u/Far_Personality_9516

For me if he starts the conversation with HEY GIRL, COUCOU, CC, SLM, SLT... i lose interest

Sometimes just by his name i lose interest lol

If he replies one hour after to my messages i lose interest

If he talks only about money and work i lose interest

If he is younger than me I lose interest lol

If he talks alot about his appearance and himself in general i lose interest

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Lately, I’ve been desperately trying to find someone through social media. I talked to a few guys and ended up with a whole list of red flags I simply can’t tolerate. Here’s what I’ve learned:

1. Childish behavior: You can tell from the first conversation if he’s mature or not. I once had a guy randomly tell me that he woke up and immediately started working without even going to the bathroom… like, seriously? Even my 5-year-old cousin wouldn’t say that to impress a girl.
2. Not religious, not into movies/shows/books, not the same interests and values: As a religious woman who loves Cinema Books travel cooking..., this is a deal-breaker. At the very least, we should share the same values and at least few hobbies
3. Making financial comparisons: One guy stopped talking to me because I take the bus (I don’t have a car). He said we have “different lifestyles.” Bro… I’m 10 years younger than you. What are you even talking about?
4. Not physically attractive: Let’s be honest, a minimum level of attraction is necessary.
5. Obsessed with his physique: On the other hand, guys who think having a nice pair of biceps is all a woman needs are also a turn-off. I had one who kept talking about how visible the veins in his arms are… I didn’t even ask.
6. Not funny / can’t take jokes: I mean… do I even need to explain this?
7. Acts like he’s the prize: Guys who think you should chase them? Wake up dude.. You’re not Cinderella.
8. Lack of confidence: If you’re too anxious to even talk to a waiter and expect me to order for both of us, then honestly, you need a therapist, not a relationship.
9. Wants to “show you off”: A guy who pressures you to dress or look a certain way just so he can show you off is a huge turn-off.
10. Doubt from the start: The moment you start hesitating about him, it usually means he’s not worth it. If the feelings aren’t there in the beginning, they’re probably not going to magically appear later.