u/Far-Newspaper9276

Posting this on behalf of my male friend.

"My gf 24 F is in the mental hospital for the last 2 months. She has a lot of mental health issues, for which she is on medication. I spoke to her brother recently and found out she had lied to me. She told me she was in a relationship with this man for the last 4 years, before me. She was the one who asked me out and I had said yes to her because I felt really bad for her and wanted to be her friend. I found out she had this one sided crush on a man who wanted nothing to do with her. He had visited her house as her friend and told her brother that I don't want anything with her because I want to focus on my career and I can't give my time to all this. She even lied to me about how this man cheated on her, which was simply untrue as confirmed by her brother and father.

She had lied about being in a 4 year relationship with him when nothing ever happened. She also lied about our mutual friend having a big crush on her, which isn't true when I asked him about it.

She has lied to me about a lot. I only found out when I spoke to her brother and father when she had a panic attack in the hospital and called me.

She was really insistent she wants to date me and I felt too much pressurized to say yes because she wouldn't stop and I am not too experienced when it comes to daring. She is not very bright, she doesn't read books, she doesn't earn, she doesn't talk about anything interesting like having hobbies or passions. I don't blame her as she seems to be dealing with her mental health problems.

I am unemployed due to my own family and health problems. So I never judged her harshly. She posts me on all her social media like I'm some trophy, on her instagram, on her whatsapp DP, everywhere, eventhough I told her to please not to.

Now after I found out about her lies. I decided I don't want to date her. I didn't love her, I was dating her out of pure guilt. Her family told me not to tell her any of this and break up with her because she is in a very vulnerable state.

But I did inform her family and started liking someone else, and so I did breakup with her and started pursuing other people.

She will be released in sometime and her friends have told me that she is about to have a massive panic attack when she finds out as I'm the only thing that matters in her life. But now I'm very happily seeing other people, because I'm not putting my life at a pause just for her sake, and I had no info on the time it might take for her to come out. I had been planning to break up with her for the last 6 months but I kept waiting for her to stabalize mentally which she wasn't. She tried taking her life too. I told her family I'll be friends with her no matter what, but I can't just afford to date her anymore.

How to approach this?"

Been a lurker for long, first time poster. I'm thinking about organizing a pride themed poetry meet in Delhi next weekend. I've seen a lot of people share their poetry and writing on this subreddit. Why not be able to share such stuffs in person? With people you can trust and make friends.

What do you think? Will anyone attend?

I dated this woman for 4 years. When I met her I wasn't attracted to her at all, I wasn't interested in her much, but she went out of her way to do things for me and guilty young me bought into the love bombing and gave her a chance.

I am bi, and she was a lesbian. She was very insecure about her body and it was true that nobody gave her attention until she went above and beyond to prove that she needed it.

She always told me that she wanted to feel beautiful and be in her dark feminine era and that she feels jealous of that attention I get, and she doesn't know how to achieve that, so I did what any good gf does.

I made her a glow up plan.

Literally I would put my face masks and hair masks on her, I made her a skin care routine, a gym routine, a diet, I motivated her when she didn't feel like working out. I worshiped her body like she is some goddess.

She was a stay at home daughter and despite knowing that I have a stressful job and family situation, I still made all the efforts towards caring for her and she continued to tell me that I'm not doing enough and I'm not giving her time.

I believed her so I made even more efforts.

She had her glow up and I moved to a different city while she stayed back.

After 4 months of doing long distance I got to know she is cheating when she sent me a text that wasn't meant for me.

Please don't fall for such manipulative people. Don't lower your standards for anyone, it is better to stay single than to date someone like her.

Some people will only use you for your body and how you can benefit them and you will stop mattering to them once you have served their purposes.

Stop thinking everyone who is nice to you deserves a chance just because they are nice to you.