u/Fearless_Barber_3661

Hey everyone,

I know that relatively few patients with schizophrenic disorders do actually have kids and live with them, but maybe i am not the only one?

My (F 48) father (m 78, born 1943) suffered from late onset schizophrenic disorder, starting around his late 30ies, when my sibling and I were around 5 and 9.

Lots of trauma rised from not only my father's disease and behaviour, but also from the boomer generation's way of pretty much faking perfection for the neighbours and having little to no knowledge about mental diseases in general.

So If anyone can relate, i would be glad If you want to share your story.

Hey everyone,

I know that relatively few patients with schizophrenic disorders do actually have kids and live with them, but maybe i am not the only one?

My (F 48) father (m 78, born 1943) suffered from late onset schizophrenic disorder, starting around his late 30ies, when my sibling and I were around 5 and 9.

Lots of trauma rised from not only my father's disease and behaviour, but also from the boomer generation's way of pretty much faking perfection for the neighbours and having little to no knowledge about mental diseases in general.

So If anyone can relate, i would be glad If you want to share your story.

AITA for expecting my sister to keep a promise to my daughter?

My sister promised, entirely on her own, to take my 9-year-old daughter on a 2–3 day hiking trip as a birthday present. My daughter was thrilled—she absolutely adores her aunt.

Finding a date was difficult because we live in different places and I work shifts. My sister also had other plans. I reminded her about the trip before we even managed to celebrate the birthday, because my daughter was really looking forward to it and it needed planning.

Eventually, after quite a bit of planning on my side, we found one weekend. By then, the promised 2–3 days had become one day of hiking. Still, I was happy my daughter would get to do something special with her aunt.

Then the weather forecast turned bad.

My sister suggested cancelling the hike and instead spending a nice weekend at our parents' house—which we already do regularly.

I told her I understood that bad weather might make hiking impossible, but that she would need to reschedule it. I also told her I was hurt that I had to keep reminding her about a trip that was her idea in the first place, and that it felt like my daughter and I were low on her list of priorities.

Her response was that she is making an effort because she could have gone to a festival that weekend but chose not to. She also said her upcoming van trip is a priority.

I snapped and said I'd just take my daughter camping near home with one of her friends instead.

My sister says I'm overreacting. She then offered to spend the weekend with my daughter at her current short-term partner instead, which will need lots of explaining to my daughter.

I love my sister, and my daughter absolutely adores her. I'm sure she loves us too. But this isn't the first time I've felt like I have to bend over backwards to make time together happen.

So, AITA for expecting my sister to either follow through with the hiking trip or properly reschedule it?

TL;DR: My sister promised my daughter a 2–3 day hiking trip for her birthday. After scheduling issues and lots of planning, it became one day and is now being cancelled because of bad weather. She suggested our usual family weekend instead. I'm hurt because I feel my daughter isn't a priority, especially since the trip was her idea. AITA for expecting her to follow through or reschedule?

Leute ich muß einfach Mal ne Runde angeben, ich hoffe, jemand von Euch hat Bock drauf.

F,48, seit Januar im Gym, Kraftsport - Anfängerin, BMI knapp 30 gewesen. Nicht fit und nicht gut drauf gewesen davor, schlapp, unbeweglich , übergewichtig.

Einfach mal losgelegt und festgestellt, es macht supergute Laune.

Heute seit 10 Jahren mal die Gelegenheit genutzt, im Freibad richtig Bahnen zu schwimmen. Spontan überlegt, ich könnte mal den goldenen Freischwimmer machen eigentlich um mein Kind zu motivieren.

Kraulen müsste ich üben dafür, aber keine Ohrenstöpsel dabei und ohne ist kacke.

Gut, dann kraul ich halt mit beiden Armen gleichzeitig und Kopf bleibt immer grade - aus dem Stehgreif einfach mal 100 m Schmetterling geschwommen, richtig Spaß gehabt.

Noch nie im Leben gemacht vorher.

Komme erst abends dazu, drüber nachdenken - hey ich hab das vor Jahren mal getestet aber war nach paar Zügen raus (warum wohl ;) )

Google nach der richtigen Beintechnik, steht da, wie anstrengend Schmetterling doch wäre und ich:

Was zur Hölle - ICH hab das gemacht??? Ich und anstrengend? Ich und Kraftausdauer????

Fragt nicht nach der Technik, sah sicher grottig aus und Beinarbeit locker die Hälfte falsch gemacht.

Ich hab noch Kilos loszuwerden, ich hab noch Cellulite loszuwerden, ich hab noch richtig was zu tun.

Aber ich bin verdammt nochmal von null auf hundert im Schmetterling geschwommen 🎉

Hört einfach nie auf, anzufangen, wenn ich das kann, könnt Ihr es erst Recht!

Hey,

ich bin 48 (F).

Früher hatte ich perfekte Arme, schlank und fest. Was ich dafür gemacht habe war: original gar nichts/jung sein.

Inzwischen ist das ein Gelabber bei mir, und ein paar Kilo zuviel habe ich sowieso (noch) überall, Oberarme also eher schlapp und dick.

Seit 3 Monaten im Gym, viel Spaß dabei - aber es gibt superwenig Frauen, die dort ihre Arme trainieren, drum frage ich hier:

wie sieht mein optimaler Arm-Workout aus? Aktuell trainiere ich vor allem den Trizeps, weil ich nicht will, daß meine Oberarme noch dicker werden als eh schon, aber taugt das was?

Danke für Tipps! Gerne mit konkreten Angaben zu Reps etc, wie gesagt, bin relativ neu in dem Business.