shit (literally), Nature Made HURTS my stomach like no joke. Ritual was much softer on my stomach and I miss it. I’m only 2-3 days in and I need to switch to something else.

Love a good bang for my buck option, but going back to ritual is tempting me. What would you do? Are the nature made gummies any different or better? Any luck freezing prenatals (MIL gave me this advice lol) or taking with meals? I already take at night and not helping.

I bought a side sleeper pillow from the nontoxic brand Avocado and I am beyond disappointed. The fluff which is latex and other natural fibers consistently compounds (from the weight of my head) into a hard immovable pillow and my neck is suffering from it because it just won’t hold its shape. They give you extra fluff to adjust/personalize and it seems like more fluff just makes it harder— literally harder against my neck and face. Every night I fluff before going to bed and I end up waking in the middle of night feeling my neck and head sinking instead of feeling supported. I just switched back to my 3 year old Casper pillow and it’s a worlds difference.

I’m super frustrated because I’m outside the warranty and most likely can’t return. I must have purchased in February and I tried making the switch to a nontoxic pillow for pregnancy (not pregnant anymore).

Does anyone have this brand’s pillows? How are you able to make it work for you?